“If making an anal sex porno is the worst thing one does in their life....I would be thankful for that. Rock bottom indeed! Drug addiction is worse. Murder or violence is worse. Sex on camera? Not so bad, really.”
sparky09 on Aug 7, 2013 at 01:58:52
“& with James Deen as co-star...Hubba!! Hubba!!”
Tim Moore on Aug 6, 2013 at 20:46:28
“Sex on camera with corpses has to be rock bottom..”
“I find this article to be trying too hard to feign outrage over a non-shocking thing. Someone decided to stay with their marriage. So what? I mean...is it THAT shocking that a couple would want to stay together after one partner was sexting (or had an affair, as this columnist states)? The mainstream culture wants to find any reason to condemn one person, and advise those who love them to abandon them.
Granted, if Weiner didn't have his wife's consent to be sexting this way, that was wrong. But shaming him (and ESPECIALLY his wife) for their life decisions reeks of towing of the mainstream line of fear of all things sexual.”
“The problem with this article is that it assumes a fit or stereotypically attractive body is the key to a successful romance. A fit or stereotypically attractive body isn't even an indicator of sexual chemistry or skills in the bedroom! So I wish we could get off this idea that someone looking "hot" (which is subjective), somehow indicates that someone is a good romantic or sexual partner. All it shows is that they are skilled in the kitchen and/or at the gym, and/or with the luck of their genetics.
Huffpost needs to be better than this.”
bluelyne on Jul 18, 2013 at 13:13:26
“Thank you. Hot bodies are a dime a dozen in Hollywood. If all it took was a good body to keep a man around then no male in Hollywood would cheat. This article like many of HP recently is stupid and shallow.”
“"For thousands of years of recorded human history, no society has defended the legal standard of marriage as anything other than between man and woman"
That is a lie on a magnitude of...large. Has she NEVER heard of societies that had polygamous marriages as a firmly acceptable cultural norm? And I don't even mean historically. There are cultures like that TODAY.
I wish she would answer the obvious question of:
"Are you ridiculously ignorant, or a ridiculous liar?"”
Personally, similar to how society views murder, I think when sexual activity happens without consent (rape) there is still a wide array of situations that affect how I would view the crime and the criminal. In some cases, (standard example is consensual sex by a teen couple that straddles the legal age of consent), I hate that someone is convicted of rape, and becomes a sex offender in some states. In the case of these football players, I am quite happy that they will spend some time in jail.”
“Ideally it won't be irrelevant. I hope she used this as motivation to examine her report, and possibly her attitudes. Maybe the backlash can direct her to learn and spread the word about victim's rights.
Not sure how likely it is, but it would be a nice silver lining...”
“I don't think I could quickly simplify them as "bad". Certainly they are not "good", but in thinking about it, I feel like these kids are (frighteningly) not as different compared to many other teenage boys as we might like to think.
Stopping crimes before they start is easier than dealing with them once they happen, which is why we need a lot of focus on sex education and teaching children about violence. AND given the majority of convicts will be free and on the street again some day, we as a society do need to pay more attention to education and rehabilitation, if we want to avoid repeat offenders. (Which I think we all do). Then hopefully the incidents of "bad kids" will be less and less.”
chiara12 on Mar 20, 2013 at 16:22:05
“I guess we will have to differ on this. People who rape are bad, they are not just misdirected or uneducated, they are bad. Not saying these kids didn't have some good traits within them or that they are profoundly evil but they are indeed bad almost men.
As far as sex education goes, well I agree that schools need to go all in on sex education but not as a means to prevent rape, but as a means to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Rape is about power and forced sex happens to be the means by which they want to demonstrate that power.
Yes, children need to be taught about violence and the prevention of it but it must be coupled with empathy and compassion.
We agree on most things, just not the "bad" thing. :-)”
“For Poppy to help diffuse the anger over this her response could be quite simple (even if not easy). She could do work reporting on and bringing attention to victims' support. She could go and visit shelters, and try to get the word out that victims are often forgotten about.
She might get some backlash of people that think she is doing it just to sway opinion/PR, but if she is impacting positive change through her actions, hopefully that would be minimal, or she wouldn't be concerned by it.”
“Good point. There could be socially empowering porn that outshines being a hooters waitress, but it is a far riskier to do the porn in our culture, and much more likely to end up with social ramifications in the mainstream. Similarly, people who had violent pasts are more easily forgiven than those that did porn.”
“Absolutely agree. She was either completely naive or completely ignorant in thinking that doing an adult video would NOT affect her pageant career. I certainly wouldn't argue that she shouldn't be fired if she broke the rules she knew about. (although she apparently resigned, or maybe was forced to).”
“Like with many things in life, it all depends on the details. I am sure there is SOME porn that is more gender-positive and empowering for a woman to participate in than some pageants.
I do think that in many ways pageants are worse for women in society (compared to SOME ethical porn, that is)...in that they reinforce these women to think superficial beauty is one of their most important qualities, and being judged for it is the way the world should work. Granted, a lot of porn is not empowering or affirming for women either, but there is some.”
ron ray on Feb 28, 2013 at 15:28:33
“well, like it or not, if my kid said "I'm either going to do a pageant or porn, whatdya thing?" my answer is easy. I could apply the same test to being a cheerleader, or a B-movie star, or a Hooters waitress. how much better those choices are is debatable, but it won't impact your future the way porn will.”
“I agree that there isn't a huge moral outrage for me here. But she should have been familiar with the requirements of the pageant. It seems beyond naive for her to make the adult film and NOT think that it was going to affect her pageant career. And if she claims it was NOT her in the films, then why is she resigning?
Of course some people are thinking perhaps this was all deliberate for attention, which might be too, who knows...”
“Name calling does not become us, "John" with 0 fans. Let's engage in constructive discourse please.”
Money In The Matress on Feb 28, 2013 at 14:23:58
“Constructive recourse would be that every company has the right to set guidelines and rules by which participants agree to stay within. If someone breaks the company rules then the company has the choice to replace the winning participant with whoever was in second place. This really is all about freedom. The company has the freedom to set their own rules and the participants have the freedom to play by the rules set or to break the rules and risk losing their title. She was free when she turned 18 to do porn, but she doesn't dictate how the company sets rules”
Feb 1, 2013 at 17:47:21
“It still boggles my mind that craft beer still only accounts for 5% of the market...having been buying ONLY craft brew, or making homebrew for years, I just can't imagine going back and deliberately purchasing massively bland swill.”
“Agree. The use of "an act of God" is such a misnomer anyway. It is used here in the sense that God blessed something happening, and we should be thankful for it. But when used in insurance, it is meant (I believe) to signify a random unexpected event in nature, no? Something that couldn't be anticipated for, and no one will be held responsible for. But the thing about rape is that there ARE people to be held responsible for it. And I am pretty sure that the people using this argument aren't going to blame God. They more likely will blame the victim a little, and/or then the legitmate rapist.”
“George Lucas would support the retconning here, since some of this could be true..."from a certain point of view".
But that is a big leap for me. I don't think Akin was thinking about the science when he made his gaffe. I think he was just being ignorant. Mourdock...meh...that is easier to spin, but either way, it doesn't leave either of these men sounding good. It is merely a dubious and suspect "not quite AS bad...maybe, but I'm not sure." sort of thing.
This feels to me like Sarah Palin's team coming up with technicality points to justify her missteps on American Revolutionary history.”
“Lynn with all due respect, your comment essentially places blame on the mother of the shooter. I personally don't think any ONE thing can be exposed as the ONE reason this tragedy happened. There are flaws in the shooter (most obviously), the mother allowing access, and possibly other areas, but with the funerals continuing to happen, I think a lot more understanding is needed before we know for sure how this all happened, and how to avoid it in the future.”
John the grandpa on Dec 21, 2012 at 07:40:14
“I think one of the problems that exist in the present day is the shortage of mental institutions in this country. They have been killed by budget cuts and also by the work of liberals who have tirelessly worked to ensure that it is almost impossible to commit a mentally deficient person without the approval of both houses of congress and the Pope.”
Excuse me? This isn't "taking a stand" against anything. This is at best a moment of respect, and at worst a hokey PR move. TEMPORARILY not advertising firearms doesn't do ANYTHING about gun violence. I don't know that this site stopping sales forever altogether would even do anything. But this article claiming that a temporary suspension of ADVERTISING is "taking a stand" is nonsense.
It is as if the author of this article was writing a PR piece for the website being reported on. I continue to wish for the days when Huffpost was about facts, and not awkward spin. And this is all the more baffling, since the usual political leanings of Huffpost would be to call this PR move out for what it is. But it's another example of towing the line of "we're all in this together", when really this is just another cheesy business PR move.”
“Unless I misunderstood this article, the headline is misleading. It isn't that the conservative groups oppose his plan on the basis of wanting more compromise with the White House...they oppose his plan because they feel HE is not being conservative enough, and that HE is being too close to the White House's plan.
Am I understanding that right?
If so, it means that this headline is meant to imply to a presumed more left/progressive audience that Boehner is a wack job who isn't being supported by conservative groups. But the article (if I am understanding this right) shows more that the conservative groups are the ones being more divisive (relative to the White House).
Sigh....I wish Huffpost would take pains to avoid being seen as Tricksy, like Faux News.”
“As NEITHER a republican or democrat, I think this quote is telling:
“reacted more negatively to her political views than conservatives do to her sexual orientation.”
I hate to break it to some, but if you are in agreement with conservatives on Military issues, Taxes, Environment, and Economy, but NOT on social tolerance issues....it still makes more sense to join the Republican party. You have a better chance of them becoming more socially tolerant over time, then on changing the Democrats' modern core tax, military, and environmental policies. I know it is not popular to join a political movement that is full of bigots and tries to legislate you out of existence. But bigots die off, or grow more understanding. People who are (like me), tree hugging, high taxing, non-interventionist types are not going to change our stripes on those issues, even if we are all for marriage equality or are pro-choice.
So I don't get why these women would be so attacked for prioritizing certain politics over others. Okay, maybe I get it, but it is sad and in some ways silly.”
“I am not trying to be snide, but curious to hear what you think she meant. I simply took it as "thin = good," which I don't personally like TV anchors endorsing. But curious for a woman's perspective on this.”
Janelliz on Nov 24, 2012 at 01:53:54
“see i took it as... 130 dollars a month is hard to live on, there for she would be hunger often therefore losing weight...”