Who hasn't bought some waxy, chocolate-covered almonds from a kid that was selling them door-to-door? Or perhaps you may have parted with your hard-earned cash due to the incredible guilt felt after seeing a cute but wary child holding up a sorry-looking box of "candy" in front of your local supermarket. A decades-old standard of childhood, the "selling chocolates" (or similar items) mandate is, quite frankly, getting old.
And potentially dangerous.
We tell our children repeatedly not to talk to strangers, yet we may still consider sending them along on their merry way to strangers' homes, asking for money. Such an ironic switch on the age-old fear that parents everywhere warn their children about -- taking candy from a stranger. Now, we are telling our kids to give candy to a stranger, and also give them our blessings in the process.
As schools are increasingly looking for ways to raise funds due to funding cutbacks and otherwise, the topic of fundraising- by-child is not going away anytime soon. This model for getting money into the schools' coffers may be effective, but at what cost?
Way back when I was a child, being a chocolate huckster was the norm. All of my friends did it. We all sold chocolates door-to-door and there was very little thought given to the potential dangers or consequences of such actions. Indeed, as the years have passed and parents have become more aware of the potential dangers that lurk just beyond our threshold, many of us have pulled back on this practice. That being said, there are still a fair amount of kids that continue to appear at our collective doors, asking for money. In this day and age, the practice is not only dated but problematic as well.
Some issues with this fundraising model:
1) Aside from the obvious potential for danger, sending the kids out to sell chocolates and candy on behalf of the school automatically sets up competition between friends;
2) Our children will experience undue pressure and stress about meeting an "acceptable" quota of sales for the school and potential feelings of guilt and failure if said quotas are not achieved;
3) The parents are unwittingly dragged into an activity of which they neither asked for or wanted, causing resentment, aggravation and general irritation all around. It's not uncommon for parents to feel obliged to sell their child's chocolates at their own place of employment in order to help the child to reach their goal (making both parents and non-parents alike uncomfortable and often angry).
Either that or they have to make the choice between sending their child door-to-door, leaving mom or dad feeling uneasy and stressed, or go out with the kids to canvas and feel irritated and somewhat embarrassed that they've become a shill for the local school board. Neither option seems acceptable.
Recently in my area, there has also been a newer form of the old "candy-sell" practice in the name of magazine subscriptions. In this fundraising model 2.0, kids are provided with the millennium edition of the candy-sell game by now selling subscriptions to popular magazines.
In this current permutation, the desired end result is the same: as much money as possible is to be raised for the child's class and/or school. The problem with this method of fundraising is that not only does it have all of the negative elements of the traditional chocolate-selling method, but it also puts kids at a further disadvantage in terms of their ability to achieve.
After all, let's face it: these days, how many people actually read a physical magazine? In the digital world in which we live, e-readers, online subscriptions and easily-accessed .PDF files are the norm. This reality sets up yet a further barrier to children's ability to achieve the monetary goal behind the fundraising campaign.
And let's not even get into the part of this particular drive that gives "prizes" to the kids that sell the most -- often expensive tech gadgets such as iPads supplied by the magazine publisher -- that compel kids to want to sell, sell, sell. One has to wonder about the obvious question that this situation poses: if the magazine suppliers and publishers have so much money, why don't they just donate to the school? It's sad to think that the answer is that selling subscriptions is more important, and even sadder to think that children are being used to do so.
With both of these fundraising methods, the question remains - should we be employing our kids to raise money for their schools? Because that's what we're doing in a manner of speaking: getting our kids to "sing for their supper" through work detail.
Danger, stress and general irritation notwithstanding, perhaps its time that we rid our schools completely of these troublesome fundraising tactics. The chocolates that are supplied are generally substandard and the magazine-selling model just doesn't fly in an age of e-readers. More importantly, in our haste to send out kids out the door in search of money for their class, we are losing sight of the fact that they're kids -- and last time I checked, kids don't work. They play.
Just my two cents.
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1) We try to set healthy eating messages for kids, and selling chocolate is contradictory
2) The people who make the most money out of chocolate drives are the chocolate companies rather than the schools.
As a parent I'd rather pay $2 to get my daughter to eat a vegetable than a chocolate bar, so why not ask kids to do something positive? There are a lot of better ideas out there if schools stopped and thought about it. And luckily, not all schools subscribe to the child-sales model! I think we'll see a shift in future as more parents protest and push for better fundraising ideas.
The parents do all the selling to their suffering business associates and underlings.
Nobody risks their kids door to door.
The scam is brilliant in its simplicity and it's all based on guilt.
The number one factor that contributes to the success of an individual is how many positive relationships they had with adults as a children. ...the United Way of Minneapolis studied this for 30 years and that's what was found. I had hundreds if not thousands of positive interactions with adults selling as a child.
It's not as easy and clear cut as your article reads. By saying such things people will close there wallets and it will be the children who loose out. With declining incomes and increase in activity costs, more parents can not afford activities for their children. Shut out this type of activity and fewer programs will exists and fewer children participate in the existing programs and our society loses out.
...and yes, door-to-door selling teaches skills and confidence that is applicable through out their lives.
I sold door-to-door from the age of 8, enjoyed it, and it taught me a lot about people, myself, and speaking effectively.
...there was one time $250 dollars fell out of my pocket somewhere in my travels after I had worked selling hard without a break for 6 hours. I was devastated by my own stupidity. My dad consoled me and covered my loss as this had to be accounted for. ...this was just plain bad luck (just like real life) a life learning lesson and I learned a lot (just from this) that I carry with me today. It taught me character not just in preventing such things or dealing with such things but also learning from my dad as I watched him handled the issue with care and integrity.
The issue of healthy eating and foods at school is often noted, but as you've rightly stated, the selling of chocolates and other sweets is completely contrary to what the school is teaching about health, sending a mixed message to the parents and children. This type of thing also makes the school lose credibility, making it more difficult for them to "sell" any other ideas to parents, even if they're reasonable.
Sure, parents can accompany their children on these jaunts door-to-door, but whether or not they actually want to do so is the question. As noted in my article, I'd venture to guess that they don't, and if they do go out with their children, they do so grudgingly. Further, the point about parents who are annoyed at being asked for money being able to refrain: it is often difficult to do so when a colleague or coworker comes in to work with a box of chocolates and most of the other colleagues participate. Peer pressure exists, even amongst adults, in the workplace, sadly.
Parents who want their kids in sports programs don't want the schools spending money on drama programs or auto shop and vice versa. And don't suggest that the parents do the fundraising because there are too many of them that just dont care either way.
1) I think the whole "Don't talk to strangers" is hogwash. most kidnappings, sex abuse etc, are committed by people the child knows and trusts. The pedophile probably isn't sitting at home waiting for some kid to happen by randomly.
2) I prefer the kids coming out to sell me stuff, rather than the parent dumping a pledge form on my desk at work and demanding I contribute. If the child is going to gain some benefit, at least have them put some effort into it.
3) School is a competition, our society is based on the model of competition. This is Darwinism at work!!! Let the games begin, for at what point do you want children learning that they are competing for money, jobs, partners, homes, etc with everyone else. There is no defined age for this.
4) It is the lot of parents to get their children to do tasks they don't want to do, run, brush teeth, not eat a pound of chocolate for breakfast. But in the long run it is a growth experience. I don't resent my parents for sending me out to sell cookies and popcorn, it was kinda fun.
So let the kids come out, it will help rebuild neighborhoods as we get to know those who live around us, not be afraid of them.
If a child would like to put effort into something they made and take pride in what they are selling, I would support their efforts. For example, at a local art juried art fair, kids are allowed to set up a booth and sell their art/crafts. What a wonderful way to take pride in what you do as well as learn about buying & selling items.