Shame.

A Woman's Guide to the Impostor Syndrome

Kim Smiley | Posted 11.30.2014 | Canada Living
Kim Smiley

I am not saying that we should not strive to be the very best people and professionals we can be. This is not a call to "lean out." By all means, let's strive to be amazing, but let's also aspire to be more gentle with ourselves and with others.

Losing Weight Is as Easy as 1-2-3? Nope

Kelly Coffey | Posted 11.17.2014 | Canada Living
Kelly Coffey

Of course we get sucked in when the pretty nutritionist tells us that losing the weight is as simple as 1-2-3! Optimistic, we watch her video. But despite what we want to believe, we know that being told what or how to eat isn't the solution. Being told what and how to eat does not help us lose weight and keep it off. It just doesn't work. Period.

I Can Keep a Secret, Can You?

Kim Smiley | Posted 11.13.2014 | Canada Living
Kim Smiley

As a girl, a wise woman told me my eyes would elicit people's secrets throughout my life. I took her words to heart. From that day forward, I resolved to be a gatekeeper not a gossiper, and in some mystical way, like a magnetic field, her prophecy came true.

A Letter to My Suicidal Self

Angela Hartlin | Posted 10.12.2014 | Canada Living
Angela Hartlin

I will tell you that I know you've tried what feels like everything to create a tolerable existence, but it hasn't worked thus far. I also know that you have hoarded your past expired medications in your toy hamper waiting for this day when you finally get "the nerve" to go through with ending it all. Please don't let today be your last, I want you to experience what it's like to smile for real again and you'll be taking that opportunity away.

There's No Shame in Shaming An Asshole

Brett Caron | Posted 06.17.2014 | Canada
Brett Caron

Who cares if an asshole is feeling ostracized for being an asshole? Isn't that sort of the point? If they stew on it and distance themselves from other people, that's a win. Who wants to spend time with an asshole? If they revisit their thinking in order to avoid being shamed again, so much the better; either way, we lose one asshole.

Shaming Criminals Could Reduce Crime

Diane Weber Bederman | Posted 05.25.2014 | Canada Living
Diane Weber Bederman

Whatever happened to shame? It got put out away in a basket, somewhere in a very deep drawer, covered with other obsolete items, like religion. Do you think that other gang members would want to end up in the pillories, too? Would they want to emulate someone who has been shamed in public, ridiculed, too?

Do You Suffer From Impostor Syndrome?

Sarah Vermunt | Posted 11.05.2013 | Canada Living
Sarah Vermunt

Impostor syndrome is the fear of being found out or discovered as stupid or unworthy. I don't consider myself to be someone with especially low self-esteem, but I have often felt like an impostor among very intelligent and accomplished people, and especially around individuals with elegant, show-stopping vocabularies.

Do You Do Vulnerable? (If Not, You're Missing Out On Life)

Anne Day | Posted 10.05.2013 | Canada Living
Anne Day

I have often said "I don't do vulnerable," and yet there have been times in my life when I have had to rely on other people to take me for cancer treatments, for example. Somehow we believe by asking for help, we are being weak, are letting ourselves down, when in reality our family and friends are only too happy to help out.

What's the Difference Between a Bystander and a Bully?

Diane Weber Bederman | Posted 05.04.2013 | Canada Living
Diane Weber Bederman

Our country prides itself on being a multicultural society -- no moral absolutes for us. Unfortunately, we threw out the most important moral absolute bequeathed to us. The absolute we learned from the answer to the question, "Am I my brother's keeper?" And the answer is "Yes!"

Those Darn Women Should Learn Their Place

Yoni Goldstein | Posted 07.11.2012 | Canada
Yoni Goldstein

Like many of you, this week I watched a YouTube video featuring the Reverend Jesse Lee Peterson, founder of The Brotherhood Organization of a New Destiny, or BOND. The 12-minute film, entitled, "How Liberal Women are Building a Shameless Society," is a vehicle for Peterson's, shall we say, "unique" take on life.