Nov 25, 2013 at 21:30:51
“It seems to me that many people need a primer on what is racism and what is not.. The expression is quickly becoming trite and ineffectual. We can't allow this because racism is REAL. It exists. But if we keep watering if down in definition, we won't recognize it when it truly exists.
Sometimes people can just do things that aren't appropriate or not tasteful. Since I didn't see the performance for more than three or so seconds, I can't say it is either. But I did see enough to state it was NOT racist.”
“I wouldn't say more women "these days" engage in more violent behavior but in fact it is true they do more so today than ever.
I have to clarify that because it sounds as though I contradicted myself. I meant that I don't think more women THAN MEN are violent these days but women are more violent today than in the past. Or, outwardly so. I think there was a tendency to take anger inward and go into a depression, Now women may not choose to control the impulse to "come out swinging." Or, just engage in violence.”
“First, while I respect your opinions, I disagree with the financial comment. Most women I know are financially capable. Men tend to be compulsive spenders. They want, they buy. Women seek bargains, men just grab whatever on the shelf.
Second, re domestic violence - more men are the guilty parties there. That being said, I have a sibling who is married to an alcoholic and SHE has battered him on a few occasions. He's 6'2 and she's perhaps 5'4. He - thank God - will not raise a hand to her. But I wish he'd dump her.
I wouldn't say more women "these days" engage in more violent behavior but in fact it is true they do more so today than ever. Overall, we live in a terribly violent society. It's unacceptable from either gender.
I don't think women are more vicious but we DO have the CAPACITY to be so, yes, as much or more than men. It's a matter of if we act on it. Most women do not. In my way of thinking, it removes my humanity. I prefer to take the high road. That is, I state my case and move on. Vicious usually is part of being vindictive. That isn't good for the soul.
Many years ago, a good friend of mine came home from teaching and found a note on the refrig door - hubby had departed. Turned out he had a honey. They had only been married for perhaps two years. Had lovely home, etc. At least no kids.
My ex #1 and #2 had the same m.o. They would try to pick an argument so I'd throw them out. I reacted the same way on both (I had a daughter with the first) - you aren't happy, there is the door. Man up and move out. I don't like games.”
Dan Haggerty on Oct 29, 2013 at 23:03:09
“Agreed, It works both ways, But, If you are gonna be honest about it, Womankind is far more viscious in such matters than Mankind? isn't she? The #1 reason for marriage failure -finanaces, is usually woman's work, the failed Finances, and the Fall out is ussually a "woman scorned." which is maybe the most despicable visciousness either sex is guilty of, as long as physical voilence doesn't enter the equasion? I would actually venture an educated guess that women engauge in more voilence toward their mates these days.”
“"Researchers also found that most couples who successfully made it through the people first seven years of marriage were more likely to have a long, happy and lasting union."
Really. Then where is the link to that study? Hogwash. Some people ail out early and others endure until the kids are gone.
It takes two to make a marriage. There must be companionship and emotional and sexual intimacy, shared values, trust.
I've seen perhaps two marriages that I thought were truly happy and content. My own experience is that marriage sucks. BUT...I think marriage is a good thing for some people. It depends on whom you choose.”
thinkingperson3 on Sep 27, 2013 at 18:41:45
“Your last sentence says it all. Worst - uh, first - marriage sucked. This one is better than I could have dreamed!”
“Another possibility is that - given he had control issues, e.g., kidnapping women and chaining them, he didn't want the state to control his life. Committing suicide is a choice - he still had control of when he lived or died. But he was a sick individual - who really know what went on in his evil and demented mind.”
“This, in some cases, is true. They allow themselves to become "institutionalized" by the system. I knew a couple of former BIA employees who came to work where I worked for a predominantly Native run organization. The further OTB you are, the better off you are.”