Saying No

What Do We Lose When We Try To Have It All?

Tracy Gillett | Posted 06.23.2016 | Canada Parents
Tracy Gillett

We accept life is irreversibly transformed and some parts of our pre-children lives are forever lost. It's hard to do -- life was simple and straightforward before kids and it's healthy to admit we miss it. It doesn't make us ungrateful parents, it makes us human. It means we're honest.

Are You Being Selfish Enough At Work?

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 04.26.2016 | Canada Business
Sarah Vermunt

The word "selfish" has a bad rap. I get it. Being "concerned chiefly or only with yourself" seems like kind of an asshole move, but is that always the case? I don't think so. The "Screw you, suckers!" variety of selfishness deserves its critics, but what about the kind of selfishness that simply means you're putting yourself first?

Self-Care Is The New Feminism

Brigid Dineen | Posted 03.18.2016 | Canada Living
Brigid Dineen

We have the right to want more. We deserve to have space for ourselves in our lives. Self-care is the ground floor of the revolution. This is where we begin to reclaim our lives, even in the midst of a chaotic and complicated world. And that, my love, is life-changing.

Setting Personal Boundaries: Learning to Say No

Collette Gee | Posted 01.26.2016 | Canada Living
Collette Gee

Boundaries help us define who we are and provides us with a definite sense of self. While setting boundaries and learning to say no is an ideal opportunity to gain a sense of self, it also helps us to rediscover who we are, our personal values, and what's important to us. Most people have a hard time setting personal boundaries, particularly within their relationships.

The Benefits Of Saying 'No'

Bianca Bujan | Posted 10.21.2015 | Canada Parents
Bianca Bujan

Saying no to your children can be a teaching moment - an opportunity to learn about responsibility and how to deal with disappointment. It can free up some time for the things that you really want to do, and can alleviate a lot of the stress that comes with being a parent.

Are You a Total Pushover? How to Change That Right Now

Andrew Tai | Posted 05.11.2016 | Canada Living
Andrew Tai

Whether you are at your home, workplace or among friends, failing to assert yourself can hold you back from success. Here are some tips that will help you assess if you are indeed a pushover and some advice on how to grow into a more assertive individual.

Saying Yes to Your Passion Can Mean Saying No to Others

Betty Ann Heggie | Posted 06.03.2014 | Canada Living
Betty Ann Heggie

It's the time we clean our closets to get rid of things that no longer work, hoping to add something bright and colourful. By following that same practice with our behaviours we can live a more expansive and rewarding life. Start by learning to say yes to your passions and no to things that get in the way, especially items on another's agenda!

Three Guilt-Free Ways to Say "No"

Kelsey Ramsden | Posted 05.04.2014 | Canada Living
Kelsey Ramsden

I have said yes to things that I had no business saying yes to. Things I had no time for, no interest in, could not afford...all manner of yesses have slid past my lips so I feel confident in saying that I have been around the yes-block and have come back with a better roadmap than when I started. Here are the three ways you can say no, guilt free.

Do What Gives You Energy and Drop the Rest

Betty Ann Heggie | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Betty Ann Heggie

It's a fast-paced world and women work hard. We have homes to maintain, families to care for and demanding jobs. All this takes mountains of energy yet we continue to spend time on things that don't really interest or support us. It's time for women to cut to the chase and do the things that give us energy while getting rid of the rest.

Let Go of Fear and Guilt and Say "No"

Betty Ann Heggie | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Betty Ann Heggie

Do you have a difficult time saying "no" to family and friends? By saying "yes" to everyone, you are recklessly giving away all your valuable energy. If you have trouble saying no, it could be that you are motivated by a genuine desire to help but it could also be that you are acting out of fear or guilt.

Slow Down Before You Burn Out

Anne Day | Posted 04.19.2013 | Canada Business
Anne Day

People often comment that they don't know how I manage it all. But you know what, I am not so sure that I do. Yes, I juggle a lot. Yes, I am high energy. But there are weeks, like this one, when I want to stop being the hamster on the treadmill. Maybe it's time to get off.

Knowing How to Say No

Sue Jacques | Posted 03.30.2013 | Canada Alberta
Sue Jacques

Like many of us, I used to be a Yes-person, agreeing to do things I knew were either out of my realm, a strain on my schedule, or of absolutely of no interest to me. All that changed after a recent experience that led to an epiphany about another way to say no.

Taylor Swift Taught me to Start Saying "Never"

Tikva Hecht | Posted 11.25.2012 | Canada Living
Tikva Hecht

The radio's been playing Taylor Swift's "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together" over and over for weeks. As Taylor Swift demonstrates with a vengeance, you damn well better start saying Never. And not just Never to wasteful things and negative influences but Never to people and prospects you greatly admire, even love, would trade your right arm to be connected to. Internalizing that is probably one of the most important things I've gained from my twenties.