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Naturally as I approached 30 I reflected on my career thus far, and the path that led me here. Here are the things I've learned over eight years of building a career -- hopefully some of them resonate and help you as you're building you own.
The first impression that employers most often have of candidates is through their resume. It is critical to stand out from the crowd of generic applications with a document that really sells your skills and accomplishments. This deserves more than a cut and paste of new job details into an old template.
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Think of the things you really want to do in your career and in life. That's your bucket list. Now, what will you have to get rid of in order to make that stuff happen? That's your fuck it list. One serves the other. Is there something you can ditch to serve your greater vision? Fuck it.
Graduation is a time for celebration, but it can also be as scary as hell. It's the official transition into adulthood, a transition into the real world, where people go to work and pay the bills. That can be a lot of pressure. Give the grad in your life one of these books to take the edge off and leave them feeling inspired about what's next.
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The biggest hurdle for most people seems to be how to get a formal mentor and how to become one. I spoke on this subject at a conference for women entrepreneurs and at the end of the session I had exactly one woman approach me.
You're supposed to know how to make your parents proud and make a whack of cash, kicking ass and taking numbers along the way. Right? The truth is, you're not supposed to know what the future looks like. Nobody does. Why didn't anybody tell you this? Because it's scary as hell, that's why.
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It follows you, it traps you and in this specific case (like so many others) it can ruin your life. There is no trash bin on social media. Yet it seems to happen time and time again. And the offenders are shocked all the same when they become the victims of their own ignorance. Here is a short primer on how to avoid a bout of public shaming. It's certainly not the authoritative volume on how to avoid and rectify situations like this, but let's use this as a friendly reminder of how to stay out of trouble.
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What excuses are you making for not going after what you want? And do they really have to stop you? If you've really invested in your excuses, and their hold on you feels too strong, you may have let them break you down to the point of resignation.
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Your professional brand is the sum of many aspects of your professional life, so it's important that you are always representing your best self. Don't shy away from announcing promotions or career milestones and updating your profile.
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There are quite a few questions that come up in almost every job interview, and one in particular that you are sure to be asked. The best way to ace an interview is tailor your answers to be as specifically relevant as possible to the challenges of the job at hand - especially for the questions that you know are coming.
What I didn't expect about my adventures are the lessons I learned that I could incorporate into my everyday business life; tools for managing stress, dealing with conflicting personalities, budgeting, and organizing time. Here's why taking a break will give you insights that will help you enjoy it even more.
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I started to blog for the Huffington Post last year after I told a friend casually that I love to write. After submitting a piece, they asked asked for a headshot and published my first blog almost im...
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Do you wish you were the person who takes a leadership role in the workplace and who is often given roles of greater responsibility by the bosses? Do you want to become the person who is rarely beset by self-doubt, self-criticism, or insecurities about your abilities? It's all possible. You simply need to gain confidence.
If you're 5+ years into your career, chances are you've been asked to meet over a cup of coffee. While I typically say yes to these coffee chats -- I think it's good karma energy to give back -- you have to be prepared for the worst, and hope for the best. For those looking to chat someone's ear off, here's a guide to not pissing them off in the process.
Your job title is only holding you back because you're reading way too much into it. Titles are entirely self-fulfilling, they make you, and only you, feel like you matter. So don't get bogged down in the "level game" because we're not all on the same playing field.
I attended the taping of BET's 'Black Girls Rock' award show in Newark, New Jersey. Since my blog talks about all things a "hot mess," I decided to ask the carpet walkers for some advice on a living hot mess-free!
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I have nothing against the word success or even it's traditional definition. It's just a word, after all. But let's call it what it is. It's a benchmark for performance and attainment -- a measuring stick. Tangible metrics are important and have their place, particularly in the business world. But if you're looking for personal fulfillment, it's not likely that traditional measures of success are going to get you there.
Most of the people I work with come to me because they feel lost and they don't know what they want. At least, they think they don't know what they want. But more than half of the time - heck, most of the time - the problem has nothing to do with knowing; it's the fear associated with the desire.
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In an era where women are still struggling to be recognized and paid for their leadership skills, it is a frustrating message that one's best shot at elevating her status is to wait patiently for opportunity to appear. Rather than sitting around waiting for a Fairy Godmother to magically deliver your next promotion, here are five movie-inspired steps you can take to prove you are a capable leader and elevate your status at work.
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Going back to work after taking time off to stay at home with your kids can be a daunting experience. By following these six tips, you can fill the resume gap with the unique skills you developed while staying at home and be on the way to landing your dream career.
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Anyone who has dealt with unwanted advances at work knows the feeling of shame that ensues. The truth is, I had no idea what to do. I had never talked about it, even with my most trusted female mentors. It is not the kind you can prepare for, it is all consuming.
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Once upon a time, you decided to take a few months away from your career to spend time with your new baby, or tend to a sick relative, or start your own business. Perhaps those months turned into years and you now find yourself wanting to return to the workforce. Don't despair. By following the six steps below, you can take control of the back-to-work process and will restart your career in no time.
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What does it take to become a millionaire? I posed that question to 52-year-old, self-made millionaire Bobby Genovese. With a net worth of over $200 million dollars, the venture capitalist seems like a pretty perfect person to offer up some valuable advice.
The definition of a traditional career does not lend well in today's innovation and technology driven economy. Workplaces are changing. No longer must you come into the office everyday for business meetings when you can stay at home and with a click of a button, video conference with executives around the world.
As a business owner and mom, I always have a million things to do. I know this will never change because I throw myself 100 per cent into being a mom and running a business. By taking this trip, I got the chance to reconnect (albeit briefly) with myself, the person I had unwittingly buried with both personal and professional responsibilities. And it felt great.
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Success defines many of us. We are often judged by our lifestyle, our clothes, our cars and the company we keep. Whether we truly love the work we do and look beyond our job status as a way of validating ourselves varies from person to person. If ambition trumps all else, here are 10 ways that it can wreck your career.
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If you ask your daughter (or son for that matter), if they would want your job or your life and they pause, maybe you should too. Just because you can do the impossible, doesn't mean you need to. A wise woman said, "I wasn't there all the time but I was there when it mattered most."
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If you are an entrepreneur, be proud to hold this title and live up to its name. Also understand that you are leading a long overdue generational shift across sectors and it will take some time before your path may be embraced by all. Don't let the resistance discourage you from your ambitions.
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Female experts are quoted less often than their male counterparts in newspapers and on TV. Why? Because many women falsely believe someone else knows their area of expertise better than they do. This prevents them from stepping into the spotlight that they have earned and deserve.
The scary fact is that any of these bad career moves can be really easy to do in a moment of thoughtlessness. And they can all damage your professional reputation in ways that put your current job at risk and make finding future employment that much harder. The good news is that they can be avoided by taking a moment to think strategically before you act.
Everyone has at least one cowbell -- it's your unique, profitable talent people pay you for or your company's unique offering. It's something people have a fever for. When you discover it and give those people a ton of it, you gain success and happiness for both yourself and others. It's a win-win.
For many successful women, their careers are journeys that don't always turn out the way they planned -- often in a good way. If success and learning are your goals, it's your job to leverage what you learn at each stage of your journey. Here's my best advice on how to do that.