“In a twisted sort of way, I'm sure this ex-chaplain does cartwheels when his bigoted videos get shared like this, increasing his audience from eleven into the hundreds. I've had links to his videos sent to me by friends but I refuse to click on them. Why give the guy a turn-on? It's best to ignore him, IMO.”
“I am not surprised. Regent University in Virginia, which Roberston founded in 1978, has been researching sexual identity, thanks to Dr. Mark Yarhouse. Yarhouse and his team published a study titled "MTF Transgender Christians' Experience: A Qualitative Study." They presented this compelling paper at National Transgender Health Summit in Oakland, CA in May. Perhaps Robertson has benefited from this reasearch and truly understands?”
“All this time I thought HuffPo readers were intelligent and mature, but I was wrong. I haven't seen so many moronic, immature and transphobic statements fill a comment page as quickly as this one has. Obviously the issue of transgender rights is new to you, who are making these pejorative and tacky comments. You need to stop and consider the implications these no-fly regulations will have on those who are transgender. I just pray, if you are a parent, that none of your children will have to face your intellectual puniness, should they ever come out to you as trans.”
KAYLEE BURRIS on Feb 4, 2012 at 15:49:06
“ok lisa you made me F&F for your common sense your to blame for this lol *8)”
“This is a reality for trans people even in Canada. The discrimination is silent, no HR person will ever admit that it had anything to do with you being trans, and all of this can be compounded with age discrimination, which is also silent. Both of these forms of discrimination are illegal but how are you going to prove it? No HR person will ever tell you because they know the law. I was in the same boat as Rebecca a year ago, and depressed as hell. I'm still unemployed, but for the time being, it is by choice. I'm doing a masters degree to become a chaplain and will be almost 65 when I graduate next Spring. God only knows if I will find a job then; I'm hoping He will make a better employer than humans!
P.S. I like HP's new "keep it civil" policy.”
KimSchroeder on Apr 26, 2014 at 23:08:08
“Lisa, the silent policy is what i described above. A total black out is legal here too. In most place a reason does not need to be given. I wish you the best as a Chaplin. You will do fine!”
“Hi Tara, so in your understanding of "heterogendered" and "Normatively gendered" can one be gay? If not, that is why cisgender is used to descibe both heteronormative and same sex attracted persons who have never experienced a disconnection between their biological sex (or their SAB), and their subconscious and innate gender identity. In summary, if you are not transgender, you are cisgender and you sexual orientation is irrelevant. Does that help? BTW, SAB stands for sex assigned at birth.”
DianaLynn1967 on Sep 29, 2013 at 00:41:04
“Hey Lisa, I think I need to fan you when I get to a computer.”
Tara0230 on Sep 28, 2013 at 23:44:38
“Yes, I understood the SAB aspect there - I'm pretty well versed here. To answer your question, (in my view) "yes," people who are normatively gendered/hetero gendered can be gay. Often, those of us in the queer community sometimes refer to those folks as "straight gays" (and then we'll exaggerate that, as in, STRAIGHT GAY..i.e. exceptionally "gay"...meaning, it's a focus and investment strictly in parts). I'm not a straight gay, but at times, I'm sure I've sub and consciously experienced a disconnect. Under certain lenses, I could certainly qualify as trans. In summary, for virtually nobody (besides perhaps asexual people) is sexuality irrelevant. Cisgender paradoxically presupposes a non-sexual body. If there is any group by which to anchor "the opposite," it is the asexual community.”
“The need to come out to anyone, assuming they are oblivious to the fact you are trans, is really up to you and the context of such a revelation, given the circumstances. I don't feel compelled to introduce my self by saying, "Hi, my name is Lisa and I am a transsexual." But I have on occasion done just that in order to address and correct a negative, pejorative or uneducated comment. The fact I am transgender is not the only thing that defines who I am in the same way that my gender struggles did not result in a completely tragic existence. Do people need to acknowledge the fact that I have had challenges in order for us to enjoy each other's friendship? It does make for interesting conversation, especially since for most people you may be the only trans person they have ever spoken to. And yes, we need to stand up and show that we are not caricatures. But I think one of the best ways is to want to know just as much about the other person as we may want them to know about us. That is how I try to balance things out and I have discovered this makes more of an impact on them because it shows I care about who they are. If all I ever talk about is me, there is less chance to become we.”
Feb 11, 2013 at 00:24:58
“It's so absolutely outrageous that Crossroads Christian Communications (100 Huntley Street) is on record as being anti-gay, yet they manage to get funding for their projects in Uganda, despite the prospect of draconian anti-gay legislation looming on the horizon. This, after Canada's Foreign Minister, John Baird, dennounced Uganda for the country's civil rights violations and the pending legislation targetting sexual minorities. CCC defends its projects as not being political in nature, and while that maybe true, the fact they are using Canadian taxpayer dollars only serves to condone Uganda's anti-gay mentality. As altruistic AS THEIR PROJECTS MIGHT BE, I am reminded of Jesus' words that many will come and say, didn't I feed the hungry and clothe the naked, yet he will say to them, be gone—I never knew you. Crossroads, you are busted. Canadian Goverment, so are you...If you are funding NGOs doing humanitarian work in countries like Uganda, make sure they don't have homophobic skeletons in the closet.”
patrick cashman on Feb 11, 2013 at 00:59:21
“Yet the con sheep supporters claim that the CPC doesn't cater to the evangelical Christians. What a joke. I would ignore these cultists.”
“I came out to my wife five years into our marriage. The word "transgender" did not exist then and all I could say to her was that I felt inadequate as a man, that I attracted to feminine things and that I knew this was wrong. I told her I needed her help to overcome this gender confusion. Her response to my disclosure was naturally one of disappointment, she felt betrayed. "I knew you were too good to be true," she said.
Fast forward two decades; I needed help. I was referred to the gender clinic and after a 6 month assessment, I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria. This was both a blessing and a curse. It was a blessing because it finally offered an explanation for my gender struggles, it was a curse because the proposed treatment required making difficult choices. But as the very narrow-laced, conservative Christian I had become, I could not reconcile any of this to my faith.
It took another 8 years before I could transition. I was 58 when I started living full time and I had my surgery 3 years ago. My wife waited one year after the surgery to ask for a divorce. We were married 37 years in total and I and grateful to her for having loved me, despite my flaw.
I miss my wife terribly, she was my best friend for 40 years. But I also know that for her, my death would have been easier to accept.”
hp blogger Regina on Feb 7, 2013 at 19:33:35
“Lisa, I'm in tears, your story is so heartbreaking. My hope for the future is that no child will be considered different. Especially after the torture that I know Jean went through, both growing up and coming out to me and our families.
“"But like it or not, marriage equality means something special and unique to the American people. It means basic human dignity, just as it did to the Lovings in Virginia 45 years ago. So whether or not we are married, ever have been married or ever will be married, we all have a stake in it. And that includes transgender as well as cisgender people. The dignity of those who choose to partake reflects back on us all. This week we are all able to stand a little taller and bear ourselves forward with greater dignity, thanks to those who have labored in the trenches, and thanks to the 44th president of the United States."
As a Canadian, I say "Amen!"”
fulla on Nov 7, 2012 at 23:52:21
“Homosexuality will never be marriage. Sin is not basic human dignity, it is bondage to sexual immorality. It is sad that homosexuals actually believe they have gained something good because Obama is making homosexuals feel safe in their sin while losing their eternal soul.”