No child deserves to be hit. There are things that children do that anger parents, or that put the child or others at risk, or are socially unacceptable, but there is never a reason to hit another human being to discipline or teach. What does this mean, in plain language? It means parents should not be allowed to hit or spank their children.
Spanking doesn't work. Whatever you call it, it's ineffective. It doesn't work now, and it never really did. It's a short-term solution to a problem that will never be solved instantly or with a swing of the arm. It's dated, it's counterproductive, and it's time to stop claiming it is remotely as effective as people like to pretend it is.
Apparently, I'm a victim of child abuse. And a child abuser. How did that escape me? At least I might be, if you believe a new study that redefines what it means to be abused -- and an abuser. I can tell you for certain is each of the times I used corporal punishment, it was in those moments that I failed most as a parent. But does that make me an abuser?
I often hear this when talking about discipline methods for children. The key word in this sentence is "okay." What is our definition of this term, and is "okay" really what we want for our children? We now have a greater understanding of the impact of spanking and yelling, and how it negatively affects a person throughout their adult life.
My youngest has a concussion and has been in lockdown at home for the past few days. My friend Sarah's boy had a much more serious accident, however. I mention this today because of all the things that crossed my desk this week, the impact this accident had on all of us at Savvy HQ made everything else seem trivial -- or marginal at best.