Shawna Scafe
Shawna is a stay at home mom of three living in small town British Columbia. Her friends know her as their nerdy girlfriend who eats too many waffles and always has a reno on the go. You may know her as the mom seeking simpler living, simpler style and simpler wellness. You can find her at Simple on Purpose writing openly and honestly about her momfails, God's grace, dry shampoo, marriage and how her family is seeking a life with less stuff and less stress.

Entries by Shawna Scafe

The Push And Pull Of Motherhood

(0) Comments | Posted April 11, 2017 | 12:55 PM

I remember watching a friend parent her five-year-old boy. I didn't have kids yet, but I saw how he would push the limits and anger her. I was so impressed that she kept her calm and always welcomed him into her arms for a hug and moved on with a...

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Why You Should Date Your Friends

(1) Comments | Posted November 7, 2016 | 10:59 AM

Since I'll be 34 this summer, I feel like I can say with certainty that I didn't know a thing in my twenties (other than how to wear socks and sandals and identify the native plants of Southern B.C. What a catch!). My thirties have given me a...

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The Biggest Lie We Can Believe Is That We Are Alone

(5) Comments | Posted February 18, 2016 | 10:31 AM

Dear friend,

Today my heart ached for you, and I don't mean that as cliché. I clutched my hands to my chest and winced. There was a grief inside me, shooting down to the deep parts of my love for you. A love, our love, so knowing and intuitive that...

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I'm Changing One Small Habit A Month

(0) Comments | Posted January 11, 2016 | 2:32 PM

So intentional living, setting goals, dream bigger dreams, blah, blah, blah. Long story short, there is a tension that needs some easing. That tension is knowing that I live the life I live -- then I write the life I want to live on paper -- and they...

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8 Myths To Bust For Stress-Free Hosting

(0) Comments | Posted December 21, 2015 | 12:40 PM

Last night we had friends over for hot dogs and chips. It was simple, laid back and enjoyable. A far cry from the hosting I used to try to accomplish.

I used to be a stressball hostess.

I know it is because I was trying to impress. I would run...

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42 Simple Ways To Spread Some Love This Christmas

(0) Comments | Posted December 21, 2015 | 10:16 AM

Twice. That's how many times everything I believed about Christmas has been torn to little sparkly shreds of lies.

First, when my older brother told me there was no Santa. I cried on the couch in my parent's lap.

Second, when I found out that Jesus probably wasn't really...

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9 Ways To Make Your Gifts More Thoughtful

(0) Comments | Posted December 18, 2015 | 11:07 AM

We all feel the tension. The commercialization versus the simple joy of togetherness. The presents versus the presence.

Of course, I'd like to raise charitable kids over entitled kids, but I don't want them to think there is anything wrong with presents. I like presents! To me, the perfect gift...

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5 Tips For Having A Simpler Christmas

(1) Comments | Posted December 3, 2015 | 11:29 AM

Christmas was likely a holiday that you adored as a child. You can smile and rattle off some treasured family traditions. Even if it was something strange and simple, like stealing the Christmas tree from the Christmas Eve church service because your Dad was a holiday Scrooge and you hadn't...

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A Thanksgiving Journal

(0) Comments | Posted October 9, 2015 | 6:44 PM

Since my oldest son was born almost five years ago I nearly memorized every 'family tradition' pin to every cross the Pinterest-verse. I have been overeager to start new, memorable traditions as a young family.

A few years in, and a couple more kids later, I've realized that it...

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Play Doesn't Have to Be Picture Perfect

(0) Comments | Posted August 16, 2015 | 9:52 AM

I am all for being passionate about ANYTHING you do in life, from dicing seventeen onions to studying for your doctorate. Where there is passion, there is hope, drive and ultimately (hopefully) joy in the end result.

Passion doesn't always come with a...

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Redefining Success for Yourself

(0) Comments | Posted August 13, 2015 | 12:15 PM

We all want it, but we rarely put any personal definition behind what it ought to mean.

We want success, because success means we did things "right," success implies that we are in a great state of life. Therefore, we "ought" to be happy and well-off.

But we've spent our...

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Why My Marriage Lasting Isn't Just About Luck

(3) Comments | Posted July 3, 2015 | 12:22 PM

Today is our wedding anniversary.

Seven years married, 11 years together.

People look at the husband Conor is and tell me how "lucky" I am. He does the dishes whenever they need to be done (and they always need to be done). He doesn't bat an eye at being home...

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My Past Disappointments as a Mother Don't Matter to Me Now

(0) Comments | Posted June 9, 2015 | 1:04 PM

I didn't pay attention to most of the prenatal classes, though the eighties videos had my husband's eyes pried wide with various uncomfortable emotions. I glazed over the major content like the pain-relief drugs, the epidural, the C-section. I wouldn't need to know it, I was sure.

Rather, I...

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When Your Pregnant Best Friend Becomes Your Pregnant Frenemy

(3) Comments | Posted June 5, 2015 | 12:22 PM

You know that partner-in-crime, laugh-till-you-cry, friend you can't live without? She is great isn't she?

She shows up at your door with a bottle of wine in her PJs so you can do absolutely nothing together. She hates all your shady exes on your behalf. She is your shoe size,...

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A Capsule Wardrobe Will Speed Up Your Morning Routine

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2015 | 4:25 PM

In an effort to pursue more simple living as a family we've been purging "the excess" in our house. After all, I'm certain we don't need all 43 forks, seven pairs of tweezers, two broken brooms and enough toys to fill up a bouncy house.

This also means,...

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Instagram Helps Mothers Bond

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2015 | 1:04 PM

There was a time when new moms lived in neighbourhoods, homes, and communities filled with other moms. There was a sisterhood in motherhood. It took forms like spare hands to rock the babes, extra plates to stretch the family dinner, stories to entertain, advice to encourage tired eyes. Lodes were...

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I Love #Selfies and I Don't Care Who Knows It

(3) Comments | Posted May 20, 2015 | 12:36 PM

The other night my BFF asked me send her a selfie on my way to a big night out. Five years ago, maybe even one year ago, I would have said "Excaaauuuse me! I'm not that kind of lady." Instead, I snapped a plum-lipped smiling shot and awaited one in...

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Inside the Mind of a Pregnant Woman Shopping for Maternity Clothes

(0) Comments | Posted May 19, 2015 | 5:34 PM

Here is the mash up between my mental narration and the dressing room text messages between my sister and I (she was watching my two children) during my big day out to "stock up on maternity clothes."

My Brain: This will be so worth the two hour trip into town....

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How I Let Go of the Chase for Balance in Motherhood

(0) Comments | Posted May 15, 2015 | 5:40 PM

I remember sitting in my parent's living room with my nine-month-old on my lap. I was nauseated, tired and frazzled and my dad said, "what's going on with you?'. I almost burst into tears when I blurted, "I'm pregnant and I'm exhausted!". I don't remember much more, but I know...

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What Happened When I Got Rid Of Half My Kids' Toys

(2) Comments | Posted May 13, 2015 | 12:57 PM

The first time I took away half my kids toys it involved an "incident." The type of incident which included three jars of baby powder; me having an out-of-body experience of unreasonable calmness; a tearful vacuuming session; and two toddlers requiring baths. As punishment for said incident there was mopping...

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