Self Esteem

Dysfunctional Divorce Leads to Dysfunctional Children

Andrew Feldstein | Posted 10.09.2014 | Canada Living
Andrew Feldstein

What divorcing spouses and partners don't realize is there are very real consequences of dysfunctional divorce that affect mental, emotional, and developmental well-being and behaviour of children. The effects of divorce trauma become more pronounced the longer a divorce drags on. And two or five years in the life of a child is a huge percentage of time.

How Posting Selfies Can Boost Your Self-Esteem

Jacki Andre | Posted 10.21.2014 | Canada Living
Jacki Andre

I don't like pictures of myself, and I did a lot of self-reflection about that during the selfie project. The rules for the Selfie Project were simple: post at least five selfies on Facebook over the course of a week and talk to me about the experience afterwards. I don't consider myself "attractive" in any way the idea is bounced around: cute, pretty, beautiful, sexy. I am not alone.

96 Women We Need To See In The Media (NSFW)

The Huffington Post Canada | Isabelle Khoo | Posted 08.14.2014 | Canada Style

We all know the type of woman the media loves to represent – tall and thin equals "perfect." Unfortunately, she doesn’t reflect what the majority ...

Need A Self-Esteem Boost? Keep Reading

AFP/Relaxnews | Posted 06.30.2014 | Canada Living

Being open to positive remarks from friends and family, even during a rough patch, is important for self-esteem, according to researchers at Waterloo ...

To My Four-Year-Old Daughter: I'm Sorry

Dr. Carolyn Ee | Posted 08.16.2014 | Canada Living
Dr. Carolyn Ee

My dearest little girl, sometimes I forget that you're only four years old. Actually, a month ago you were just three. Maybe I expect too much from you at times because you're a big sister now. Maybe it's because I just haven't taken the time and effort to see things from your bright little eyes. But my darling, I am slowly learning to do exactly this, and I'm sorry I sometimes forget.

Why We Should Stop Calling People "Crazy"

Lauren Messervey | Posted 07.19.2014 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

Out of all of the terms to be re-addressed in light of recent mental health awareness, "crazy" should be the first to go. It has become verbal leprosy, a warning to all of those who witness it for fear of spreading its sickness. A crazy girl or boy is to be avoided at all cost.

Redefine Your Own Beauty

Darlena Cunha | Posted 07.03.2014 | Canada Living
Darlena Cunha

Quite a few years ago, now, I had a slight moment of fame. I was driving to work (yeah, I used to work!) and on my 45-minute commute, I heard the morn...

Why Are Canadian Kids So Stressed Out?

Stuart Shanker | Posted 06.10.2014 | Canada Living
Stuart Shanker

When a child's stress levels are too high various systems for thinking and metabolic recovery are compromised. The signs of when this is happening show up in the child's behaviour, or mood, or attention, or for that matter, physical well-being. Canadian children are dealing with far too much stress today.

Why It's Getting Harder For Women To Love Their Bodies

Trina Read | Posted 06.08.2014 | Canada Living
Trina Read

There is definitely a disconnect between love-your-body theory and reality. Women nod their heads sagely having heard all this information before, then look at themselves in the mirror and go back into the same negative self-talk. And sadly from my standpoint, women's body image has only gotten worse over the last 10 years.

What a Difference a Year Makes: The Unbearable Lightness of Being a Teen

Jennifer Pellegrini | Posted 05.30.2014 | Canada Living
Jennifer Pellegrini

A year ago, I sat at my laptop at the dining room table and hammered out a long list of things I thought it was important for my daughter to know. W...

Shaming Criminals Could Reduce Crime

Diane Weber Bederman | Posted 05.25.2014 | Canada Living
Diane Weber Bederman

Whatever happened to shame? It got put out away in a basket, somewhere in a very deep drawer, covered with other obsolete items, like religion. Do you think that other gang members would want to end up in the pillories, too? Would they want to emulate someone who has been shamed in public, ridiculed, too?

How Parenting Relates to Business

Anne Day | Posted 04.16.2014 | Canada Living
Anne Day

Years ago in another life, I used to teach a parenting course and lately I am finding that the lessons I learned and taught in that program have some relevance to what I see today, and especially in running a business.

Why We Should Start Thinking of Rob Ford as a Human Being

Leah Morrigan | Posted 03.17.2014 | Canada Politics
Leah Morrigan

How could we help him feel better about himself so he does a better job for our city? As hard as it may be for some of us to swallow, we could try to lose the blame and the judgement and throw him some slack. Why? When people treat us well, the better we feel, and the better we feel, the better we behave.

I Could Have Been a Honey Boo-Boo (or Why I'm Glad My Mother Saved Me from Pageants)

Lauren Messervey | Posted 03.03.2014 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

In time, all of my pageant friends became so obsessed with their appearances that they made every woman who walked down the street into a comparison, celebrating when they discovered that they were still the "fairest of them all" and reaching a near breakdown when a long-legged stranger made them feel as though there was more work to be done. A petite blond at a cafe immediately made them "fat." A girl with acne made them scoff and cackle like hens. In time, the side show of pageantry bled off into their every day lives with such vehemence that each moment became a graceless performance.

Fat Isn't Offensive -- Using it as an Insult Is

Marci Warhaft-Nadler | Posted 02.19.2014 | Canada Living
Marci Warhaft-Nadler

Why should the word fat be illegal? It's not offensive unless we make it offensive. Try this: instead of banning fat talk from your home, invite it in with the understanding that the second it starts to get mean, it will be asked to hit the road. Fat isn't offensive, using it as an insult is.

Don't Worry About Caroline Eriksen's Body, Celebrate Your Own

Marci Warhaft-Nadler | Posted 02.02.2014 | Canada Living
Marci Warhaft-Nadler

Thanks to Caroline Berg Eriksen's post-pregnancy selfie that she took just four days after giving birth to her daughter we have been pulled back into the "what should women's bodies look like?" debate. Let's stop paying so much attention to the bodies that we can't relate to and start embracing, celebrating and taking care of the ones we do.

If You Can't Brag About Yourself Find Someone Who Will

Carolyn Lawrence | Posted 01.25.2014 | Canada Business
Carolyn Lawrence

It's been said that women don't raise their hand enough for something they're not absolutely sure they can do. Our champions are people who know us. And our champions are awesome because they tell people how great we are, for us. If you're not going to do it, well, you better get out there and find someone who will.

I've Wasted Most of My Life Hating My Nose -- No More

Anne Theriault | Posted 01.23.2014 | Canada Living
Anne Theriault

I've been thinking a lot about this interview with Lisa Kudrow about the nose job she got when she was in high school. My first thought is that I want to go back in time and hug teenaged Lisa Kudrow. Most of all, I want to tell her that I get it, because I've been there. I feel sad that I've spent most of my adult life feeling so goddamn unattractive.

In Defence of the Selfie: Narcissistic Body Positivity

Elizabeth Hawksworth | Posted 12.28.2013 | Canada Living
Elizabeth Hawksworth

Selfies, to me, are narcissistic. There's no denying that. But they also show the world who I feel like I really am inside. I am a great selfie taker; I get all my best angles because I know to look for them. The photos I produce are ones I'm proud of. For me, selfies document my journey with my own self-acceptance.

Why I Never Felt Beautiful and Now I Do

Natalie Karneef | Posted 11.22.2013 | Canada Living
Natalie Karneef

One thousand people could tell you you're beautiful and you'd never believe it. That it's like the difference For the first time, you understand that it won't come from lists of affirmations, or ashtanga yoga, or expensive makeup. It will only come from your heart. And it never has.

Dear Mom, Believe Me When I Say You're Beautiful

Eternity E Martis | Posted 11.12.2013 | Canada Living
Eternity E Martis

My mother came out of the clothing store change room wearing a long-sleeved pink sweatshirt. When she came out, smiling at me, I could tell she felt confident. Her smile vanished the second she saw herself. "I look fat." It's a difficult feeling to describe, when you see your mother so wounded by her own reflection.

Do You Suffer From Impostor Syndrome?

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 11.05.2013 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

Impostor syndrome is the fear of being found out or discovered as stupid or unworthy. I don't consider myself to be someone with especially low self-esteem, but I have often felt like an impostor among very intelligent and accomplished people, and especially around individuals with elegant, show-stopping vocabularies.

What Kind of Facebook Personality Are You?

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 10.18.2013 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

A recent study says that Facebook may undermine your well-being. Your own Facebook activity may offer clues about your mental health. Are you a dumper? A chronic comparer? A spinner? Read on to see which Facebook profile you fit.

Hillary Clinton's Advice On Taking Criticism

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 09.16.2013 | Canada
Sarah Vermunt

A few weeks ago, in the company of 5,000 other women, I heard Hillary Clinton offer advice I took to heart. She said, "Take criticism seriously, but not personally". For such a simple sentiment, it struck me as profound. In fact, it's not too much of a stretch to say that those six words knocked our collective socks off. The room grew rather still. I could tell that there were other recovering perfectionists, like myself, in the room for whom that struck home.

Respect Athletes for Their Talents, Not Their Looks

Marci Warhaft-Nadler | Posted 09.11.2013 | Canada Living
Marci Warhaft-Nadler

This isn't about whether or not Marion Bartoli is attractive, this is about the fact that it just shouldn't matter. She won at Wimbledon! I'm disgusted that there's more discussion going on about where she ranks on the "sexy meter" than any of her matches.