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Lauren Marbe, Girl With IQ Of 161, Is Only 16 Years Old

Commented Feb 17, 2013 at 13:18:17 in Teen

“How has she "earned praise"? This is not about what she's done (so far) but what she was born with. And who cares that she loves fake tans and manicures? This comment just feeds into the stereotype that intelligence and beauty can't go hand in hand, which further feeds into attractive girls being automatically treated as if they're dumb and ditzy.”
Attawapiskat Global News: TV Crew Removed From Northern Community, Threatened With Arrest

Attawapiskat Global News: TV Crew Removed From Northern Community, Threatened With Arrest

Commented Jan 9, 2013 at 18:22:57 in Canada

“First of all, she doesn't take $270k in salary. What's been reported is that she takes $70k in salary, and her partner takes $130k, for a total of $200k. They are both paid by the feds, so if you have a problem with their pay, take it up with white guys in Ottawa. Nobody stops to ask how much people in similar positions in white communities earn. Usually, it's more.

Second, have you ever noticed how the only people who are questioned about the amount of money they're paid are the people who are trying to do some good? If leaders talk selfish and are selfish, nobody questions their salary. But if they say they want to do some good, apparently they're not supposed to be paid a living wage.

Third, likely the reason they were kicked out is that mainstream media coverage has been incredibly unfair and biased. I don't watch Global, so I don't know what their coverage has been like. But I've been disappointed in the choice of language and inaccuracies being reported on CTV and CBC. You want to talk about political entitities controlling the media, look in your white back yard.

If you want less biased and less racist coverage, try rabble.ca and APTN. At the very least, if you're reading/watching mainstream (ie right-wing) news and also reading/watching left-wing news, you might be able to form some less biased opinions of your own.”

calisel99 on Jan 9, 2013 at 22:18:29

“none of your points has any validity and the only racists i see are you and the chief”
'Bagel Head' Saline Forehead Injections: Japan's Hot New Beauty Trend? (VIDEO)

'Bagel Head' Saline Forehead Injections: Japan's Hot New Beauty Trend? (VIDEO)

Commented Sep 27, 2012 at 11:18:39 in Style

“I have botox injections once every three months for migraine headaches. Don't let anybody tell you they're painless -- they hurt like the dickens. I can't imagine why anybody would do that to make their face smoother, never mind do this to make it lumpier.”
Jamie Lynne Grumet Breastfeeds On The Cover Of Pathways To Family Wellness Magazine [PHOTO]

Jamie Lynne Grumet Breastfeeds On The Cover Of Pathways To Family Wellness Magazine [PHOTO]

Commented Sep 12, 2012 at 00:57:07 in Parents

“Previous comment should read "Not making any comments about the bonds between mothers and children who do breastfeed and mother and children who don't breastfeed."”
Jamie Lynne Grumet Breastfeeds On The Cover Of Pathways To Family Wellness Magazine [PHOTO]

Jamie Lynne Grumet Breastfeeds On The Cover Of Pathways To Family Wellness Magazine [PHOTO]

Commented Sep 12, 2012 at 00:54:59 in Parents

“Older daughter sang with community choir for several years, has travelled widely, paying her own way through university. Just got engaged, in-laws love her. Co-owns condo, enjoys gardening on her balcony.

Younger daughter is straight A student, does volunteer work, works part time for spending money and to travel. Paid her own way across country recently, going on overseas trip soon. Enjoys cooking and baking, has great circle of friends.

Yep, pretty warped. What do others say about them? Terrible things like, "What great kids!"

But one of you had a valid point. I used the word "babies" when I should have used the word "children." OMG, what a sick mistake.

Re "mind your own business": it was directed at a commenter who inquired where the other child in the photo was from. No one's business but theirs.

Not making any comments about the bonds between mothers who don't breastfeed. It's possible to have one point of view and respect another's point of view, too.

Having her photo on the cover opens the *subject* for debate. It shouldn't open her and her family up to verbal abuse.”
Jamie Lynne Grumet Breastfeeds On The Cover Of Pathways To Family Wellness Magazine [PHOTO]

Jamie Lynne Grumet Breastfeeds On The Cover Of Pathways To Family Wellness Magazine [PHOTO]

Commented Sep 11, 2012 at 23:37:36 in Parents

“I breastfed my older daughter until she was 4 and my younger one until she was 5. They're both healthy, well-adjusted young adults. Aside from the comfort it provides the child, it continues to confer antibodies that contribute to a healthy immune response. It also builds the mother-child bond, as the let-down response releases endorphins into the mother's body. No, that's not sick; it's Mother Nature's way of encouraging mothers to do what's healthy for their babies. Suggesting that it's one thing for mothers in the developing world to do this but unacceptable in the industrial world is specious. There are far too many healthy, normal, maternal practices that are abandoned in the industrial world because we're so much more "advanced." All children deserve the best. Not saying all women have to do it. Most, in our judgmental culture, are not comfortable with it. But it worked for our family, and clearly it works for Jamie Lynne Grumet. Doesn't mean she's looking for attention; it means she's willing to subject herself to these ridiculous, prudish attitudes in order to take a step toward reducing the social stigma that prevents many women from breastfeeding at all. And to the people who are asking where the other child in the photo is from: for heaven's sake, can you not mind your own business about anything?”

macihadituptohere on Sep 12, 2012 at 03:15:18

“can't you? gawwddd.......”

lynnemelcombe on Sep 12, 2012 at 00:57:07

“Previous comment should read "Not making any comments about the bonds between mothers and children who do breastfeed and mother and children who don't breastfeed."”

lynnemelcombe on Sep 12, 2012 at 00:54:59

“Older daughter sang with community choir for several years, has travelled widely, paying her own way through university. Just got engaged, in-laws love her. Co-owns condo, enjoys gardening on her balcony.

Younger daughter is straight A student, does volunteer work, works part time for spending money and to travel. Paid her own way across country recently, going on overseas trip soon. Enjoys cooking and baking, has great circle of friends.

Yep, pretty warped. What do others say about them? Terrible things like, "What great kids!"

But one of you had a valid point. I used the word "babies" when I should have used the word "children." OMG, what a sick mistake.

Re "mind your own business": it was directed at a commenter who inquired where the other child in the photo was from. No one's business but theirs.

Not making any comments about the bonds between mothers who don't breastfeed. It's possible to have one point of view and respect another's point of view, too.

Having her photo on the cover opens the *subject* for debate. It shouldn't open her and her family up to verbal abuse.”

srchr on Sep 12, 2012 at 00:10:19

“Bullsh*t. 4 and 5 year olds do not need to be nursing. A 4 and 5 year old are not "babies"”

mktparticipant on Sep 12, 2012 at 00:03:34

“I hope you are not suggesting that mothers who do not breast feed their kids until age 4 are not equally bonding with their children or that weaning the child off of the breast much earlier in less healthy. So long as that is not what you are implying, to each his own.

And how can anyone say, "mind your own business?" Shooting a cover for a magazine just made it everyone's business to be commented on. If she did not want the attention, she should not have exposed herself.”

IllinoisObama on Sep 11, 2012 at 23:47:45

“well adjusted so says you - what does everyone else say.”
Ann Coulter Sends Controversial Sandra Fluke Tweet During Democratic National Convention

Ann Coulter Sends Controversial Sandra Fluke Tweet During Democratic National Convention

Commented Sep 10, 2012 at 16:27:30 in Media

“Separation of church and state, pure and simple.”
Canada Real Estate Affordability: First-Time Home Buyers Sidelined By Prices, Mortgage Rules

Canada Real Estate Affordability: First-Time Home Buyers Sidelined By Prices, Mortgage Rules

Commented Aug 28, 2012 at 14:33:43 in Canada Business

“I worry about housing prices and the widening gap between rich and poor, but my worries are less for the young people who can't bring themselves to own a condo or move out of the city than for people who can't figure out where their next meal is going to come from.

Anyone who's serious about owning a home should read a book called Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez. It's about 20 years old, but the central principle -- learn the difference between want and need, and then learn to make sacrifices and compromises and delay gratification -- are timeless.”
Worst Olympic Dive: Stephan Feck's London Flop Goes Viral (VIDEO)

Worst Olympic Dive: Stephan Feck's London Flop Goes Viral (VIDEO)

Commented Aug 8, 2012 at 18:34:52 in Sports

“True enough. But he has to know the video has gone viral and that he not only has to live with being embarrassed in front of millions of viewers, but knowing that millions more will replay it over and over again, immortalizing him in an unnecessarily harsh way.”
Worst Olympic Dive: Stephan Feck's London Flop Goes Viral (VIDEO)

Worst Olympic Dive: Stephan Feck's London Flop Goes Viral (VIDEO)

Commented Aug 8, 2012 at 15:35:41 in Sports

“This is terrible. The man flubbed at the worst and most public moment imaginable. He has to feel bad enough, and now people want to make him feel worse. Many Olympians dive into deep depression after they go home simply because they didn't medal. It's hard to imagine how badly this man is now beating himself up. And the world has to make it worse by making his flub viral.

He's an Olympian who made one mistake that ruined everything. Just getting that far is more than most of us can ever dream of. I'm just glad he's all right. Diving can be a dangerous sport and hitting the water on his back from that height could have caused serious injury. Let the man go home and recover his physical and mental well being, for heaven's sake.”

Harbinger08 on Aug 8, 2012 at 16:53:19

“I agree, but don't worry, i doubt he's reading the moronic comments from the tr0llz at HuffP0, who couldn't dive into a bag of Cheetos without overexerting themselves.”

spgsaab on Aug 8, 2012 at 16:16:59

“I agree. What is to be gained by his video going viral. Borders on mean spirited on the part of those that propagate it.”
Obama Descendant Of African Slave, According To Genealogy Research

Obama Descendant Of African Slave, According To Genealogy Research

Commented Jul 31, 2012 at 13:30:11 in Politics

“For what other president has ancestry.com done this research? How is it relevant to anything he does as president?”

Jireh on Jul 31, 2012 at 14:18:10

“I agree! None whatsoever!”

Stacyhs on Jul 31, 2012 at 14:12:43

“They have. For example, they showed GWB's family connection to John Kerry. It's not relevant as far as his presidency, but it is an interesting piece of information.”
Toni Medrano, Dubbed 'Vodka Mom' By Nancy Grace, Committed Suicide, Police Say

Toni Medrano, Dubbed 'Vodka Mom' By Nancy Grace, Committed Suicide, Police Say

Commented Jul 12, 2012 at 11:19:49 in Crime

“"A permanent solution to a temporary problem"? Since when is losing a child a temporary problem? Since when is feeling responsible for your child's death a temporary problem? Nancy Grace should be the temporary problem in this. Time to take this nut case off the air.”
Mardi Gras 2012: Fat Tuesday And Carnival's Religious Meaning And Origins

Mardi Gras 2012: Fat Tuesday And Carnival's Religious Meaning And Origins

Commented Feb 22, 2012 at 11:03:38 in Religion

“Good catch. I got so frustrated with predominately that I didn't read as far as penitance.”

jddluv on Feb 23, 2012 at 15:52:46

“Also, it's Rio de Janeiro.”
Mardi Gras 2012: Fat Tuesday And Carnival's Religious Meaning And Origins

Mardi Gras 2012: Fat Tuesday And Carnival's Religious Meaning And Origins

Commented Feb 21, 2012 at 16:42:37 in Religion

“Could HuffPo reporters possibly learn that the word is not "predominately" but "predominantly"? Predominate is a verb. One doesn't generally convert verbs into adverbs (ie, words that end in "ly," among others). Predominant is an adjective. One can convert adjectives into adverbs. For example, one can take, "He is a quick runner" and turn the adjective into an adverb by saying, "He runs quickly." One cannot say, "He quick runly." And in the first paragraph, saying "predominately Catholic" does not an adjective an adverb make. The verb is implied. Properly, it would read, "Mardi Gras is celebrated in locations that are predominantly Catholic," with predominantly modifying the verb "are," not the noun "locations." For conciseness, it can be phrased, "predominantly Catholic regions," but then the verb "to be" is implied (ie, it is still an adverb, not an adjective). Come on, people, you are champions of the English language. Your pen is your sword. Sharpen up.”

crydespite on Feb 22, 2012 at 03:31:41

“sound advice. oh and don't forget that it's penitence, not penitance.”
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15 Obnoxious Roommate Notes (PHOTOS)

Commented Feb 13, 2012 at 18:29:29 in Comedy

“I don't find most of these notes obnoxious or passive-aggressive. Passive aggression means communicating indirectly. Writing is a form of direct communication. Seems like these writers have used writing to add emphasis after trying to speak to their roommates to no avail. If anything, the roommates are being passive aggressive by failing to respond to direct requests.

Some of the comments here refer to real passive aggression, however, like eating all the roommate's labelled food so he had no choice but to eat other people's food. (That's quite creative, actually.) But most of those commenters seem to be describing situations where they have tried direct communication, become frustrated, and moved on to responding to fighting fire with fire

I have no problem with people using creative passive aggression when direct communication hasn't worked. What I dislike is when passive aggression is a person's first line of communication, especially if it's masked as tact or diplomacy, or it's a person's default way of communicating, or if the person doing it just plays innocent or dumb.

I'm a really direct person, probably because I seem to be surrounded by people who aren't. But I'm close to someone who's a master of passive aggression because he came from a home where he got a beating for communicating directly. I've learned a lot from him. I hate passive aggression, but if I'm dealing with someone who refuses to communicate directly, there's often little choice but to respond in kind.”
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Costa Concordia Cruise Disaster: Husband Sacrifices Life Jacket For Wife, Disappears Into Water

Commented Jan 17, 2012 at 01:07:19 in Impact

“A. I'm doing no such thing. I think what he did was admirable. B. I have no agenda, merely a comment. C. I have as much right to comment here as you do.”
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Costa Concordia Cruise Disaster: Husband Sacrifices Life Jacket For Wife, Disappears Into Water

Commented Jan 16, 2012 at 22:53:49 in Impact

“And to be clear, I'm still not looking for acknowledgement. What I object to is that a non-swimming man who accepted a life jacket from a woman who is a strong swimmer might be more afraid of being criticized for accepting a life jacket than of dying. How well would he be able to take care of his family then?”
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Costa Concordia Cruise Disaster: Husband Sacrifices Life Jacket For Wife, Disappears Into Water

Commented Jan 16, 2012 at 22:46:24 in Impact

“If it sounded like I was bragging, I apologize. I made a hurried comment and did not intend it to come out as I was looking for acknowledgement. I think this man was very brave for his sacrifice and what he did was an act of pure love -- extremely touching. But all this rhetoric about his being a real man is a bit much. He was a swimmer and his wife was a non-swimmer. In the case of my husband and me, the situation is reversed. But if I gave my husband my life jacket, would I be praised for being a real woman or would my husband be condemned for not being a real man? I suspect the latter, and I think that's wrong. That's all I'm saying.”

lynnemelcombe on Jan 17, 2012 at 01:07:19

“A. I'm doing no such thing. I think what he did was admirable. B. I have no agenda, merely a comment. C. I have as much right to comment here as you do.”

suchcrap on Jan 17, 2012 at 00:20:37

“Oh, puh-LEEZ! People are here trying to give kudos to a man who just died, and you're using that to try and start some sort of gender role bias discussion (based on a hypothetical "what if" scenario, no less)

Take your agenda somewhere else.”
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Costa Concordia Cruise Disaster: Husband Sacrifices Life Jacket For Wife, Disappears Into Water

Commented Jan 16, 2012 at 17:54:54 in Impact

“Say what you like about him being a real man, but if that were my husband and me, I would give my life jacket to him b/c he barely swims at all and I swim well.”

lynnemelcombe on Jan 16, 2012 at 22:46:24

“If it sounded like I was bragging, I apologize. I made a hurried comment and did not intend it to come out as I was looking for acknowledgement. I think this man was very brave for his sacrifice and what he did was an act of pure love -- extremely touching. But all this rhetoric about his being a real man is a bit much. He was a swimmer and his wife was a non-swimmer. In the case of my husband and me, the situation is reversed. But if I gave my husband my life jacket, would I be praised for being a real woman or would my husband be condemned for not being a real man? I suspect the latter, and I think that's wrong. That's all I'm saying.”

ccdae5 on Jan 16, 2012 at 18:11:00

“I was raised that the man of the family must be willing to sacrifice anything for his family. Obviously, this man was raised the same way. A true man.”

suchcrap on Jan 16, 2012 at 18:09:28

“Do you want a medal or a chest to hang it on?”
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Dogs Now Welcome At Domestic Violence Shelter Thanks To Heroic Pooch

Commented Jan 16, 2012 at 16:53:14 in Good News

“The child doesn't always know the full extent of what's happening. Many abusers hurt children or animals as a way of controlling the victim. I don't know about your situation, doglove, but in many cases the only or main reason the primary victim stays is to protect the children or animals from what the abuser might do to them if s/he tried to leave.

And the law isn't always enough protection. There have been cases of abusive men reaching out from prison to have their ex-partners and/or her children killed. A lot of research has been done in recent years suggesting that what the world typically views as weakness on the part of the victim is, in many cases, considerable strength. S/he knows better than anyone about the temperament and behaviour of the abuser and the specifics of the situation. More often than people realize, s/he is biding time, working the situation, navigating a way get him/herself and children and pets out it without anyone getting hurt.

That said, you have a valid point about moral and legal responsibility for the harm done when children, or pets, witness violence. That's why so many jurisdictions now take the responsibility for pressing charges out of the victims' hands and put it into the hands of police.”
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Dogs Now Welcome At Domestic Violence Shelter Thanks To Heroic Pooch

Commented Jan 16, 2012 at 16:37:10 in Good News

“christine1971 didn't say she had trouble reading or understanding. She said typos are distracting. There's tons of communications research out there to support this. That's why editors exist. It's also why editors are becoming increasingly important in the digital era.”
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Dogs Now Welcome At Domestic Violence Shelter Thanks To Heroic Pooch

Commented Jan 16, 2012 at 16:34:40 in Good News

“Animal abuse is a significant predictor of an inclination toward violence against humans. And animal bonds play a significant role in human mental health. Good for this shelter for taking a step in the right direction.”
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Dogs Now Welcome At Domestic Violence Shelter Thanks To Heroic Pooch

Commented Jan 15, 2012 at 03:21:01 in Good News

“These are two small studies of women in dating relationships currently enrolled in college, and they note that these women are acting differently than women in the past. They do not refer to women who have ever been to college, women in long-term relationships, or even women over college age. This demographic does not comprise over half the population.

They also note that, “Although women were the predominant abusers, they still made up the largest number of victims, ” and that “some of the physical attacks women claim they are responsible for are actually acts of self-defense,” which supports my comment about mutual abuse.

The scenario of men’s violence against women has been more prevalent than the reverse across cultures and time. Is a slap in the face as emotionally damaging as broken bones, a concussion, or death? Please.

The information about distinguishing primary and secondary abusers came from situations of gay and lesbian abuse. Over years of interviews, police officers learned that those who begin by saying “s/he started it” eventually reveal they initiated the aggression, while those who start by saying "it's not his/her fault, I deserved it," often did not commit an act of aggression at all.

I think I gave the researchers more credit than you did—I actually read the link you posted before commenting on it instead of just scanning the sensational headline it was given to attract attention.”
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Dogs Now Welcome At Domestic Violence Shelter Thanks To Heroic Pooch

Commented Jan 14, 2012 at 22:37:19 in Good News

“The study you link to doesn't show that women are more likely to be the abuser than men. It shows that in one study of college students, more females than males were abusive. It also identifies this as a very new and different trend, which means that beyond the college demographic (if this one study can be generalized to all college students, and the authors don't appear to make that generalization), the old trends still exist -- far more men abuse women than the other way around, and the abuse that men perpetrate against women is far worse, both physically and psychologically. Also, one thing this study doesn't mention is the prevalence of mutual abuse -- where a woman responds abusively to a man's abuse. But there are interview techniques that allow police to ascertain who the primary abuser is -- generally, the one who denies being abusive (generally b/c s/he feels justified) is the one who started it, while the one more than willing to take responsibility (generally, b/c s/he feels ashamed of resorting to violence) is the victim.”

Eternityinanhour on Jan 14, 2012 at 23:55:38

“Regarding your point about the degree of abuse when perpetrated by men: I agree, abuse perpetrated by men is often worst when it comes to the degree of damage because men are naturally stronger than women. But let me ask you this: do you think there's a level of brutality that must be achieved before the abused partner may feel vindicated in their decision to leave? Is a slap to the face somehow less abusive - less emotionally damaging than a punch just because the physical damage inflicted is less?

Also, you're right, the study doesn't mention the prevalence of mutual abuse. But let me remind you: just as there are women who respond to an abusive man, there are men who respond to abusive women. You don't know which scenario is more prevalent, so you can't use it as a counter-argument here.

As for the primary abuser point you brought up, I disagree with your assertion that the study is not representative of the population because people who denies being abusive are generally "the one who started it." I say this because no one would construct a study that asks if you think you're an abuser. Instead, there would be questions about facts, like did you ever strike your partner, not whether or not you felt your partner deserved that strike. Please give the researchers some credit. No one's that stupid.”

Eternityinanhour on Jan 14, 2012 at 23:36:31

“First of all, let us make this clear: my main purpose in mentioning the article is to establish the bias regarding the gender roles in domestic abuse cases.

As for your point regarding the applicability of the study to the general population, I'm afraid I disagree. For the sake of the argument, let's assume that the study is indicative of abuse in the college demographic, because although it isn't precisely indicative, it's pretty close.

In the US, 55.6% of women are enrolled in/have graduated from college. That means this study would apply to more than half of all women in the US. That means even if the domestic abuse statistics are reversed for those without a college education, women would still be the more frequent aggressor when it comes to domestic abuse.

As for your point regarding old trends still existing: I concur. The dynamics w/i families are different from generation to generation, and I don't presume to know what it's like for those not of my generation.”
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Eric James Borges, Gay Teen Filmmaker, Commits Suicide One Month After Producing 'It Gets Better' Video

Commented Jan 13, 2012 at 00:09:26 in Queer Voices

“People kill themselves b/c of a severe shortage of hormones responsible for mood regulation. For example, a gene called 5HTT is responsible for production of serotonin. Depending on the configuration of the gene, your body produces more or less. Other hormones are involved in mood regulation, too.

When people experience stress, such as that caused by bullying, regardless of the reasons for the bullying, those with enough mood-regulation hormones will handle it better than those without. If a person experiences constant stress without relief (such as b/c a parent is making it worse instead of better), the body won't be able to produce enough mood-regulating hormones to keep up with demand.

Environment also plays an important role. If a child has all his/her needs met, even those with low levels of mood-regulating hormones will develop coping mechanisms. On the other hand, if a person experiences profound an ongoing stress, even those who might be able to handle normal amounts of stress well might become so depleted as to be unable to cope anymore.

Depression is a physical illness. If we want people to stop killing themselves, we have to recognize and address the illness rather than stigmatizing it.”
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