Although the focus of our cognitive behavioral approach to permanent weight loss is on helping people change how they think so they can make long lasting changes in their eating, we do provide them with certain guidelines about food.
Being real or authentic is also a much sought-after managerial trait but, used unwisely, it can hurt your growth. In fact, the Harvard Business Review cites an example of a manager who derailed her career because she confused being authentic for lack of confidence.
As National Women's Month comes to an end, I am reminded of the importance of mentoring young women and helping them find their voice. Women are speaking up for themselves and their worth, and it is important that we empower young women to do the same.
For years I have been searching, seeking, asking, everyone, anyone... feeling so desperate, scared, alone and at times just plain old crazy. I jump...
My whole sentient life I have been pretty adamant about the way I wanted to look. While, in my case, this hasn't equated to tattoos or even dyed hair, I've certainly made some experimental aesthetic choices.
Sometimes it's just as hard to hear that you can do anything as it is to hear you can't. It's an intense amount of pressure that lives inside your heart and constantly wants to take you over and confine you to your bed because it's too much work. To be honest, it can be exhausting being told to follow your dreams.
I've become better at embracing life's contradictions; accepting counterpoints, the peaks with the lows and the quiet in-between. My career transition gave me a precious gift of renewal. As my life moves on a more even keel, my confidence grows.
Sometimes, it can be extreme, making you unnecessarily insecure, taking jabs at your confidence and making you question your abilities to achieve your dreams. Obviously, that's not ideal. So what can you do about it?
How can we tell our daughters (and granddaughters) to be proud of exactly who they are if we ourselves are afraid to admit to something as rudimentary as our date of birth?
It goes without saying that your teen will pay much more attention to what you do than what you say. If you are constantly on the phone, text at stop lights, bring your phone to bed and are not present for your own kids, then they will follow your lead.
Anxiety for me has led to countless mini-meltdowns all because I was so worried about what could happen in any given situation, not focused on what was happening at that very moment. So I thought I'd share three things that I do to reduce anxiety...
I used to be afraid of her and the damage that she could cause. She paralyzed me to the point that I would give up and back away from realizing my dreams.
When my son was 4 years old, we lost him at the beach for two hours. It was the worst two hours of my life. After the first hour that he was missing, I was already starting to mourn him.
I'm always going to be scared; of failure, of disappointment, of not being good enough. But I'm done pretending that I won't feel pain if I'm careful enough, or that I can prevent the pain of others by just wishing hard enough. Saying I'm sorry is a verbal tightrope act, and it's one that I'm done performing.
In the end, it's unfair to presume people are as judgmental as we fear, and we should stop playing our own worst critic. The key for me with this is to proceed with a sincere heart -- believing in yourself no matter what the outcome, imagining the goals you set in front of you, and shaking off the peppering of hypothetical thoughts that do not serve you.