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I grew up watching hockey religiously. I traded hockey cards. I went public skating. I played on the street. But the option to play the real game, on ice, wasn't there. My parents didn't have deep pockets. My mom saw it as a boorish, stick wielding fest of violence.
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With a toddler running around my house these days, I find myself looking back over the years and thinking of all I've learned in my four-plus decades on this planet. Since I turned 40, I've started making lists I can maybe pass her way one day. Here's 42 things I've learned at 42.
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My body is older, and although I'm more fit now than I was in my 20s, my muscles and bones and forehead and liver will never reverse in time to what they once were. And then there's the whole, ever closer to my earthly demise thing.
It's just another day. I'm going to have all the same thoughts everyone has about turning 40 -- about avoiding the mid-life chatter, the regrets, or start thinking about the best/worst years ahead/behind. Forty is not the new 20 or whatever headline a magazine uses to sell more issues. It's simply 40. For me, it's like rounding a corner as I add more mileage.
Life may not begin at 40, but it's an excellent time to consider a second (or third, or fourth) act. Is there something you've always wanted to do? Something you were scared to try, because you'd be devastated if you failed? Take a deep breath and go for it. Trust me: it's way more satisfying than buying a convertible.
I'm turning 40 in a little more than a month. As this milestone has loomed, I've told myself many times that it's not a big deal. I have never been sympathetic to the whining about aging by healthy people in a good life space, but I've go to admit: I'm starting to see their point.
This is my last week in my 30s. And excuse me for not bringing out the pom-poms and the "No. 1" foam finer though we live in a society where 40 is hailed as an achievement and the springboard to the rest of our lives. At least, what's tolerable about turning 40 is the wisdom one starts to have. Here's an updated list of what I believe about-to-turn-40 folks should know/do.
Number 32: My father busted his butt for decades, raised a family, paid mortgages, did yard work, fixed things, taught us math, owned businesses, and spent every day being a husband/father/role model. I babble on the radio to strangers. Somehow, we're both impressed with one another.
I'm coming out of the closet -- the age closet. As a performer, apparently my prospects go down at 40. But what's great about 40? 40 years worth of friends, 40 years worth of life lessons, 40 years of honing skills! In fact, any major obstacles I've faced in life have given me strength or insight I wouldn't have had otherwise.
So, I'm facing down my 40th birthday. It's two weeks away and, surprisingly, my mid-life crisis is holding off. For now. I am not enjoying the lines appearing around my eyes or the various sagging and loosening bits and pieces that will remain nameless. Clearly, I have to get OK with aging. Here are my top tips for aging well.