Money is always a tricky topic of conversation, but when it comes to a wedding it's easy for things to get emotional -- fast! Between the bride, groom...
Between being a wedding planner for many years and having a large friend/family network, I've attended a lot of weddings. With each one, I've found there are two types of guests: the good and the who-invited-that-person. I wish I could stand at the entrance to each wedding and pass out a list of tips on how to be a good wedding guest.
The wife of his best friend suggested (actually, strongly insisted) that we demand a monetary contribution from our guests. My spouse and I disagree. I find this insulting, while he is hell-bent on it! Can we ask without insulting?
It's the bride's privilege to ask her wedding party to dress a certain way for her wedding. It's tradition. She can tell them what jewelry and shoes to wear, too. She can even ask everybody to wear their hair up, or down, if she's super picky. But she absolutely, positively CANNOT ask anybody in her wedding party to alter their physical characteristics in any way.
Wedding season is in full swing, and that means that bridezillas and groomzillas are about to terrorize the land once again. Demanding brides and grooms often end up alienating the very people they are supposed to be celebrating with, their wedding guests. Here's how to avoid becoming one.
With the costs of weddings skyrocketing year over year and with the cost of each additional guest adding anywhere from a few hundred to a few thousand dollars to the final budget, it is critical to get it right when it comes to deciding who gets to bring a date to your wedding.
It's irritating as hell when somebody RSVPs "YES" to your wedding invitation, and then fails to attend when your big day arrives. It's doubly irritati...
The logistics of the ceremony itself are a piece of cake, next to the potential for hurt feelings, regret and guilt that can accompany the aftermath of an elopement.
A good positive attitude going into your wedding day makes all the difference, and so does a bad attitude. If you are going to have a negative outlook, it just breeds more drama into your day, creating more negative energy. I've seen this happen with brides a million times - creating drama that isn't necessary.
I'd love to know what other parents would have done. If your child had planted himself or herself at the front of the middle aisle at an outdoor wedding, how would you have handled it? What would your first or second or third -- or tenth--thought have been?
Once upon a time, etiquette experts would have completely discouraged your daughter of asking for money. Untraditional and tacky, they would have tissed! Rest assured. As a modern manners maven, I know one thing for sure: etiquette evolves based on societal norms.
It's a touchy subject for the industry because we are really tired of being taken advantage of, particularly when it comes to appointments... Making them, keeping them, and fucking around with our time. Therefore you need to know the rules of engagement (sorry, couldn't help it!). Ready?
For starters, every first time wedding invitation has a gift obligation. The only exception is when you're a distant colleague, friend or family member, and you have not had any contact with either of the future newlyweds.
Many chill brides might think a gift registry is too forward, but it really isn't! Trust me, as long as you include a variety of options and price ranges, your guests will appreciate not needing to rack their brains for the perfect gift, and you'll enjoy not receiving four blenders.
Given the hot, swampy summers we have here in the South, "June" doesn't really hold true as the busy wedding season for us. Fall weddings are popular here and the busy season lasts well into January and February, when the more financially conscious brides and grooms snag the best deals.
Sometimes, technology is a bad thing. Just because you CAN do something doesn't mean you should. That's exactly what went through my mind when I received an email from a public relations company asking me to blog about how wonderful it is that brides and grooms can crowdfund to pay for their weddings now. Are you kidding me?