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To me, being white meant that you were better than everybody else.
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I grew up in a refugee camp to begin with, and since my parents didn't speak German, I was not able to pick up the language very quickly, so I went to kindergarten and was picked on for not knowing German. Not just by fellow kids, but also the teachers, who isolated me and never included me in anything.
As Tamils, we find unwed pregnancy to be such a crime that it restricts those who need someone to lean on in times of despair. I had no one I could go to.My partner did not want anyone to know. From the day we found out we were pregnant to months after we had aborted the child, I had to keep all of my emotions to myself.
Whenever I tell my friends that I've thought about getting married to a guy that my parents will pick for me, I always get the same response. But the more I learned about the traditions of my culture, the more I realized that our marriages are both a contract and a sacred journey across lifetimes.
Imagine driving into a tunnel where you can only see straight down the middle, and nothing on either side: that is what life is like living with a rare genetic eye disease called Retinitis Pigmentosa. I was 21 when I was diagnosed, excited to live life, travel, and experience so many things, but now I've been given a time frame for how long I'll be able to see the world around me.