From the time we enter high school we are told that this type of talk is harmless, good-natured joking and if we react negatively, we must lack a sense of humour. What we fail to mention is that locker room talk leads to groping and unwanted sexual advances because when you dehumanize people in conversation, their needs no longer count. Once you have obscenely torn a woman apart with bro-talk, an insidious web of disrespect is woven. It becomes difficult to promote her and even more difficult to work for her. In short, it limits her opportunities.
We need to be selective about which situations to give our full power to, in order to prevent our strengths from becoming weaknesses. To calibrate where and how much to expend. This necessitates knowing our self, knowing our audience, evaluating each circumstance, and ultimately... exercising judgement.
Confidence is intimidating, but it shouldn't be. Why should I feel guilty about being happy with myself? I have flaws, sure, but I am not a mess. So why do I participate in mess culture? Why, at brunch, do I feel obligated to chime in with a self-disparaging comment? There is no reason to participate in something that downplays what I have to offer.
A few weeks ago, I was invited to fancy gala and immediately dismissed the invite because I'm not fancy. However, a dear friend convinced me to attend and take her as my plus one. The event celebrated Canada's leading female entrepreneurs with a cocktail evening where the winner of the Business Women Award (BWA) and New Generation Award (NGA) were to be selected and announced.
In México, extraordinary wealth and heart-breaking poverty exist side by side. It is a land of harsh contradictions -- skyscrapers and wood houses, modern-day Internet and illiteracy. Years ago, when I used to think about this, I always asked myself; with all our diverse natural resources and hard-working labor force, why are we in this situation?
Without question, having a mentor will enhance the effectiveness of our leadership skills immensely. This is especially true when the methods and management style of the mentor differ and contrast from our own. It is only when we challenge our conditioning by accepting new and different approaches to work and life that we truly grow.
Many traditionally male-dominated industries in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics are implementing new policies and actively trying to attract women to the field. Finding a sustainable work-life balance as a professional woman is a struggle many face, regardless of industry. But the attitude towards women in architecture needs to shift to remove barriers to success, increase diversity in leadership and motivate the industry to design for a better future.
My female entrepreneur friends and I have discussed this in the past. This topic seems to somehow seep into our conversations from time to time. What does it mean to use your looks in business? How does that work? In general, we know humans respond well to good looking people. That's a fact. Being pretty can bring out opportunities and get people's attention.
In recent years, the world of employment has evolved to such an extent that it will never be the same. The workforce is aging, new technologies are changing the way we do things, globalization reduces the effects of borders and the availability of information promotes competitiveness. These conditions have triggered several significant changes that are transforming the employment industry.
It's tough to brand your business when you're constantly thinking about how you "have to" sound. What about if your brand was just who you are? What a radical concept. Making decisions on photography, logos and messaging becomes immensely easier when all you have to do is choose what best represents you as a human being.
The duality of the roles we play in our lives, as professionals and as moms, wives and daughters is something that most women accept. What we've rejected thankfully, is that we notion that we need to adopt masculine archetypes at the office and feminine personas at home to be successful in each respective domain.