People want to meet you and get to know you. You belong! Stop taking yourself out and missing out just because you are a little self-conscious. Others are much kinder and welcoming than we project them to be. Open your mind and your heart.
I am shocked--shocked--that Monica Lewinsky considers the Internet the major contributor to her ruined reputation; shocked that she considered her situation similar to Tyler Clementi's; and shocked at her timing.
I thanked someone for telling me, in the least-subtle-way-possible, that I had gained weight. And that this weight gain had made me significantly less attractive.
I admit that it would be nice to pin our body image hang-ups to one dartboard. It would be super keen if we could lay blame at the feet of the music industry, our seventh grade gym teacher or the guy (and let's face it, it was totally a dude) who invented the tube top.
Our minds are filled with the thoughts, beliefs and values of all the people who influence our lives. Having a strong sense of self comes from tuning out the voices of everyone else and listening to your own information, intuition, needs and desires.
The need to control an undesirable situation by pushing or pulling a partner into compliance is the root of all torment. All we can do is improve ourselves. We can't coerce others or make them want us. But we can show up in a way that allows us to shine, no matter what the outcome.
There are a number of lessons here for women. First, we have the capability to independently take our own journeys (metaphorically and in reality). We don't need a man. Next, we need to adjust our thinking about the events in our lives. Too often we ruminate on what we could have done differently or measure ourselves by an unachievable external bar, set way too high.
Facing impostor feelings can be challenging, but speaking with mentors, recognizing your personal expertise, using strategies to replace current negative habits with more positive, beneficial patterns will bring you to a more optimistic experience so you can enjoy your well-earned successes.
Relationships are hard. Breakups are harder. At some point, we all go through it and, eventually, we all get through it. Though it's true time heals all wounds, instead of allowing a breakup to affect you for months, years or even decades, choose to flourish in spite of it.
Copycats cross those lines and boundaries, which make the friends they are copying often feel intruded upon and uncomfortable.
As a veteran mom of five -- no, I'm not retiring yet! -- the moniker of my long-standing parenting philosophy is: DWI. No, it doesn't stand for driving while intoxicated. Rather, it stands for: DEAL WITH IT.
Few decisions in life are final. So take a deep breath and decide. Plus it helps to remember -- you can always change your mind.
I awoke this morning at 5 a.m., with my Good Fairy nudging me... "Don't you think it's time to introduce me to all your new Huff Post 50 friends? No...
Radical kindness and self-love is not an overnight event; it's a process, a process I'm still working on. Some days on this journey are easier than others. Here's what I've been doing that seems to be working so far.
While it's always good practice to stop and celebrate our achievements and accomplishments, we still have a long way to go to truly empower girls. The non-profit organization, Girls' Inc. coined the term "supergirl dilemma" in a 2006 report to describe the pressure on girls to be everything to everyone, all the time.
If you consider yourself a practical person and think it's too airy fairy to be a dreamer, no problem. We can just rephrase it. Instead of dreaming, let's just set some goals that you would love to make happen and that will make you feel amazing.