My preferring not to have intercourse might be less about a distaste for the actual act (or pain, or boredom) than it is about the way in which too many guys approach it, not just as the endgame but as the only way to truly score.
Go, have sex with your spouse, and even try to enjoy it. And tell me if your marriage doesn't get just a bit closer and more connected, in spite of yourself.
As I learned in the trenches, the only thing keeping each of us back from satisfaction is our unwillingness to say yes to adventure that scares us and shakes our comfortable status quo.
You would be surprised how painful sexual rejection is for men. Often, I see couples in which the man still remembers and is hurt by a sexual rejection occurring even years ago, at the start of the relationship.
During this age of social media and communicating electronically it is not unusual to get break-up messages electronically. It's a shame but it is not at all unusual.
Joy has got to be the biggest turn on there is. You can feel it when someone enters a room and they are glowing with their own inner happiness. If you've got the joy to reflect it back to them, then perhaps you are both on your way to joy in life and joy in the bedroom.
As to whether or not you can experience orgasms (awake or asleep) before you've started having sex, the answer is another resounding YES! Yes, yes, yes, yes, oh, yeeeeeesssssssss! Again, we're getting the feeling you're under the impression that your sexuality doesn't get ignited until some other person has sex with you. Not true.
For years, I've been adamant about the advantages of an open relationship. I've seen monogamy as a viable choice -- but for others. And, without resistance, for the first time in decades, I find myself giving myself fully to just one man.
Recently a blogger of note accused me of 'pandering to men'. Keep in mind that 'pander', to be precise, means to 'gratify or indulge (an immoral or distasteful desire, need, or habit of a person with such a desire).'
Online foreplay is a conversation that allows individuals to mutually share their fantasies and sexual wants. Users can erotically turn each other on while trying to express their desires and sexual practices. This online foreplay becomes a way to negotiate one's sex life.
Used incorrectly, texts can toss a promising romance into the garbage disposal and flick the switch on your hopes and dreams. Used correctly, flirty text messages can get you the love of your life or, at the very least, some serious action.
Transition isn't limited to the trans person -- parents experience a transition as well. Our transition was trying to construct a new understanding of how the person we had known to be our daughter could now be our son.
Your daughters may feel pretty or less than pretty, but I think that what they are really asking is whether or not they are acceptable and fit in.
Sexual energy and creative energy are so strongly connected that they impact each other profoundly. Here are some ideas on how you can harness your sexual energy to help channel it toward your creative dreams and ultimately get them off the ground.
If I had a nickel for every time I heard a man say that "unlike most guys," he "really likes" to go down on women, I would have enough nickels to build a life size statue of a man going down on a woman. And then I would auction it off on eBay, because I have children, for God's sake.
Yes, there was something wrong, but it wasn't with me, and my cyber sex was nothing more than a symptom of something bigger. It was my way of showing that I felt out of control and helpless.