Sexual Abuse

Moms And Dads, Teach Consent Along With The Birds and Bees

Jessica Holmes | Posted 03.30.2016 | Canada Parents
Jessica Holmes

I know this makes you uncomfortable to talk about. I sure don't want to hear it, either. But I need to. You're the people I trust most, and my first line of defence against regrettable or unwanted sexual encounters. Don't limit the sex talk to periods and how babies are made. Tell me EVERYTHING!

The Jian Ghomeshi Verdict Proves The Flawed Law Works

Nicholas Mizera | Posted 03.24.2016 | Canada Living
Nicholas Mizera

Many legal definitions of sexual assault, including Canada's, try to balance two things: the rights of the accused to remain innocent until proven guilty, and the rights of the complainants to seek justice in a fair and balanced court of law. However, our laws are strongly biased in favour of the accused because of one little clause.

These Fill-In-The-Blanks Show The Darkest Side Of Narcissism

Lenora Thompson | Posted 03.15.2016 | Canada Living
Lenora Thompson

What if narcissism isn't what we assume it is? Yes, narcissists project an über-confident, egotistical image but most researchers believe this is merely a smokescreen to disguise extremely low or even non-existent self-esteem. I thought why not demonstrate it because actions speak louder than words.

Judge Overturns Sex Assault Conviction Because Of One Small Detail

CP | The Canadian Press | Posted 03.03.2016 | Canada

The judge said the appellant changed his testimony.

These 'Romantic' Gestures In Media Can Be Abusive In Real Life

Marcia Sirota | Posted 02.05.2016 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

On TV and in the movies, we see men and women exhibiting terrible behaviours, but the characters on the receiving end most often react as though these actions were reasonable and acceptable, giving the viewing audience the wrong message about how to go about their own relationships.

5 Things I've Learned From Being A Survivor Of Rape

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 02.02.2016 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

As I suspect is the case with many other people across the country, I am closely watching the Jian Ghomeshi trial. There were times yesterday when I found myself holding my breath, wishing that this very public trial might be a pivotal moment in our society -- one in which we can finally begin to openly and honestly address the prevalence of sexual violence in our communities.

Canada Urged To Lead Fight Against UN Peacekeeper Sex Abuse

CP | Mike Blanchfield, The Canadian Press | Posted 01.26.2016 | Canada Politics

Stephen Lewis, a former Canadian ambassador to the UN, is one of the leaders of the international coalition.

One Survivor's Reaction To Sex Offender Graham James' Parole

Jean-Paul Bedard | Posted 01.26.2016 | Canada Living
Jean-Paul Bedard

There are stories I come across in the news that leave me feeling angry, frustrated and, at times, bewildered. But hearing the news that parole had been granted to Graham James, the disgraced former hockey coach convicted of sexually abusing young boys in his care, left a hollow ache of deep sadness in me.

Ontario Needs To Do More About Doctors Who Abuse Patients

Lorian Hardcastle | Posted 01.08.2016 | Canada Living
Lorian Hardcastle

Ontario's College of Physicians and Surgeons receives numerous deeply concerning reports of doctors sexually abusing their patients each year despite the adoption of a "zero tolerance" approach to such abuse 20 years ago. This persistent problem has eroded public trust in doctor self-regulation.

3 Important Questions About The Bill Cosby Charges

Lauren Messervey | Posted 12.31.2015 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

It finally happened. After months of accusations from over 50 women with horrific tales of sexual assault, Bill Cosby's luck has run out. On December 30th, 2015, Cosby stood before a judge, faced charges of indecent assault, and paid more money in bail than most people see in their lifetimes. If convicted, Cosby could face a mere $25,000 fine and ten years in prison. These are charges from only ONE of the women, Andrea Constand, who says she became friends with Cosby when she worked at Temple University.

Ontario Has Become 'A Major Hub' For Trafficking Young Girls

CP | Keith Leslie, The Canadian Press | Posted 12.14.2015 | Canada Politics

"I don't think any of us were prepared for what we heard."

Canadians Are Leading The Conversation About Gender Violence

Samuel Getachew | Posted 12.01.2015 | Canada Living
Samuel Getachew

"Violence against women is a violation of the most basic human rights," Prime Minster Justin Trudeau reflected. I would like to highlight two Canadian women who have faced tremendous tragedy in their lives, yet have pulled them together and are inspiring us all to embrace better ideals in our citizenship.

UBC Failed Its Sexual Assault Victims On Every Level

Michael Stewart | Posted 11.27.2015 | Canada British Columbia
Michael Stewart

The women Mordvinov allegedly assaulted made multiple complaints at the departmental level, at UBC's Equity Inclusion Office, to Associate Vice-President of Equity and Inclusion Sara-Jane Finlay, the UBC ombudsperson and Student Conduct and Safety Services. There were likely more. Every office failed these women.

How Eating Disorders Impact Sexuality

Lyba Spring | Posted 11.23.2015 | Canada Living
Lyba Spring

There is an association between low BMI and loss of libido, sexual anxiety and sexual relationships. These findings are consistent with the explanation that low body weight impairs the physiological functioning of sexual organs.

I Am Living Proof There Can Be Hope After Trauma

Street Haven | Posted 11.19.2015 | Canada Living
Street Haven

To everyone around me, it looked like our family had it all. The truth was that I lived in a house that was filthy and piled high with debris and animal waste. I was 11years old when my father began to sexually abuse me. I had become accustomed to keeping so many secrets by then that I just added this one to the list. I hoped the abuse would stop. I was terrified and lonely. I am living proof that it takes a community to lift a person up. The day I left my abusive family home was the day I stepped into uncertainty and poverty.

Society Is Silent When The Victims Are Black And Female

ByBlacks.com | Posted 11.10.2015 | Canada Impact
ByBlacks.com

With the current trial of fired Oklahoma City police officer Daniel Holtzclaw, there is a marked difference in how this particular case of police brutality has been regarded, leading some to ask, "Does the world care about the victim when the victim is a black woman?"

I Am a Survivor of Sexual Abuse in the Tamil Community

TamilCulture | Posted 10.21.2015 | Canada Living
TamilCulture

My experiences of childhood sexual abuse -- of incest -- had stolen many aspects of my life but most importantly, my identity as a Tamil woman. After I moved out, I was shunned not only from my immediate family members, but my uncles, aunts, cousins, distant relatives, family friends -- my Tamil community. It didn't matter to my 19-year-old self why you weren't there for me. The fact of the matter was that you weren't. I felt hurt and abandoned.

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar Are Possibly the Worst Parents in America

Lauren Messervey | Posted 09.02.2015 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

I am not by any means condoning Josh Duggar's behaviour. His actions have been reprehensible. What I am doing is pointing out an all too familiar calling card that has been handed out time and time again by the same backwards religious fanatics that America calls its own. Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have failed utterly as parents by refraining from doing one thing: protecting their children.

She Was Sexually Abused. Now She's Helping Others Heal.

PTBOCanada.com | Neil Morton | Posted 07.09.2015 | Canada Living

Kryslyn Antsey has posted one of the more powerful videos on sexual assault and abuse awareness you'll ever watch. In the video — which you can w...

What the Duggar Family Teaches Us About Sexual Abuse

Marcia Sirota | Posted 06.07.2015 | Canada Living
Marcia Sirota

The truth is, I've never watched the Duggar family on TV. Still, with all the current media coverage, it's impossible not to be aware of the fact that the eldest son Josh has confessed to inappropriate sexual behaviour, as a teenager, toward four of his sisters and a babysitter. I work with victims of sexual abuse every day in my psychotherapy practice, so I feel I have some insight into the subject at hand. Instead of adding to the judgements in favour of or against the family, I thought that it would be a good idea to look for the learning opportunities here.

Dalhousie Dentistry Forgot About the Dangers of Social Media

Lauren Messervey | Posted 03.10.2015 | Canada Living
Lauren Messervey

Though I am about as much of a dentist as I am a squirrel, the Dalhousie Dentistry scandal cannot be ignored, even by a humble B.F.A, such as myself. Of course, I was outraged by the misogynistic nature of a Facebook page that was created for the express purpose of debasing women within the dentistry program. However, the first thought that ran through my mind wasn't outrage over their sexist remarks.

We Can't Stop Violence Against Women If We Love Celebrity Abusers

Sandra Hawken Diaz | Posted 01.25.2015 | Canada Living
Sandra Hawken Diaz

Sure there are stars who saw temporary road bumps in their career for their publicized violence against women like Roman Polanski, Mel Gibson, Chris Brown, Tommy Lee, Ike Turner, Bobby Brown and Nicholas Cage. But most of them bounced back and continue to have devoted fans. What message does that send to women who have been abused? That their life is not as important as a great film or song or game or show? What does it say about each of us that we likely have admitted to appreciating the talent of at least one famous abuser?

Let's Prevent Harassment By Ending the Reign of 'Nice'

Clare Beckton | Posted 01.24.2015 | Canada Living
Clare Beckton

It is time to end the reign of "nice" and to recognize that both men and women suffer from this tyranny of harassment and feelings of powerlessness. If women try to be nice to avoid problems and disruption of relationships, men may misunderstand and continue the harassment or it may embolden them to continue, not fearing any consequences for their actions.

Disbelief Is Rape Culture's Strongest Ally

Olivia Collette | Posted 01.11.2015 | Canada Living
Olivia Collette

It's normal that we don't want to believe the absolute worst about ourselves, but until we come to terms with how we create and participate in what we are, we can't possibly expect to correct any injustices.

I Am a Liberal and I Do Not Approve of Lena Dunham's Actions

Angela Hartlin | Posted 01.07.2015 | Canada Living
Angela Hartlin

Examining her very words unveils very destructive, manipulative, and sometimes sadistic behaviours that are, in my opinion, alarming. The controversial sexual abuse she may or may not have inflicted on her sister is what's making the headlines, not the blatant control issues she has and a lack of boundaries she exhibits with her sister. The focus should not about left or right but more about wrong or right.