Sexual Abuse

How Eating Disorders Impact Sexuality

Lyba Spring | Posted 11.23.2015 | Canada Living
Lyba Spring

There is an association between low BMI and loss of libido, sexual anxiety and sexual relationships. These findings are consistent with the explanation that low body weight impairs the physiological functioning of sexual organs.

I Am Living Proof There Can Be Hope After Trauma

Street Haven | Posted 11.19.2015 | Canada Living
Street Haven

To everyone around me, it looked like our family had it all. The truth was that I lived in a house that was filthy and piled high with debris and animal waste. I was 11years old when my father began to sexually abuse me. I had become accustomed to keeping so many secrets by then that I just added this one to the list. I hoped the abuse would stop. I was terrified and lonely. I am living proof that it takes a community to lift a person up. The day I left my abusive family home was the day I stepped into uncertainty and poverty.

Society Is Silent When The Victims Are Black And Female | Posted 11.10.2015 | Canada Impact

With the current trial of fired Oklahoma City police officer Daniel Holtzclaw, there is a marked difference in how this particular case of police brutality has been regarded, leading some to ask, "Does the world care about the victim when the victim is a black woman?"

I Am a Survivor of Sexual Abuse in the Tamil Community

TamilCulture | Posted 10.21.2015 | Canada Living

My experiences of childhood sexual abuse -- of incest -- had stolen many aspects of my life but most importantly, my identity as a Tamil woman. After I moved out, I was shunned not only from my immediate family members, but my uncles, aunts, cousins, distant relatives, family friends -- my Tamil community. It didn't matter to my 19-year-old self why you weren't there for me. The fact of the matter was that you weren't. I felt hurt and abandoned.

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar Are Possibly the Worst Parents in America

Lauren Messervey | Posted 09.02.2015 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

I am not by any means condoning Josh Duggar's behaviour. His actions have been reprehensible. What I am doing is pointing out an all too familiar calling card that has been handed out time and time again by the same backwards religious fanatics that America calls its own. Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have failed utterly as parents by refraining from doing one thing: protecting their children.

She Was Sexually Abused. Now She's Helping Others Heal. | Neil Morton | Posted 07.09.2015 | Canada Living

Kryslyn Antsey has posted one of the more powerful videos on sexual assault and abuse awareness you'll ever watch. In the video — which you can w...

What the Duggar Family Teaches Us About Sexual Abuse

Marcia Sirota | Posted 06.07.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

The truth is, I've never watched the Duggar family on TV. Still, with all the current media coverage, it's impossible not to be aware of the fact that the eldest son Josh has confessed to inappropriate sexual behaviour, as a teenager, toward four of his sisters and a babysitter. I work with victims of sexual abuse every day in my psychotherapy practice, so I feel I have some insight into the subject at hand. Instead of adding to the judgements in favour of or against the family, I thought that it would be a good idea to look for the learning opportunities here.

Dalhousie Dentistry Forgot About the Dangers of Social Media

Lauren Messervey | Posted 03.10.2015 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

Though I am about as much of a dentist as I am a squirrel, the Dalhousie Dentistry scandal cannot be ignored, even by a humble B.F.A, such as myself. Of course, I was outraged by the misogynistic nature of a Facebook page that was created for the express purpose of debasing women within the dentistry program. However, the first thought that ran through my mind wasn't outrage over their sexist remarks.

We Can't Stop Violence Against Women If We Love Celebrity Abusers

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 01.25.2015 | Canada Living
Sandra Hawken Diaz

Sure there are stars who saw temporary road bumps in their career for their publicized violence against women like Roman Polanski, Mel Gibson, Chris Brown, Tommy Lee, Ike Turner, Bobby Brown and Nicholas Cage. But most of them bounced back and continue to have devoted fans. What message does that send to women who have been abused? That their life is not as important as a great film or song or game or show? What does it say about each of us that we likely have admitted to appreciating the talent of at least one famous abuser?

Let's Prevent Harassment By Ending the Reign of 'Nice'

Clare Beckton | Posted 01.24.2015 | Canada Living
Clare Beckton

It is time to end the reign of "nice" and to recognize that both men and women suffer from this tyranny of harassment and feelings of powerlessness. If women try to be nice to avoid problems and disruption of relationships, men may misunderstand and continue the harassment or it may embolden them to continue, not fearing any consequences for their actions.

Disbelief Is Rape Culture's Strongest Ally

Olivia Collette | Posted 01.11.2015 | Canada Living
Olivia Collette

It's normal that we don't want to believe the absolute worst about ourselves, but until we come to terms with how we create and participate in what we are, we can't possibly expect to correct any injustices.

I Am a Liberal and I Do Not Approve of Lena Dunham's Actions

Angela Hartlin | Posted 01.07.2015 | Canada Living
Angela Hartlin

Examining her very words unveils very destructive, manipulative, and sometimes sadistic behaviours that are, in my opinion, alarming. The controversial sexual abuse she may or may not have inflicted on her sister is what's making the headlines, not the blatant control issues she has and a lack of boundaries she exhibits with her sister. The focus should not about left or right but more about wrong or right.

Why We Need To Remove the Stigma Around Men Who Seek Therapy

Carlen Costa | Posted 01.03.2015 | Canada Living
Carlen Costa

I started by telling you about my own experience in the world of abuse. I did this because those experiences are what helped me understand the importance of healing in light of a frightening situation. These women -- our sisters -- need our support and understanding to heal. But we cannot forget the men. At some point we are going to have to turn around and help heal this man. Many will think he is undeserving, but he too experienced trauma in his life which he has had to cope with. I'm not talking about forgiveness, I'm talking about compassion.

What Mothers Need To Teach Their Sons About Sex

Sue Nador | Posted 01.02.2015 | Canada Living
Sue Nador

The Ghomeshi story is a very good reminder about the role mothers need to play in educating our sons early and often about sex and relationships. While both parents share responsibility for sex education, I think there are some areas in which moms have more street credibility.

Even As a Rape Survivor, I Was Swayed by Celebrity Status Before Knowing the Facts

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 12.29.2014 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

What I find most shocking is that even though I am a survivor of rape and childhood sexual abuse, I was so easily swayed by the aura of power, prestige, and celebrity, as I quickly passed judgment before all of the facts have come out.

Pray for the Kidnapped Nigerian Schoolgirls

Debbie Wolfe | Posted 07.10.2014 | Canada
Debbie Wolfe

With every day that passes, the Nigerian schoolgirls could be moving further into dangerous territory of all kinds. Exploitation like the kinds they may be facing can have intensely disturbing effects on a child's social, emotional cognitive and spiritual well-being -- as well as their long-term development.

Don't Let Speaking Out Be a Taboo

Mina Mawani | Posted 07.01.2014 | Canada Living
Mina Mawani

How is it that we live in a culture where speaking out is still taboo? A culture where so many blame victims for their own abuse. Where women are afraid to report or seek assistance because they worry that they will not be believed? But today and every day, I choose not to be heartbroken.

A Letter To Proud Men Who Think "No" Means "Yes"

Eternity E Martis | Posted 04.08.2014 | Canada Living
Eternity E Martis

Dear proud men who have taken a woman's "No" to sexual activity, touching, or intercourse as a "Yes" instead of respecting her wishes; to men who have...

How To Undermine a Rape Victim: Woody Allen Edition

Anne Theriault | Posted 04.06.2014 | Canada Living
Anne Theriault

Do not treat the victim as if they are a person with agency and thoughts and feelings. Tell yourself that it's rational and logical to want to know all sides of the story, though you never want to know the other side, the perpetrator's side, when your house is broken into or your wallet is stolen or your child is hit by a car. Tell yourself that we can never know for sure what happened and since a man's life can be destroyed by accusations of rape, it's best to err on the side of caution. Do not think about the girl whose life was destroyed when she was seven. Above all, never, ever, ever think about the ways that you might be complicit in this.

The Cranberries' Dolores O'Riordan Reveals Childhood Sexual Abuse

HuffPost Canada Music | Jason MacNeil | Posted 11.14.2013 | Canada Music

The Cranberries' Dolores O'Riordan has revealed she was a victim of sexual abuse as a child. The singer told the Irish Independent the abuse took ...

To Commit to Losing Weight, You Must Be in Control

Arya M. Sharma, MD | Posted 12.11.2013 | Canada Living
Arya M. Sharma, MD

Recently I saw Betty* in my clinic. She is 44 years old and never had a "weight problem" till her eight-year-old only son met with a fatal road accident. That was 12 years ago. Since then she has steadily gained almost 10 pounds a year, which is why she is now 120 pounds heavier than she was at 32.

I Was Groomed to Love Street Harassment

Shannon Fisher | Posted 11.17.2013 | Canada British Columbia
Shannon Fisher

I grew up being catcalled. I was groomed to believe it was a compliment I should enjoy. Though it vibrated uncomfortable, I looked for it on days I felt especially unpretty. Women are told, not just by men, but by other women to lighten up. "Oh please! Someone whistles at you, roll with it; it's a compliment. Someone thinks you're hot!" Powerlessness is key here. Especially when our culture generally continues to see street harassment as a non-issue. 

Why Canadians Should Reject The Russell Williams Crime Movie

Obert Madondo | Posted 10.22.2013 | Canada
Obert Madondo

This week, the American made-for-TV movie about the Russell Williams murders will make it Canadian television debut. An Officer and a Murderer is a movie only someone steeped in profit-motivated amnesia could make. It's sensationalistic. A pervasive kind of entertainment. It glorifies violence against Canadian women. It stains the good honour of Canadian women and men in uniform.

What Would You Do if Your Spouse Was Your Rapist?

Lawrence D. Elliott | Posted 08.11.2013 | Canada Living
Lawrence D. Elliott

This week, I had a drink with a very good friend. He's currently in a relationship with a wonderful woman whose ex-husband, the father of her children also happens to be the man who raped and brutally sodomized her for the last four years of their nine-year marriage. No one believed the story of her ordeal. No one in her family. Not one of her friends. Disbelief is a cruel after-effect of rape. It's also the trump card of the rapist. The burden is all too often placed on the victim, not the perpetrator. And when it's a spouse, he knows how to make the victim feel so worthless, guilty and low, that she'll avoid doing what is necessary.

One Issue Pro-Lifers and Pro-Choicers Might Agree On

Julie Mannell | Posted 07.27.2013 | Canada Living
Julie Mannell

Bodily autonomy doesn't just refer to the freedom to have an abortion, it also refers to the freedom from unwanted acts against the body -- including forced pregnancy. For once I think there could be an issue where pro-life and pro-choice supporters can ally, but for some strange reason it seems no one is talking about it.