My sister Yasmin took this picture on Jan 7, 2013. It was after my six-hour long emergency brain surgery. No one knew if I would wake up, but she took this picture. After months of living in the hospital and doing more weeks of therapy that I can count, I did recover from having a stroke and brain surgery.
If you are anything like me, (and you probably are because I read like one article on the success rate of New Year's resolutions and it was very dismal, like don't even bother reading the research because I think we all know in our hearts what it says and it's just going to make you feel worse) then join me in participating in these "Easily Attainable and totally realistic New Year's resolutions for People who already fucked up but still want something to brag about on Social Media!"
The ability to pursue goals effectively is critical for sustaining positive change -- it's important to get it right. This blog highlights strategies that researchers have found to be helpful in leading positive personal and societal change, including goal type, monitoring progress, and motivating others to take action.
I guess one could say that my professional background makes me well qualified for this parenting job, but I must admit that I have had my fair share of humbling moments when it comes to parenting. Sometimes I have moments when I feel I rock it as a parent, and then other moments when I hang my head and know I could have handled something much better. Yes, there is certainly room for improvement.
Just like any time you check in with a friend you haven't seen in a very long time, interactions can be awkward at first. Unmet expectations and feelings of loss are a definite possibility. These characters have been suspended in reruns for almost a decade and all of a sudden, they've arrived in our present. They're using smartphones for god sakes! If they don't act how we expect them to, our intimate relationship with them and the show is at risk. I have no doubt it will all take some getting used to.
The average college freshman changes their major seven times. It's okay if you don't know what to be. But work on finding out what you want. Childhood was the time for well-rounded approaches, but as a young adult, you'll need to narrow your focus in order to achieve excellence. Getting by will not attract the right connections and opportunities you'll need to enter the job market.
Asking for help is hard! Accepting the help is even harder. On the path to getting better, the first thing anyone needs to do is acknowledge the state of their mental health. Teenagers use different ways to ask for help when in crisis. I encourage all teenagers to verbalize the need for help when under distress. We often find ourselves overwhelmed with tremendous stress before we ask for help.
September is here, and with the arrival of the cooler crisp air and changing colours we are adjusting to getting back into the comfort of our familiar routines. Getting back into the swing of things can be quite hectic after a summer of relaxation -- holidays are over, kids are back at school, school year activities begin and your personal time is minimal.
Whether we want to admit it to ourselves or not, the summer is coming to an end and young people everywhere are gearing up to go back to school. It can be an exciting time but also a stressful time, especially for those of you who are going into university/college or a new school for the first time.
You are successful. People look to you to solve their problems. You love it! You've worked hard to get where you are. It's not just what you do that's great; it's also the type of person you try to be, every day. Then, someone comes along who undermines you, makes confusing passive-aggressive comments or just plain avoids responsibility. They break promises and have all types of excuses.
There's been an incredible shift in the way I see myself. Having recently committed to pursuing training as a life coach, I've become obsessed with the nuances of the human condition and the monsters we have the potential to become in our attacks on others, but perhaps even more frightening and universal, in the attacks on ourselves.
The true power of the video and the reason why so many people watched it, was the fact that Candace Payne was able to laugh out loud without an ounce of self-consciousness. Ms. Payne was willing to look silly online, and I think that this ability to be so authentic and free was the real reason why her video got over 140 million views.
After a lot of self-work and love, I dropped the crap and chose to love myself, every wrinkle, every imperfection inside and out. This form of self-love is what we could be spreading, as opposed to fear of aging and the fear of ending up alone. We were born alone, and we will die alone, whether or not you have a husband and kids, this is true for all of us.
Sometimes we, as strong and independent individuals, want to believe that we can face the storm single-handedly, but having supportive friends makes all the difference. As Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook and a strong advocate of women's leadership, says, we are more effective and productive once we have a support group.
As I approach 30 at the end of June, I am thankful. So thankful. I should have died at the age of 23 following three massive seizures due to failing kidneys. As I approach the fourth decade of my life, I can't help reflecting on the things I've learned so far. Whenever we are about to celebrate a milestone birthday, many of us become reflective on the decade that we are about to close the chapter on.
I have a group of women in my life who can draw on their personal and professional expertise to advise me on everything from decorating to divorce law to the DSM-5. In turn, I'm the go-to person on moving, critical thinking, and how to source a vintage designer bag. I've found that it's so much easier to "do life together" and draw on each other's experience, than for each of us to try to master everything on our own.
I can think of many times when I ignored what I saw in a person or a situation. Initially, it seems so much easier to see what we prefer to see, rather than face the unpleasant truth of what's actually there. Still, what I've realized is that no matter how difficult it is to acknowledge the signs of trouble in our relationships or environment, it's always better to do so.
Some people are extremely creative and productive. They're prolific writers, painters and musicians; they're visionary designers, architects and speakers. It's as though they experience no obstacles to producing a constant flow of high-quality work. Some people are just lucky and their productivity comes naturally. The rest of us can learn their secrets and discover, for ourselves, that amazing state of flow.