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Stop Using Kids as Door-to-Door Fundraisers

Posted: 10/03/2012 9:16 am

Who hasn't bought some waxy, chocolate-covered almonds from a kid that was selling them door-to-door? Or perhaps you may have parted with your hard-earned cash due to the incredible guilt felt after seeing a cute but wary child holding up a sorry-looking box of "candy" in front of your local supermarket. A decades-old standard of childhood, the "selling chocolates" (or similar items) mandate is, quite frankly, getting old.

And potentially dangerous.

We tell our children repeatedly not to talk to strangers, yet we may still consider sending them along on their merry way to strangers' homes, asking for money. Such an ironic switch on the age-old fear that parents everywhere warn their children about -- taking candy from a stranger. Now, we are telling our kids to give candy to a stranger, and also give them our blessings in the process.

As schools are increasingly looking for ways to raise funds due to funding cutbacks and otherwise, the topic of fundraising- by-child is not going away anytime soon. This model for getting money into the schools' coffers may be effective, but at what cost?

Way back when I was a child, being a chocolate huckster was the norm. All of my friends did it. We all sold chocolates door-to-door and there was very little thought given to the potential dangers or consequences of such actions. Indeed, as the years have passed and parents have become more aware of the potential dangers that lurk just beyond our threshold, many of us have pulled back on this practice. That being said, there are still a fair amount of kids that continue to appear at our collective doors, asking for money. In this day and age, the practice is not only dated but problematic as well.

Some issues with this fundraising model:

1) Aside from the obvious potential for danger, sending the kids out to sell chocolates and candy on behalf of the school automatically sets up competition between friends;

2) Our children will experience undue pressure and stress about meeting an "acceptable" quota of sales for the school and potential feelings of guilt and failure if said quotas are not achieved;

3) The parents are unwittingly dragged into an activity of which they neither asked for or wanted, causing resentment, aggravation and general irritation all around. It's not uncommon for parents to feel obliged to sell their child's chocolates at their own place of employment in order to help the child to reach their goal (making both parents and non-parents alike uncomfortable and often angry).

Either that or they have to make the choice between sending their child door-to-door, leaving mom or dad feeling uneasy and stressed, or go out with the kids to canvas and feel irritated and somewhat embarrassed that they've become a shill for the local school board. Neither option seems acceptable.

Recently in my area, there has also been a newer form of the old "candy-sell" practice in the name of magazine subscriptions. In this fundraising model 2.0, kids are provided with the millennium edition of the candy-sell game by now selling subscriptions to popular magazines.

In this current permutation, the desired end result is the same: as much money as possible is to be raised for the child's class and/or school. The problem with this method of fundraising is that not only does it have all of the negative elements of the traditional chocolate-selling method, but it also puts kids at a further disadvantage in terms of their ability to achieve.

After all, let's face it: these days, how many people actually read a physical magazine? In the digital world in which we live, e-readers, online subscriptions and easily-accessed .PDF files are the norm. This reality sets up yet a further barrier to children's ability to achieve the monetary goal behind the fundraising campaign.

And let's not even get into the part of this particular drive that gives "prizes" to the kids that sell the most -- often expensive tech gadgets such as iPads supplied by the magazine publisher -- that compel kids to want to sell, sell, sell. One has to wonder about the obvious question that this situation poses: if the magazine suppliers and publishers have so much money, why don't they just donate to the school? It's sad to think that the answer is that selling subscriptions is more important, and even sadder to think that children are being used to do so.

With both of these fundraising methods, the question remains - should we be employing our kids to raise money for their schools? Because that's what we're doing in a manner of speaking: getting our kids to "sing for their supper" through work detail.

Danger, stress and general irritation notwithstanding, perhaps its time that we rid our schools completely of these troublesome fundraising tactics. The chocolates that are supplied are generally substandard and the magazine-selling model just doesn't fly in an age of e-readers. More importantly, in our haste to send out kids out the door in search of money for their class, we are losing sight of the fact that they're kids -- and last time I checked, kids don't work. They play.

Just my two cents.

 

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Who hasn't bought some waxy, chocolate-covered almonds from a kid that was selling them door-to-door? Or perhaps you may have parted with your hard-earned cash due to the incredible guilt felt after s...
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12:25 AM on 11/26/2012
I agree completely that there is something wrong with sending kids out selling chocolate door-to-door, and would add another two reasons against it:

1) We try to set healthy eating messages for kids, and selling chocolate is contradictory
2) The people who make the most money out of chocolate drives are the chocolate companies rather than the schools.

As a parent I'd rather pay $2 to get my daughter to eat a vegetable than a chocolate bar, so why not ask kids to do something positive? There are a lot of better ideas out there if schools stopped and thought about it. And luckily, not all schools subscribe to the child-sales model! I think we'll see a shift in future as more parents protest and push for better fundraising ideas.
07:02 PM on 10/04/2012
My daughters school is having a fun run. They are asking for either a flat rate donation or you can chose to donate per lap the child runs. We also have the option of spending $5 on a sign to cheer the kids on. This fundraiser has proven to be more effective than selling crap to our friends and families. So far no word on where this money goes, but they do encourage parents to not allow their kids to go door to door for the money. I'll be fronting a good portion of money for my 2 kids and add any donations their family members decide to donate. The prizes are things like movie tickets, t shirts, popcorn parties for the class etc and a ice cream social for the whole school of they raise $15,000 which they prefect they can do if each kid raises $30. I hate asking my family and friends to buy crap from my kids so this works out better for us. I just wish I knew where the money was going.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
08:58 AM on 10/05/2012
These sound like much better ideas than going door-to-door, Misty. It would be great if all schools adopted these types of tactics for raising money. Perhaps with more support and pressure on our school boards, we can make these type of events the norm, not the exception.
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09:50 PM on 10/03/2012
It's not really the kids their using it's YOU!
The parents do all the selling to their suffering business associates and underlings.
Nobody risks their kids door to door.

The scam is brilliant in its simplicity and it's all based on guilt.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
12:04 PM on 10/04/2012
Agree that guilt is a huge factor in this "business model." By putting the pressure on the kids, the parents are unwittingly pulled into the fray as they want to help their children. Hence, the obligatory sales of their kids' various fare at work and otherwise. Who's winning in this situation? Certainly not the children.
05:22 PM on 10/03/2012
Not everyone has the wherewithall to be salespeople... people with autistic spectrum conditions, for example.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
12:05 PM on 10/04/2012
That's a valid point as well. And as I said in the article, why employ children to be salespeople at such a young age? There's plenty of time for them to get into the workforce when they're older; we should just let kids be kids.
12:50 PM on 10/03/2012
Failure is contagious: Let you children do nothing, teach them nothing, and nothing is what they will become.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
04:44 PM on 10/03/2012
Failure may indeed be contagious, but how that equates to children doing nothing I'm not sure. Nowhere in the article do I state that children should do nothing. As a matter of fact, and just to be clear, I'm a strong proponent of kids doing something as I do think it makes them more rounded adults. It's the actual "something" - in this case, door-to-door sales to which I take issue.
06:07 PM on 10/03/2012
Nothing makes a child more rounded than having them face a challenge. Selling is a great challenge to teach character and confidence. Baby birds get pushed out of the nest when they need to learn how to fly. For some reason, North America society underestimates youth and what can be achieved by a child. By coddling our youth, we give them a false sense of security and greatly increase their mental health issues from adolescence through adulthood. The 'Participation Ribbon' theory where everyone is a winner is unproven. Sure, researched has shown children to be better adapted and healthier but it has not proven to make those same children successful and healthy in mind as adults.

The number one factor that contributes to the success of an individual is how many positive relationships they had with adults as a children. ...the United Way of Minneapolis studied this for 30 years and that's what was found. I had hundreds if not thousands of positive interactions with adults selling as a child.
12:45 PM on 10/03/2012
You also speak out about awarding prizes for achievement: In life we do not get ribbons for participation. Life is about reaping rewards for your achievements. Awards (or prizes) are great motivation for development and success. The world you suggest we 'share' does not exist and never will. There are winners and there are losers and it's great to teach kids good values early and how to ethically come out on top! Life is full of rewards and prizes and people need to get out and earn them.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
04:42 PM on 10/03/2012
Yes, there are winners and there are losers but this is a lesson that can be better taught through more constructive measures, in my opinion. Setting up the kids to win or lose in a forum where they are selling items door to door is more problematic than helpful. How about learning the lesson through sports or other recreational activities? I just don't see the positive aspect of selling chocolates door to door when you are of single-digit age.
05:45 PM on 10/03/2012
Kids use the money they raise in these activities to pay for sports or other recreational activities...and no it's not governments responsibility to cover these costs because we don't want higher taxes and there are other priorities for funding (i.e. health care, education, and infrastructure)

It's not as easy and clear cut as your article reads. By saying such things people will close there wallets and it will be the children who loose out. With declining incomes and increase in activity costs, more parents can not afford activities for their children. Shut out this type of activity and fewer programs will exists and fewer children participate in the existing programs and our society loses out.

...and yes, door-to-door selling teaches skills and confidence that is applicable through out their lives.
05:55 PM on 10/03/2012
No there is not a more constructive measure. In the real world people don't get glad handed when faced with a challenge. Children have been active in bartering, buying, and selling since the beginning of humankind; these skills are essential to being a successful independent adult.

I sold door-to-door from the age of 8, enjoyed it, and it taught me a lot about people, myself, and speaking effectively.

...there was one time $250 dollars fell out of my pocket somewhere in my travels after I had worked selling hard without a break for 6 hours. I was devastated by my own stupidity. My dad consoled me and covered my loss as this had to be accounted for. ...this was just plain bad luck (just like real life) a life learning lesson and I learned a lot (just from this) that I carry with me today. It taught me character not just in preventing such things or dealing with such things but also learning from my dad as I watched him handled the issue with care and integrity.
05:25 PM on 10/03/2012
It's about cutting your neighbour's throat in this dog eat dog we live in... psychopathy is the way to be!
06:33 PM on 10/03/2012
Actually, no it's not! It's about teaching kids good values early and how to ethically come out on top! Good ethics is about creating situations where everyone gains. Look up 'spiritual agnosticism' ...what you do is more important that what you believe. Those who work hard and learn the skills to be successful will prosper.
12:11 PM on 10/03/2012
I'm from south of the border. I have serious issues with school fundraising. My town of 23,000 people has an annual school budget of $70 million for (1) High School, (1) Middle School and (4) Grade Schools. My tax burden alone for the school is $5000 annually. Tell me why my kids need to be selling crap for the school? With all the talk of obesity, why in hell are the school kids selling candy etc.? They won't let you have a bake sale at the school because it's unhealthy for the kids to eat the junk they sell but, perfectly OK to sell outside of school? Where are all the millions the school gets going? Overpaid-under worked teachers, overpaid-under worked administration, new schools when the old ones were perfectly fine, the list goes on. I would have absolutely no issue at all if the school needed the funds(they clearly DO NOT), or the fundraising went to a particular purpose that benefited the child directly. When I was in school there was an annual trip to Washington. Throughout the year we'd sell magazines, Christmas decorations etc. that went into a fund to pay for MY portion of the trip. All my hard work benefited me and me only. I have no issues if this were the case but nowadays, it isn't. What in hell could the school possibly need that the $70 million won't cover, but my kids selling door to door for 20 bucks can?
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
02:34 PM on 10/03/2012
So many good points that you have made here. The issue of taxes - yes, we need to ask for more accountability regarding what we are in fact paying for, and why kids are still required to sell goods in order to make up the shortfall.

The issue of healthy eating and foods at school is often noted, but as you've rightly stated, the selling of chocolates and other sweets is completely contrary to what the school is teaching about health, sending a mixed message to the parents and children. This type of thing also makes the school lose credibility, making it more difficult for them to "sell" any other ideas to parents, even if they're reasonable.
11:34 AM on 10/03/2012
You've made light of some small disadvantages while totally washing over the obvious advantages of school fundraisers. Speaking as a teacher in a poorer rural area of Quebec, (which as a province just cut $200,000,000 from their education budget over the next three years), I know the real benefit of these fundraisers. At our school, only the children that participate reap the benefits; they can put that money towards workbooks, school supplies, field trip fees, and extra-curriculars. If Parents are worried about their children, they can accompany them; if they can't go with them then they don't do the fundraiser. If parents are "annoyed" at the attempts to raise money for their children then they don't have to participate. Additionally, I would argue that very few children would feel guilty, and that competition isn't so bad. This article tells me that either you don't have kids, or you have the means to provide for all of the above expenses without concern.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
04:49 PM on 10/03/2012
First off, I do have children. As a matter of fact, I have four, so I feel that I am well qualified to discuss this topic. Secondly, I don't have the means to "provide for all the above expenses without concern." Like many people, I am on a budget and do not fall into the category of those who have unlimited discretionary income.

Sure, parents can accompany their children on these jaunts door-to-door, but whether or not they actually want to do so is the question. As noted in my article, I'd venture to guess that they don't, and if they do go out with their children, they do so grudgingly. Further, the point about parents who are annoyed at being asked for money being able to refrain: it is often difficult to do so when a colleague or coworker comes in to work with a box of chocolates and most of the other colleagues participate. Peer pressure exists, even amongst adults, in the workplace, sadly.
10:52 AM on 10/03/2012
Perhaps this is where kids learn that money doesn't grow on trees and that if they want extracurricular programs, or class trips that they need to earn some of funds that are needed. It's no wonder that society thinks that they should get everything for nothing.
Parents who want their kids in sports programs don't want the schools spending money on drama programs or auto shop and vice versa. And don't suggest that the parents do the fundraising because there are too many of them that just dont care either way.
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10:50 AM on 10/03/2012
My 1.75 cents (inflation you know)
1) I think the whole "Don't talk to strangers" is hogwash. most kidnappings, sex abuse etc, are committed by people the child knows and trusts. The pedophile probably isn't sitting at home waiting for some kid to happen by randomly.
2) I prefer the kids coming out to sell me stuff, rather than the parent dumping a pledge form on my desk at work and demanding I contribute. If the child is going to gain some benefit, at least have them put some effort into it.
3) School is a competition, our society is based on the model of competition. This is Darwinism at work!!! Let the games begin, for at what point do you want children learning that they are competing for money, jobs, partners, homes, etc with everyone else. There is no defined age for this.
4) It is the lot of parents to get their children to do tasks they don't want to do, run, brush teeth, not eat a pound of chocolate for breakfast. But in the long run it is a growth experience. I don't resent my parents for sending me out to sell cookies and popcorn, it was kinda fun.

So let the kids come out, it will help rebuild neighborhoods as we get to know those who live around us, not be afraid of them.
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12:23 PM on 10/03/2012
"School is a competition, our society is based on the model of competition"..You might be right but this is not something to encourage. In school and at home we should teach collaboration and working together. And maybe they'll come up with a different and better model of society than what we have today.
05:26 PM on 10/03/2012
If our society is based on that then we need a revolution.
06:44 PM on 10/03/2012
Ware, we are here because of competition. We must work with competitive factors and not deny them. It's not win at all cost but rather the best way to win. Some will always be at the top and some will always be at the bottom...it is our nature. What we can teach our children is how to reach a hand out to towards the bottom but they will be more effective at doing this if they are closer to the top.
10:10 AM on 10/03/2012
I gave up buying anything from school driven funding campaigns at work years ago. I got tired of the pressure to buy things that I did not want, and thus the need to buy from every campaign presented by co-workers to avoid looking as if I played favorites. I may have appeared to be a grouch, but I felt much more liberated by the opting out of the fundraising 'merry-go-round'. I also found that at the end of my children's school days, I would buy the entire books of whatever lottery tickets were being sold for fundraising instead of bothering my co-workers.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
12:34 PM on 10/04/2012
Good for you for saying no, Czecher2. I wish I had done so years ago, after feeling pressured to buy some really bad chocolates from colleagues in order to support their kids' fundraisers. I think if everyone said a collective "no" to this ridiculous practice of using kids as salespeople, it would be eliminated quickly.
09:56 AM on 10/03/2012
I can't stress enough how much I am in complete agreement with this! My husband and I have come to the consensus that we will not be supporting the door to door sales, especially if they come to our home after dark. In our neighborhood, either the kids come to the door at inappropriate hours (after dark) or unsupervised and unprepared. One parent sends out an e-mail to the neighborhood asking if anyone would like to purchase items, outlining what the cause is. This is a slightly better approach in my mind, but it then puts the responsibility on the parents to sell. I am utterly confused as to how this method of fundraising evolved and why it is acceptable in this day and age.

If a child would like to put effort into something they made and take pride in what they are selling, I would support their efforts. For example, at a local art juried art fair, kids are allowed to set up a booth and sell their art/crafts. What a wonderful way to take pride in what you do as well as learn about buying & selling items.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
12:37 PM on 10/04/2012
I like the idea of the email. It makes is so much more streamlined and civilized. Putting your foot down is the first step to stopping this practice. On more than one occasion, I have had a young child (7 or 8 years old) come to my door after 7pm, in the dark, selling chocolates - alone. I almost always ask them where their parents are, and they almost always say "at home." Call me over protective but I think that this is incredibly dangerous and not a good idea for the reasons I've already stated.
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Jenny Isenman
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09:50 AM on 10/03/2012
I'm with you... Plus, I can't tell you how much candy I buy and then am FORCED to eat because of cute kids selling it at my door.
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
10:07 AM on 10/03/2012
Jenny, you are too funny! Always a positive and humorous spin on things.
01:51 PM on 10/03/2012
Samantha, you are biased only allowing comments to post that are jokes, favorable, or very soft critiques. Surprising! ...shame, shame
09:48 AM on 10/03/2012
I think it's win-win-win-win for everybody. The school raises money for an event or charitable organization, kids learn the value of a bit of "work" (any different than a paper route?), I get my delicious chocoloates and magazines (even though I have an e-reader), and the chocolate company stays in business. How often does harm come to kids going door-to-door? I don't think that is a rational fear. Win x 4
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Samantha Kemp-Jackson
12:39 PM on 10/04/2012
This IS different from a paper route in that the kids aren't pocketing the money at the end of the day - the school is. Sure, it's supposedly for the kids' supplies and such, but do parents or kids really have the ability to discuss and vote on how the funds are allocated? Usually the answer is '"no." I think that this fear is not irrational because it will only take one horror story of a child running into trouble and everyone will be up in arms about how this child was canvassing door-to-door alone.
02:07 PM on 10/04/2012
I remember fundraising for new physed equipment as a child and everybody, including parents were happy to have it. I only mentioned the paper route to demonstrate kids have been going door-to-door to "work" for a long time and your fear of the "bad guys" is less rational than the dreaded poinsoned halloween candy myth as it's never even happened and you're already up in arms. Talk about paranoia.
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09:13 AM on 10/03/2012
Too much "stranger danger" to send kids door to door.maybe the uber rich teachers pension fund could pony up some cash to help the kids out each year.It would show exactly where their priorities were.