Body-positive activist Jessamyn Stanley on her journey to self-acceptance.
Let's go back - August 2016. I've decided to take the evening to myself and de-stress. After leaving my corporate job to build my own company six months earlier, anxiety and stress levels are quite hi...
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Proving self-love is so, so important.
We take the descriptor "straight acting" in our community and hold it up like a holy grail. If we can achieve this goal, we will finally be able to hide through camouflage. We are the beautifully broken, a cast of misfits simultaneously fighting ourselves, other gay men, and society, in a quest for survival.
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Rachel Spencer shared a bikini photo of herself when she was 13. And 26.
The main problem I faced was a distorted belief system. I felt that love came with accomplishments and accolades. I didn't believe that I was good enough to love as is. When love is missing, a lot of negative stuff comes out of the woodwork: anger, resentment, fear, jealousy.
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Love doesn't come in one size.
She wants people to understand curvy women are REAL women.
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"I don't even look like this."
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What I am saying is, when you make a choice that your future self will not be proud of, lean into the fall and learn from every choice -- both positive and negative. Work to understand your personal triggers and coping mechanisms so that you evolve into the healthier and fitter future self you want to be.
These tips will help you move towards self-acceptance, wherever you’re starting from.
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"Now what others would perceive as an imperfection I have made into something more beautiful."
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"You are fully entitled to express yourself in whatever way you'd like."
Standing for hours on end -- as a professional chef, bartender, butcher, home economist or cheese monger -- is hard on the body. Standing, lifting, bending, and twisting for hours on end, often with less-than-ideal posture, frequently results in achy legs and feet, a sore back, and stiff almost arthritic-feeling hands.
Having relationship problems keeps us in a stress response and irrational fears can sneak into how we perceive simple requests or exchanges at work. So, let's treat Valentine's Day like a do-over for that New Year's resolution on improving our relationships.
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What are your plans this Valentine's Day? If you want to treat that special someone to a dinner that will fill their heart (and stomach) with love, then we can help.
Perfect as a romantic gesture, or a special something to make the day of a teacher, a friend, and of course the kids, there is nothing like a homemade gift to show someone you're thinking about them. And let's be honest -- who can resist a sweet treat? So get ready to make hearts melt with these perfect little recipes.
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North America's culture of fear and hate has again been unmasked and there are people of all ages, both near and far, being discriminated against because of who they love, what they look like, the type of reproductive organs they were born with and the god to which they pray.
Are you constantly on and off your fitness horse? Instead of getting back on and hoping for different results, rethink your strategy. Ask yourself, "What has and has not worked in the past?" Pinpoint the valuable lessons and work to reproduce successful approaches. Abandon anything else.
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My sister Yasmin took this picture on Jan 7, 2013. It was after my six-hour long emergency brain surgery. No one knew if I would wake up, but she took this picture. After months of living in the hospital and doing more weeks of therapy that I can count, I did recover from having a stroke and brain surgery.
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The holidays can be great for some, but for me, and many people I know, they are more of a nightmare. So how do we move past this? I am going to share with you a couple ideas that I have had that have worked for me ( they may not work for everyone). I am sharing these things in the interest of conversation.
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I have spent over 14 years hiding this "tiny" part of my life, and it is now, only after writing my memoir, that I've realized that by hiding, I've been chipping away at my heart. I decided that I didn't want to hide anymore. I realized in that moment that I should have SHARED my pain instead of hiding.
If you are anything like me and you've been quietly sweeping your fears and lethargy under the self-care rug, I encourage you to take stock of the motivations behind it. Self-care only works if you're actually caring for yourself and not just letting yourself off the hook.
This yo-yo or extreme dieting may be seen as harmless or even vain but we must recognize it stems from a very dangerous place. Negative body image is the negative self-perception of your body. It is often accompanied by shame; the unworthiness we feel due to our flaws. This combination of negative body image and shame is what leads us to take desperate measures with our bodies.
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"Black and proud. All ways, always."
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Not too long ago I was in a mall. I'm hardly ever in malls. I was running around, trying to complete my 503 errands and I found myself walking really fast to a place called nowhere. I grabbed a scoop...
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I'm currently taking a refresher course on dealing with aggressiveness in someone we want to have a relationship with. When someone tells me that they are chronically being treated aggressively, it is...
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September is here, and with the arrival of the cooler crisp air and changing colours we are adjusting to getting back into the comfort of our familiar routines. Getting back into the swing of things can be quite hectic after a summer of relaxation -- holidays are over, kids are back at school, school year activities begin and your personal time is minimal.
I desperately tried to HIDE my story. After my stroke, I hated the attention I received. I was lucky to have had a successful recovery but I did not understand why it was such a big deal, why newspapers wanted to write about it and why every single person I saw would make it the focus of a conversation.