Sooner or later, and usually at the most inappropriate time, some version of The Question ("Where do babies come from?") will emerge from your child's lips. Whatever the inspiration, our responses as Black Daddies tend to oscillate between evasion and deliberate vagueness ("Go ask your mother....").
M.S. Shadlock's controversial sexual thriller, The Inferno, is about a "sex hotel and casino" in Las Vegas where you gamble with sex, not money. It explores -- among other things -- what happens when couples push the limits of their sexuality in an effort to spice-up their marriages. Would couples really go to a place like this?
Try hard never to envy your partner. Envy is sex poison. If you want good sex, learn to be a good companion. A good companion listens. Sex is always changing for any given individual and every couple, and so communication should never end. The good news is the potential to reawaken desire never dies.
It is my hope that this next generation of women will put a stop to this crazy nonsense of being a "yummy mummy". If and when they do, sex can then become what it was meant to be: a time for emotional connection with your partner. Because right now, sex for the super-busy woman is just one more thing that sits on her to-do list, that makes her feel guilty to boot.
What is an ecosexual, you might ask? It's about looking at the Earth not as 'mother', but as 'lover' -- calling to reduce our carbon footprints and revolutionize how we each truly impact our environment. What's a better trend than being eco-friendly and increasing your pleasure capacity at the same time?!
In my mind, the answer to our spontaneous sex woes is simple: a vasectomy. Such a minor thing to have in order for us to have a happy and healthy sex life. Or at least for me it is such a simple and minor thing. Problem is, it's been a year that my husband has been dodging the "you need to get a vasectomy" bullet. Why is birth control up to me and why do I have to be the nagging wife to get this done?
And so it seems the quality of our sex lives hangs in the balance of these ordinary life moments that have little to nothing to do with sex. And just as easily, they can be reconciled and turned around in a matter of seconds. Remember: In these moments it's really up to you and your partner which way you want your relationship to go.
One of the best ways to increase your pleasure capacity is to add a little liquid love with lubricant. However, the navigation through the vast sea of anti-chaffing could become easily distracting and overwhelming. Here's my quick guide to the basic rules of lubricant that will help you glide on down to pleasure town with ease.
Has "I'm too tired" become the new "I've got a headache"? Today's average couple is always on the go and busy. It's not surprising then that being tired gets in the way of them having good sex on a regular basis. But we can only hold our partner at arm's length for so long before the relationship starts to suffer.
As a couples mediator, I can state with certainty that marriage problems often show up in the bedroom first. For that reason, it's important for a woman to stay sexual. Women often complain that they "don't feel sexy" any more. Weight gain, normal aging and other body changes. If this sounds like you, here are eight steps to go from feeling like a fat cat to purring like a sex kitten.
Take a second look at your resolutions. Re-evaluate them. Much of the difference hinges on the reason behind our resolution. If we choose a goal from our own heart, we tend to succeed. It's the 'shoulds' that we resist. Break the year long goals into bite sized pieces and don't forget to check off your progress.
A decade of feminism couldn't explain why the Married Man spooked me and how let down I felt by my female co-workers who excused his behaviour. Why were we divided? Most of all, I was disillusioned with myself; if I couldn't hold my own against the Married Man and sway my co-workers to side with me, what right did I have to call myself a feminist?
I believe "sexual incompatibility" is often the catch-all excuse many couples use because they don't know how to work through their outside-the-bedroom couple issues. I would bet my mortgage those couples contemplating divorce are sexually compatible, they're just not willing to invest time and energy into making their sexual relationship work.
The worry of those who promote and teach about kink is that those reading Fifty Shades Of Grey will dive into recreating the relationships within it. Relationships that if they were taking place in real life wouldn't be viewed as kinky, fun and romantic, but as abusive, emotionally if not physically. Fortunately there are those more than willing to correct the inaccuracies in the book for those looking to discover the real world of BDSM.