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The Changing State Of My Mother Tongue

When I was a kid, I wasn't up on a Saturday morning watching cartoons while eating fruit loops. Instead, like many Tamil children, I was usually half asleep trying to learn the language that I first learned to speak. I didn't hate going to Tamil school because I missed out on cartoons. I think I hated going because it was a hard language to learn.
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6 Places To Meet Tamil Singles

I'm a happily married Tamil man sharing my insights in terms of where I think Tamil singles will have the most luck with meeting other Tamil singles. This list was a result of recent discussions I've had with single friends. By discussion, I mean more of a debate with me trying to get them to think beyond the standard club or bar/lounge.
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Tamils' Path To Prosperity In Canada

Our arrival in Canada started in earnest after the 1983 anti-Tamil riot in Sri Lanka. The mass exodus accelerated in the last decade of the last century, resulting in largest Sri Lankan Tamil population outside of Sri Lanka. Since then, collectively the lives of Tamils were "rewired".
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Ode To Our Parents

It was almost 30 years ago. War has began. The sounds of chirping birds were replaced with blasting bombs. My husband had come back from town to get me and my daughter. We are leaving tomorrow morning. It was the beginning of our journey. A journey to a new place, a new beginning.
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New Year, Better Me

Every year we all make new year's resolutions that ultimately never get resolved. We purchase gym memberships and have sudden health kicks that stop kicking after two weeks and 10 chicken wings later. Trust me, I was supposed to lose those ten pounds, three years ago.
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Indhu Rubasingham Takes On The World of London Theatre

With a headstrong career spanning over 20 years, it was humbling to hear 42-year-old Indhu Rubasingham, artistic director of Tricycle Theatre in Kilburn, London, admit that she still gets nervous. Being critiqued is nothing new to this theatre veteran, whose work has been consistently well received and has even earned her a handful of distinguished awards.
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I Am Playing Catch-Up With My Culture

At 21 years old, I realize that I have done myself a disservice. I can barely form a coherent sentence in my language, letters are foreign squiggles to me, and I find myself performing exaggerated gestures to communicate with my non-English speaking grandma. This is certainly not due to a lack of exposure to Tamil, but more as a result of a conscious distancing.
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I Am a Survivor of Sexual Abuse in the Tamil Community

My experiences of childhood sexual abuse -- of incest -- had stolen many aspects of my life but most importantly, my identity as a Tamil woman. After I moved out, I was shunned not only from my immediate family members, but my uncles, aunts, cousins, distant relatives, family friends -- my Tamil community. It didn't matter to my 19-year-old self why you weren't there for me. The fact of the matter was that you weren't. I felt hurt and abandoned.
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Why I've Decided to Get an Arranged Marriage

Whenever I tell my friends that I've thought about getting married to a guy that my parents will pick for me, I always get the same response. But the more I learned about the traditions of my culture, the more I realized that our marriages are both a contract and a sacred journey across lifetimes.
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Love Can Be Better, The Second Time Around

Amidst the carnage of a failed marriage, as your days become consumed with prying the broken shards of glass from the wounds of a shattered life, it is hard to conceive that anyone will ever be worth the risk of going through all of this again. But a life without love is incomplete -- Love is always worth it.

4 Annoying Things That Happen at Tamil Events

Tamil events such as charity galas, formals and weddings are generally really fun. You'll find a lot of dancing, amazing food and an unpretentious vibe which most people can appreciate. However, there are a few things that routinely occur (not all the time, but often enough to take notice) which can be downright terrible to deal with.
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As My Eyesight Fails, the World As I See it Is Changing

Imagine driving into a tunnel where you can only see straight down the middle, and nothing on either side: that is what life is like living with a rare genetic eye disease called Retinitis Pigmentosa. I was 21 when I was diagnosed, excited to live life, travel, and experience so many things, but now I've been given a time frame for how long I'll be able to see the world around me.
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I Learned About Value and Privilege From My Immigrant Parents

Despite all their blessings over the last 30 years in Canada, my parents still live a frugal lifestyle etched in the shadows of the carnage of their war-torn past. I know the value of what I have, because of the price THEY had to pay. What happens to children of successful first and second generation Tamil professionals, who no longer need to say "We just don't have money for that"?
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My Mixed-Race Identity Has Enriched, Not Confused Me

Being raised by two parents who happen to come from two different ethnic backgrounds has thus never made me confused or conflicted about my identity, like some critics of mixed race children may suggest. Rather, I would say that my experiences of coming from two cultures has enriched my worldviews and elicited my interest to learn more about them.
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As a Gay Tamil Man, I Won't Be Shamed

The intersection of Tamil and Gay seems to signal malfunction. Whether we judge ourselves or are judged by our families or communities, the anxiety and fear caused by discrimination is real. We allow social shaming to dictate the way we feel about a situation, and obsess about what others think.