The perplexed interviewer asked what every man wanted to know, "But what about the man's sexual needs? Isn't he going to walk away with 'blue-balls'?" In my head I was screaming, "Why can't men understand that most women walk away from the sex with 'blue balls' -- unsatisfied and unhappy with the experience?"
The reality is there are too many unsatisfying and empty relationships. Consequently in today's instant gratification society, at least half of men and women are looking for a quick fix of what they need outside of their relationship. If cheating is easy and there is a high payoff, why wouldn't they?
Call me a slow learner, but I suddenly realized why there have to be gay pride parades at all. It does not matter if it is a big city, small city, Canada or the U.S. There are not enough straight people supporting homosexual rights. And I couldn't help but wonder when the day will come that there will be no need for a Pride Parade.
It is my hope that this next generation of women will put a stop to this crazy nonsense of being a "yummy mummy". If and when they do, sex can then become what it was meant to be: a time for emotional connection with your partner. Because right now, sex for the super-busy woman is just one more thing that sits on her to-do list, that makes her feel guilty to boot.
In my mind, the answer to our spontaneous sex woes is simple: a vasectomy. Such a minor thing to have in order for us to have a happy and healthy sex life. Or at least for me it is such a simple and minor thing. Problem is, it's been a year that my husband has been dodging the "you need to get a vasectomy" bullet. Why is birth control up to me and why do I have to be the nagging wife to get this done?
And so it seems the quality of our sex lives hangs in the balance of these ordinary life moments that have little to nothing to do with sex. And just as easily, they can be reconciled and turned around in a matter of seconds. Remember: In these moments it's really up to you and your partner which way you want your relationship to go.
Has "I'm too tired" become the new "I've got a headache"? Today's average couple is always on the go and busy. It's not surprising then that being tired gets in the way of them having good sex on a regular basis. But we can only hold our partner at arm's length for so long before the relationship starts to suffer.
I believe "sexual incompatibility" is often the catch-all excuse many couples use because they don't know how to work through their outside-the-bedroom couple issues. I would bet my mortgage those couples contemplating divorce are sexually compatible, they're just not willing to invest time and energy into making their sexual relationship work.
Six weeks after my second son was born in 2009 I embarked on a "Six Month Sex Challenge." For six months I attempted to have sex with my husband at least once a week. The time was truly a roller-coaster ride and I've learned why it is just so darn difficult to have sex after baby. I also appreciate why it's important to make the effort. Here are the 20 things I learned about having sex after baby.
There's myriad ideologies that stop women from having a healthy relationship with their privates including: negative socialization, lack of education and exposure when young, stigma when admitting they masturbate, and the list goes on and on. Bottom line: until the average gal can have a positive relationship with her vulva, enjoying sex to the maximum will probably be out of her grasp.