Last week, I began to bridge the barrier between men and women, revealing five things men look for in women. Being a female and unable to understand men's language, I turned to my trusty and reliable Facebook friends who were very forthcoming. This week, as promised, I continue the discussion by sharing hours of "girl-chat" as well as the comments of my Facebook friends (yet, again), to reveal what it is women look for in men.
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At the end of the day, all a woman wants is to be adored. Yes, it's that simple. It means taking an interest in what she wants, what she is about, what she values and what she is striving for, while being nurturing. In truth, what any and everyone wants is to feel is important! Adoration speaks to this.
Women and men may have different languages, each one struggling to understand the other. But, perhaps if we each take time to think about what we want from that special someone, we'll probably find they would like the same thing in return.
Your non-relationship expert,
Nicole
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I'm trying out the "vertical advantage system" and getting great results with it.. Just google for it, I don't know if I can paste links here and I am too lazy to do it anyway :P .... So far gained an inch, I was 5'4 to start with..I hope I can grow upto 5'7 with it..fingers crossed.. then I would be as tall as the woman here or at least the height difference with nearly every girl wouldn't be so ridiculous..
peace
As a professional, independent career woman who is physically fit & strong emotionally,I compromise a lot to find a man who is at my level. I'm not attracted to men who are smaller professionally- that's not masculine. And I'm not attracted to men who are weaker emotionally, nor physically fit as I am (I am sure that's nature).
My girlfriends completely agree, but men are offended by my view. Women have come a long way in gaining independence & earning the freedom to manage their lives, but it is a biological need that we seek men who are bigger, stronger and more fit. We saw social, cultural & economic changes in the last 50 yrs, but biology has not changed our need for a masculine man (one capable of taking care of us & offspring at least theoretically). Literally, I know that I can take care of myself, child and household financially, but figuratively my physical desire and attraction are for men who can do that better than I can alone.
Chivalry, gifts & compliments are superficial. It is nice for a guy to open doors, but do I need that? No. Do I need flowers? No. What I do need is a strong, capable,
"At the end of the day, all a woman wants to be is adored." I also want to be respected and
taken seriously, listened to and valued as an equal partner. I appreciate sincere, genuine compliments. I'm lucky because I have a husband who has most of these qualitities and a wonderful sense of humour. By the way, I didn't marry for money. To me there are a lot more important issues to consider when you're looking for a partner, like love, friendship, mutual respect,
common values and interests, similiar personalites and an optimistic way of looking at life.
Sure the demands of a growing family are always a financial strain. And yes many sweet, confident men do get "broken up with" due to their inadequate careers.
But these days women work along side of men and many households are 2 income families. It is physically impossible for a woman to keep a full time job, bear children, take care of a household and a man's needs. At some point, we women realize that something has to give. If he can't provide financially, then that means that she has to. No choice there.
If she has to work harder to make more money for the entire family, juggling husband, kids, household and her job, then logically, when something gives, its the husband. She can't divorce the kids, and she has to maintain the roof over their heads with a job. I think more and more women are realizing that if they can do it all (and some simply have no choice) then its much easier without the husband. At least they are juggling 3 things rather than 4.
Its not validation of self worth per se, its the soothing of fear. My ex wife would tell me her fears all the time, but not the other way around. She asked me about it one day, so I opened up and told her my fears which were of course completely different then hers. Job loss, house loss, that safety in anything is a complete illusion (or delusion). She started crying and now I had to console her about my fears. LOL.
I think back now to all our fights, and nearly every one was fear based. Also that I dont speak female well, and she didnt understand male very well. But Im learning.
I can't stand it when I'm walking with a guy and he physically removes me from my path so that his imagined body of impervious steel can protect me from the unlikely-hood of a vehicle flying off course into the sidewalk. I appreciate the thought behind the gesture but it's distracting and impractical. Let's say a car does come careening in our direction, and he happens to not be Edward Cullen, it's gonna hit me too regardless if he's walking on my left or right side. Truly annoys the dickens out of me.
However, the door holding and the chair pulling is absolutely lovely as they are tiny little effortless gestures that make my day slightly easier.
You have no idea how freaking hard that is for us to do. I've only seen it done well once.
Just ask the Donald.