Our two months of pseudo-dating was a lot of me knowing what I wanted and him simply not wanting to make a decision. In between his initial "I really like you" and final "I adore you," there were a lot of "I dunnos" and "maybes." Well, maybe he just didn't like me that much.
Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I've heard from women: "I don't need a man." Well today, I've had enough. I think we are not just lying to ourselves when we say it, we're spitting on men.
If someone has to force themselves to forgive in order to meet someone else's expectations, they'll be more tormented than if they'd held onto their hurt. A better solution would be to learn how to let go.
It's too easy to say that people cheat because they're unhappy in their marriage. I've observed that there are a number of reasons why people cheat, and these have everything to do with the character of the person cheating.
When my marriage fell apart about a year ago, I knew there were only two ways to cope: I could be super melodramatic about how unfair life was or I could do something I'd never done before -- I could let my relationship epically fall apart as honestly and gracefully as possible.