But there is some link, at least for me, between a happy home life and being a slug about everything else. That Josh loves me can't be the reason I love myself. That he thinks I am smart, competent and worthy can't be the reason I believe those things. It has to come from me.
As a mother I have tried to teach her to be a "woman of substance." We expect so much from women in our society today; we want them to be strong, beautiful, successful and financially stable. So I've created a list of things that in my opinion makes a "real woman."
The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.
For a young child, in the safety of her own house and her own room, the adoration of strangers can hold strong allure, and the unknown people at the other end of the internet might not seem real. But the risks being faced and the risks being taken are very real.
A mystery is afoot: something keeps derailing your conversations with so-and-so. You hear yourself say nice, normal words, but somewhere between your mouth and so-and-so's ears a nefarious switch occurs that causes her/him to react as if you're wearing puppies.
The confidence I get from exercise is not just vanity. Sure, I like how I look and enjoy making progress, but my the confidence I get runs deeper than that. The better I get at running, the heavier weights I can lift and the further I can push my body reminds me of how to better tackle other challenges outside of my workouts.
As a society, we are obsessed with change -- changing ourselves and others. Just look at the hundreds of blog posts, articles and infomercials touting all sorts of advice on how to live a better, happier, sexier or richer life.
Summer is a time where baring more of ourselves can actually cause our self-esteem to plummet. But now's the time to love the skin you're in and embrace what's great about you. So while you're relaxing at the beach and building sand castles, here are several ways to build self-confidence.
After that class, I started to think about how the people in our lives affect us. After all, someone I had never spoken to was contagious with instability and caused me to fall.
Why am I writing this article? Just because I love to write, and I want to. Although I hope you like it, I can remind myself that at the end of the day my real friends are my own sense of happiness and inner peace, not your opinion or your Facebook like. And that's what I call a life of freedom.
It took 10 years post-gynecomastia surgery for me to go to the beach and take off my shirt because I still felt those now phantom breasts and stares.
The truth is that skinny or fat equals an increased chance of cancer if you're not exercising. So, note to self, living a healthy lifestyle is really the new skinny. And you are beautiful, no matter what your size!
When I was 8 years old I never thought to worry about looking a certain way and certainly never felt that not being pretty would stand in the way of being accepted as a friend.
There's a proverb that says that the real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money. And for me, no truer words have ever been spoken!
"We don't have a usual mom." My teenage sons give this response with a degree of pride and humor. They were first ones I thought of when I decided formally to leave six-figure work and create my own path instead.
Have you ever said yes to someone and then immediately regretted it? Saying no isn't always easy, but in the long run, it's always easier than living with the pain of a yes that you shouldn't have given.