Sometimes we, as strong and independent individuals, want to believe that we can face the storm single-handedly, but having supportive friends makes all the difference. As Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook and a strong advocate of women's leadership, says, we are more effective and productive once we have a support group.
Listening to a friend talk about their divorce, I pause and think -- this all sounds familiar. My friend details the lead up to her separation and there are so many similarities it's a bit unnerving. Same actions, same words, same behaviour. How is that possible? Turns out similarities are not even unusual but predictable, right down to the language a departing spouse might use.
Some people are extremely creative and productive. They're prolific writers, painters and musicians; they're visionary designers, architects and speakers. It's as though they experience no obstacles to producing a constant flow of high-quality work. Some people are just lucky and their productivity comes naturally. The rest of us can learn their secrets and discover, for ourselves, that amazing state of flow.
When you teach your child "calm breathing," you are using a technique that works to slow down his/her breathing, combating upset, stressed and anxious feelings. Teaching a child to use calm breathing to regulate their emotions is important because it shows them how to change their breathing to minimize the effects of their emotions.
Have you been studying a language for a while? Are you still afraid to speak? Follow the Language Learner's Manifesto and become confident and fluent in your chosen language. Repeat the following mantra daily: "My goal is to be fluent. I can be fluent. My goal is not to be perfect. My goal is to be fluent. I can be fluent and still make mistakes."
It is my belief that good counselling can provide a much-needed service in our modern world, but therapy needs to grow and adapt with the times. We have a society filled with very busy, potentially stressed people who want concrete results and some who still fear being stigmatized by seeking therapy or having to go to the "head shrinker."
Human beings are learning machines. We spend our lives learning. We can't help but learn. The only question is what we will learn and how it will affect our lives. Unfortunately we have been conditioned by the school system to think that learning can only take place in a classroom. We need to take charge of our own learning.
Instead of trying to do something massively challenging, you try getting yourself where you want to go one little step at a time. A friend of mine has been unwittingly proving how well this works. He wanted a chance to play his bass guitar, so he set up a space in his house for the necessary amps, mics and a drum kit. And here's what happened.