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My Summer Tan Wasn't Worth it - I Got Melanoma

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.19.2013 | Canada Living
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After falling asleep on the beach one afternoon I burnt my back badly, and when my skin grew back after blistering, I didn't think about it again. That was of course until I heard the word melanoma and chemotherapy and surgery all in the same sentence. As it turns out, that dark glow one gets from hours in the sun becomes embarrassingly meaningless when you're sitting under a florescent light being told you have cancer.

Father's Day: Fathers Love Differently

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.17.2013 | Canada Living
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Fathers Love Differently. When I first really got to know my dad I was sixteen. My mom had died in August, my brother was starting University out Ea...

Am I Teacher or a Discriminator?

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.12.2013 | Canada Living
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I am listening to the rants of irresponsible media outlets. I am listening to the more insightful and sophisticated comments of more reputable news sources. I watch in horror with the rest of the world at seemingly frequent terrorist threats, and actualizations. And then I sit in my classroom and listen to my increasingly divergent student body speak their minds. I have no response. I am conflicted by my own personal, cultural, religious, and even gender bias. I can't figure out if the female student who lived in Afghanistan is speaking truth or speaking from the heart of terror.

The Bachelorette Recap Episode 3

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.11.2013 | Canada Living
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Chris Harrison opens up this week's The Bachelorette explaining the order of the episode, before we cut to the main drama of the season, namely Evil B...

'The Bachelorette' Recap Episode 2: Kisses and Lies

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.04.2013 | Canada TV
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This week, The Bachelorette gets serious. The first whisperings of eternal love are mustered, the exchanges of saliva occur with a frivolous regularity, and a federal prosecutor from New York is almost brought to tears about being lied to and interrupted by another male contestant.

Is There Anything I Can Eat Without a Side of Guilt?

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.03.2013 | Canada Living
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Why does it seem that everything we consume these days is surrounded with guilt or stigma. Everything I go to eat lately makes me think a bit harder about what I am putting into my body. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, it just has me thinking.

One Morning I Decided to Save My Life

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.29.2013 | Canada Living
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I have always struggled with liking myself and feeling worthy of love. I turned to food as a form of comfort and as a way to control my otherwise uncontrollable life. Every time something went wrong I would eat -- a lot. And of course I became overweight, very overweight, and then eventually obese. Then I woke up one morning and said, "Enough is enough!"

The Bachelorette Recap: Will Desiree Find Love?

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.28.2013 | Canada Living
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So here we are again for another season of ABC's The Bachelorette. Just a few months after I was screaming at the TV, "Sean, what the hell are you doing?" as he sent home Desiree Hartsock home. And now here she is as the new Bachelorette. As a 31 year-old married male with a poorly hidden crush on her, I am emotionally invested in seeing her find Mr. Right.

Tips for a Healthy, Natural Pregnancy

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.22.2013 | Canada Living
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In the modern world we live in, almost everything we use includes chemicals and artificial ingredients. Understandably, many pregnant women are wary of exposing their unborn baby to harsh, unnatural substances. Here are a few simple changes I made during my pregnancy to avoid exposing my baby to harmful substances.

I Called Off My Wedding and I'm Happier Than Ever

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.16.2013 | Canada Living
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My boyfriend proposed, and suddenly I was a fiancée. All the pressure for a legit BIG FAT Italian wedding was all on me. How could I disappoint? Planning my family's wedding, turned into a full-time job, signed, sealed and almost delivered in a mere eight months. I had lost sight of what I was doing, and who I was doing it for. In fact, at month six of Wedding Boot Camp, I wasn't even sure I wanted to marry my boyfriend.

We Are All More Than Just Moms

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.08.2013 | Canada Living
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I can't spot a single one-dimensional woman for miles. They don't exist. I seriously want to throw a party for all the mothers today because even though mothers have always possessed these layers, women today just seem to own them more. At the party, I'd raise my glass to these ladies and say, "You are my heroes. Thank you for being more than just a mom."

A Day in the Life of a Mom

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.07.2013 | Canada Living
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Work, work. Perpetually behind. What on earth did I do with my time before? Are my kid's feet freezing? Was it my turn for snack? What's on for the weekend? Are they okay? Until the day I die: Are. They. Okay?

I Lost All My Hair, But I Feel More Beautiful Than Ever

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.01.2013 | Canada Living
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It always shocks people when I tell them I'm bald. They typically don't believe it until I show them pictures of me without a wig on. It's ironic because when I had hair, I was a very insecure person. Our society bases so much of our self esteem on how we look, but once how you "look" is taken away from you, you have to learn a new ideal of what self esteem is.

It Is Impossible For Me To Say "I'm Sorry"

The Purple Fig | Posted 04.26.2013 | Canada Living
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I didn't expect that my decision to be unapologetic would result in an inability to apologize. The prospect of having to make an apology is absolutely agonizing for me. Often I muster the courage to make an apology, then wimp out, convincing myself that the issue was no big deal or the apology would not make a big difference. Other times, I retreat to the safety of an email apology or an apology gift.

How Losing Weight Almost Made Me Lose My Mind

The Purple Fig | Posted 04.25.2013 | Canada Living
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It was surreal. The body that I had had owned all my life suddenly seemed not to belong to me anymore. It was as if it were somebody else's. Its legs were slimmer, its stomach was firmer, and apart from the physicality of it all, even its perception by others was completely different.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.09.2013 | Canada Living
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I first heard the statement, "Once a cheater always a cheater" when I was in high school. Maybe some women are born with an innate desire to believe in the ability to change. I know I'm a little more evidence-based myself and if history is any indication, I'd say Don Draper will spend the rest of his fictional life appearing in the beds of women all over 1960s Manhattan.

Being a Motherless Mother: Raising a Child After the Loss of my Mom

The Purple Fig | Posted 06.03.2013 | Canada Living
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It's like I was out there in the world for so many years being motherless and then one morning I peed on a stick and suddenly I was a mother. I couldn't have known then that the hole in my chest would only get bigger and that my loneliness would be married to the fact that I was motherless. I will never know love like this again, I thought, as I sat next to her hospital bed for the last time.

That Mom Losing Patience With Her Son? Don't Judge Her

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.29.2013 | Canada Living
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When I became a mother five years ago I naively assumed that having a child meant a woman had grown up. Gone would be the petty insecurities, comparisons and judgements that women so cruelly share during the teenage years and beyond. I was wrong.

OMG! Twitter is the new Online Diary #Shareeverything

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.26.2013 | Canada Living
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Reassurance. Sympathy. Someone to "talk" to, as often as you wish and at all hours of day and night. All potential benefits of Twitter that may offer psychological comfort, but is the tradeoff of creating a public record of struggle and potential for damaging feedback worth it?

I Was a Mute and I Got Over My Panic Attacks With a Little Help

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.23.2013 | Canada Living
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When I was 25 years old, I went mute. Not for a few seconds, not for a few days, or weeks, but months. Talking, for me, evoked acute panic attacks. When I found my way to Figueroa Street in Eagle Rock, Los Angeles, I panicked over how I was to teach a group of juvenile delinquents without any training let alone without a voice. I was to work with one student. He was 17 years old. He was over six feet tall and his name was Anthony. I learned that this 17-year-old Anthony was awaiting trial. He was allegedly involved in a gang shooting where one individual died. I feel like I owe much of my life to Anthony.

Can Mothers and Single Women Remain BFFs?

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.19.2013 | Canada Living
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You're a wife and mother to a four-year-old with another baby on the way. I, on the other hand, am still single, trying to figure out my next career move and wondering if I'll ever find a husband or have kids. I know we've always called ourselves "best friends," but lately I've been wondering if we're living up to the title.

A Man's Take on The Bachelor Finale

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.12.2013 | Canada TV
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Every Monday night I need both of my boys asleep by 8 p.m. Because Monday night at 8 p.m. is ABC's The Bachelor; a show I have not missed an episode of for the last five years. "Only girls watch that," the guys at work tell me. "Sexist," I mutter. This season's Bachelor has been one of the very best.

Turns Out I Love Being a Mother After All

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.07.2013 | Canada Living
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In 2005 my life was very different than it is now. A job in advertising afforded me a very indulgent lifestyle and I spent every cent on purses, high heels, and enjoying myself. Having a child was the last thing on my radar. Life never goes the way we plan it. Today, I have a 10 month old, a husband and a house in Toronto.

Dina Pugliese: Fighting Self-Doubt To Get Her Dream Job

The Purple Fig | Posted 05.01.2013 | Canada Living
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Every morning, along with her co-hosts, Dina Pugliese interviews, dances, and laughs her way through the morning. Today, she is the co-host of Toronto's number one morning show, Breakfast Television. ut these are not the inspirational snippets of this story; it is through her journey towards this success that you may find yourself relating.

Mommy Blogging: a Step Back for Feminism?

The Purple Fig | Posted 04.17.2013 | Canada Living
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Over the years I have seen women work hard in many different ways to promote positive change in the area of gender inequality. That is, until the setback of the "Mommy Blog."