“Personally, I believe that sex is personal. The craze around your article appears to be rather excessive, but just as you wrote here, people aren't as open about it, so it causes commotion. I don't think that the dramatic fixation from the media is necessary, similarly, I'm not sure that your sexual escapades should be so loosely shared. Save it for girls' nights and dear diaries perhaps?!?”
AmyAnon on Dec 9, 2012 at 20:03:21
“I agree. I don't care if she has sex. I think it's really about her personal need for a lot of attention. That part I find offensive. College students have been having all kinds of sex since the very beginning. Big deal. She writes about it and we're supposed to commend her for her "bravery?" Give me a break. This is to get attention - mostly male. And no surprise that most of the comments here are from a bunch of drooling men saying how great she is. Men are so easy. I would not be surprised in the least if she soon becomes a porn star.”
Wollstone Craft on Dec 9, 2012 at 17:49:39
“What would have happened if she had written the article in the third person? Not "my partner and I were going at it hard-core," but "some couples enjoy..." and "it is possible to..."”
“Fortunately, I know that my family and friends would immediately come to my rescue if I ever found myself in a financial crisis. I recognize that my cushion of comfort is rare and could not imagine that safety line not being there. Thanks for the reminder.”
Dec 6, 2012 at 00:14:30
“"Make the first move". Agreed. Why has this become such a dreaded task for the male species?”
Douglas Sinclair on Dec 6, 2012 at 15:16:45
“Oh, I forgot, NO TEXTING while "flirting".”
Douglas Sinclair on Dec 6, 2012 at 02:37:26
“Forget the nightclubs and upscale Irish/English wannabe pubs. Get two (2 only) friends, at least one of which is female and go to a working class tavern-type place on any Friday afternoon around 5:00 and shut up and LISTEN for an hour without trying to attract attention to yourself.
This is where real guys ( and women) from ALL strata like to hang. The high tech exec with the Mercedes has a quart with his old buddy who lays drywall and has a rusty bicycle. Forget the mags at the grocery check-out counter.
The real art of conversation is the most attractive of features and has zilch to do with anybody making "moves".
Sorry, it only works when its not a game.”
Lifeintheslowlane on Dec 6, 2012 at 02:01:22
“I'm not trying to be argumentative. I just want to point out that there's a flood of blogs, articles, films, novels, songs, etc. about female empowerment. "Empowerment" by definition means being proactive. Asking males to adapt to that in pretty much every area of life but then stay traditional in terms of flirting is really, really, really confusing.”
Dec 6, 2012 at 00:11:16
“This immediately makes me think of similar situations in other countries, where helpless baby girls are abandoned and boys are favoured. We, as Canadians, have been vocally opposed to those situations for decades, so I find it all rather puzzling that it is now up for debate, right here, at home.”
Tsadik on Dec 6, 2012 at 01:25:14
“2. It targets immigrants who are more likely to select for gender, and the poor who are less likely to be able to afford fertility specialist to choose a gender. But, since poor urban whites are not likely to select for gender, it doesn't really affect them. And rich immigrants can afford fertility specialists. So the only people this is targeting is poor immigrants of very specific cultures, many of which won't select for gender in a country where that's not really important (for example, the chinese select for gender in China because of the one child policy AND because females are less valued in certain spheres, not just the latter).”
Tsadik on Dec 6, 2012 at 01:25:07
“Its a silly debate to have.
Urban whites, which make up the majority of Canadian, if they were to select for gender would be as likely to select for a girl as much as a boy
Second, unlike in poorer countries we have more complex techniques to ensure the gender of the child at fertilization without abortion. For some reason, this is illegal in the UK.
So all of a sudden we take the power out of two arguments: That this is a big deal in Canada in such a way as to harm demographics (which is what is occuring in China and India and its just terrible), and the aborting of female fetuses/violence towards female babies.
Now, once we know that what could this bill be for?
1. Starts restricting abortions, which could be a slippery slope. I am not usually convinced by slippery slope arguments, but in situations where there is inaction and you act, it seems more likely to lead to more action. Right now politicians are afraid to talk about restricting abortions because the Supreme Court and the electorate haven't been kind to them. Once one restriction is passed, it become a viable political topic.”
Ian Llangan on Dec 6, 2012 at 01:13:27
“Except that this is not, in any comparable logical way, similar to what you describe for a multitude of reasons, not the least of which is that any group which pursues sex-selective abortions will soon find itself extinct. The ratio of boys to girls under the age of 12 in China right now is 10:1. TEN to ONE. Can you spell "looming demographic disaster"?”