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Hollywood's Awards Don't Celebrate Real Women

Posted: 01/14/2013 6:33 pm

The older I get and the more grounded in - or perhaps slapped by - real life I become, the less I care what's going on in Hollywood. My husband had The Golden Globes on Sunday night and I caught approximately four minutes of the show while I wandered through the living room.

The four minutes happened to include the acceptance speech given by Jessica Chastain, in a low-cut blue dress, who won for best actress in a drama. During her speech, Chastain applauded director Kathryn Bigelow, to whom she compared her character, calling them "two powerful, fearless women that allow their expert work to stand before them" while referring to Bigelow allowing Chastain's character to "disobey the conventions of Hollywood."

I love seeing strong female characters in films and I do think Kathryn Bigelow has done good things for women in that industry, and perhaps in general. Something has to drive progress and popular culture certainly plays a role. But these award shows don't celebrate real women, or those who work to advance our interests. It's fine for a character in a movie to go against the norm in Hollywood, but when the actress who portrays her accepts an award wearing a low-cut dress, thus bowing to Hollywood convention, I put a little less stock in her ability to influence the perception of women or their roles in society.

With two small children, I don't get out to see a movie as often as I'd like. But don't get me wrong - I think movies are a great escape. A couple hours in a dark theatre with a Coke and some popcorn does a mother good. I just don't understand why the professions associated with making movies are the ones we spend so much time celebrating at this time of year.

Why not celebrate the woman who traded her full-time career to start a non-profit to help women with postpartum mood disorders?

Shouldn't we stand and applaud the woman involved in a project to reach out to people who have a gay dad, as she does, so they have better support than the children's board book she was given as a resource when her dad came out when she was 15?

Give me a red carpet and a microphone and I'd rather talk to the woman who bares her soul every day through her work to build an online group for moms that attempts to normalize motherhood by providing a loving, judgment-free space where hundreds of mothers from around the world can (and do) come to support each other.

I don't mean to throw Jessica Chastain under the proverbial bus. I do applaud her success and her fulfillment of a dream, especially one born of long years and hard work. But does starring as a "powerful, fearless woman" in a movie really make a difference in the world?

I am blessed to know women who set sail to their dreams and simply hope they make it ashore so they can help those they find there.

There's no red carpet or star-studded audience for these women. No golden statue and no blue dress. There are only small thank yous - the kind not broadcast on television - and the determination to help again tomorrow.

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  • Best Picture, Motion Picture Drama

    "Argo"

  • Best Actor Motion Picture Drama

    Daniel Day-Lewis, "Lincoln"

  • Best Actress In A Drama

    Jessica Chastain, "Zero Dark Thirty"

  • Best Actor, Musical Or Comedy

    Hugh Jackman, "Les Miserables"

  • Best Comedy or Musical

    "Girls"

  • Best Director

    Ben Affleck , "Argo"

  • The Cecil B. DeMille Award

    Jodie Foster

  • Best Actress In A Comedy

    Lena Dunham, "Girls"

  • Best Animated Feature

    "Brave"

  • Best Actor in a TV Comedy

    Don Cheadle, "House of Lies"

  • Best Actress, TV Series Drama

    Claire Danes, "Homeland"

  • Best Foreign Film

    "Amour"

  • Best Screenplay

    Quentin Tarantino, "Django Unchained"

  • Best Supporting Actress

    Anne Hathaway, "Les Miserables"

  • Best Supporting Actor In TV Series, Miniseries Or Movie

    Ed Harris, "Game Change"

  • Best Actress Musical Or Comedy

    Jennifer Lawrence, "Silver Linings Playbook"

  • Best Actor In TV Miniseries Or Movie

    Kevin Costner, "Hatfields & McCoys"

  • Best Original Song

    "Skyfall"

  • Best Original Score Motion Picture

    "Life of Pi"

  • Best TV Series Drama

    "Homeland"

  • Best Actor TV Series Drama

    Damian Lewis, "Homeland"

  • Best Actress In A Miniseries Or TV Movie

    Julianne Moore, "Game Change"

  • Best Miniseries or TV Movie.

    "Game Change"

  • Best Supporting Actress In A TV Series, Miniseries Or Movie

    Maggie Smith, "Downton Abbey"

  • Best Supporting Actor

    Christoph Waltz, "Django Unchained."

  • Jennifer Lawrence

  • Halle Berry

  • Kristen Bell

  • Jessica Chastain

  • Tina Fey

  • Amy Poehler

  • Sally Field

  • Olivia Munn

  • Lena Dunham

  • Bradley Cooper

  • Ryan Seacrest, Julianne Hough

  • Megan Hilty

  • Zooey Deschanel

  • Megan Fox, Brian Austin Green

  • Johnny Galecki

  • Julia Louis-Dreyfus

  • Isla Fisher in Reem Acra

  • Lena Dunham in Zac Posen

  • Claire Danes in Versace

  • Amy Adams in Marchesa

  • Zooey Deschanel in Oscar de la Renta

  • Carla Gugino

  • Alyssa Milano

  • Ariel Winter in Valentino

  • Michelle Dockery in Alexander Vauthier

  • Nicole Richie in Naeem Khan

 

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The older I get and the more grounded in - or perhaps slapped by - real life I become, the less I care what's going on in Hollywood. My husband had The Golden Globes on Sunday night and I caught appro...
The older I get and the more grounded in - or perhaps slapped by - real life I become, the less I care what's going on in Hollywood. My husband had The Golden Globes on Sunday night and I caught appro...
 
 
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Dr. G
Family Doc, Parenting Speaker, Mom of 4
05:25 PM on 01/16/2013
Some movies are life-changing, thought-changing art. Did you see Lincoln? Wow! Some movies... not-so-much. Did you see Lincoln: Vampire Slayer? Yikes. But I think it is safe to say that most of the industry surrounding Hollywood is making money from spectacle, not substance!
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Robin Farr
07:12 PM on 01/17/2013
Yes, I would agree. But when I find a life-changing, thought-changing movie? Love it.
05:36 AM on 01/16/2013
Hey Robin - This is a great piece. And echoes much of how I feel about these elaborate award shows. Of course it's all about the Hollywood money machine, that's all. I have no problem with people choosing this as their life/career. The issue I have is the underlying messages we send as a society, like what's important, what do we value. As you said, the everyday person who goes to work, working every day tirelessly for their families an /or for social improvement is not glorified. But the Hollywood machine has an endless amount of ceremonies for the over the top, unrealistic version of reality. I'm not slamming celebrities here. Great piece.
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Robin Farr
07:12 PM on 01/17/2013
Exactly, Kathy. That's it exactly.
10:29 PM on 01/15/2013
I don't like the term "real women" as it implies that because a woman is being held to some sort of reversal of standards, where if you wear a "low cut dress" as the article states, she is somehow not exercising her freedom of choice. Maybe she just feels pretty in a dress so she wanted to wear one. It does not denigrate her worth as a woman.

Besides that, the news and the world in general revolves heavily around the entertainment industry. It is not just women doing real work who are being ignored. How often do we really hear about the breaking new science news? Do we have a televised show of the Nobel Prize awards show? So although I do not disagree with the overall message of the article that entertainment industry is overly sensationalized and there are many other things that deserve more recognition... I don't think a low cut dress is the 'real' issue here.
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Robin Farr
07:15 PM on 01/17/2013
Chelsea, I totally take your point about "real women." It's not that they're not real women, and I actually don't have an issue with a low-cut dress. I didn't think that particular one was flattering on her, but some of them are stunning and I think every woman should get to wear a fantastic dress at least once in her life. Those who get to do it more often are lucky - feeling stunning and princessy is a beautiful thing.

I only actually noticed her dress because she was talking about Hollywood conventions, and that dress - because of its style and not just because it was revealing - seemed so very conventional Hollywood. Not to say that makes her a horrible person or one worthy of criticism, but I thought it was a bit ironic.
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Alison Lee Bakush
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08:16 PM on 01/15/2013
The beautiful part about these women who work tirelessly without the dresses, and the awards, and the fame, is that they don't do it for those things. Their hearts are pure, as are their causes. And they have the love and support of people anyway.

Great post, Robin!
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Robin Farr
07:16 PM on 01/17/2013
That's true - they do have the love and support of people. And that's a much more heartwarming thing than seeing a celebrity win an award, to be sure.
06:24 PM on 01/15/2013
We are all real women. Stay-at-home moms who can barely gather their thoughts and energy to pull words together let alone an outfit, we are real women. Jessica Chastain who celebrated her successes in a gorgeous, classy and yes, a low-cut blue dress is a real woman. The dress may have simply been a bow to femininity. Thankfully we live in a society where we can wear comfortable sweats when we want and a sexy dress when we want. We have come that far but we have a long way to go. We are real women and we have battles to fight. In order to win those battles we need to be united in advancing our interests. Real women in the trenches and real women portraying them on the big screen. Recognizing and celebrating the latter doesn’t have to be to the exclusion of the former.

Maybe one day Jessica Chastain will portray Erin Margolin and memorialize the story of The Gay Dad Project. Maybe one day postpartum depression will be given the discussion it needs and a well-written script will tell the story of Yael Saar or Katherine Stone. Like you said “something has to drive progress and popular culture certainly plays a role.” I don’t think that anyone would argue with the importance of storytelling in the human culture and so yes, starring as a “powerful, fearless women” in a film can make a difference in our world.
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Robin Farr
10:30 PM on 01/15/2013
Thanks for that perspective. I do agree with you that it should be a "one for all" approach, but my struggle is with this: I know our society will likely never celebrate women doing the kind of work I referenced with the same awe and frequency with which we do celebrities. That's the reality when the rest of the world isn't rich, universally beautiful and draped in intrigued by their very existence in the ideal of popular culture. And, while I'm certainly not about to get all feminist (not in my nature) I feel that most of the time Hollywood - including the women who work there - do more of a disservice to women than help them.

I certainly don't mean to criticize those who have chosen a Hollywood career. And my question about whether their work makes a difference was not, in fact, rhetorical. I do wonder what influence they have. Does it push us where we want to be? Does it raise significant awareness about certain issues? I think so. Probably. But I'm not sure how much.

I just wish there were a middle ground when it comes to giving out golden statues.
04:04 PM on 01/15/2013
While I agree with you that women who are doing amazing and necessary things for social justice need to be promoted and appreciated more by our society, maybe there is room for both. Film celebrates and communicates to a broader audience stories just such as this. Movies based on real-life stories like Erin Brockovich and The Innocence Project or fictional stories that have their roots in real life struggles and inspire us, move us, change us, unite us because, like it or not, the glamour of Hollywood does have the power to make changes in our society. So yes, in answer to your question, I do think that starring as a "powerful, fearless woman" in a movie can really make a difference in our world. Maybe Jessica Chastain will be the one to bring The Gay Dad Project to the big screen and memorialize forever the story of women like Erin Margolin. I do know that our society could use helpful knowledge about postpartum depression and a great script could do that. So, while the one group needs more exposure, the other group shouldn't get a bad rap just because they are getting what the others deserve too.
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Amanda Magee
03:08 PM on 01/15/2013
This is very true. I think we'd do well to not expect Hollywood or the general public to laud real women until we do. For every tweet we send out slamming a celebrity we could be lifting up things and people like Katherine and Erin. Thank you for reminding us of this.
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Robin Farr
10:32 PM on 01/15/2013
That's a great point, Amanda. I very deliberately don't slam celebrities, in tweets or otherwise. I know there are those who get their enjoyment from tweeting entertainment snark, but I'm not one of them. I always try to remember that celebrities are real people and, just as I do with anyone on the other end of a tweet, remember that there's a person behind the persona. I'm trying instead to spend more time supporting the stuff I think needs more attention, such as the work and the women I mentioned.