RTimages via Getty Images
TARIK KIZILKAYA via Getty Images
One Red Lipstick, both the book and documentary, is about resilience. It's about how women when faced with challenges and obstacles, grit their teeth, and ploughed on, not letting the "stuff" of life hold them back. They were determined that what had happened wasn't going to stop them.
Shutterstock / Jason Stitt
I've found that once I've made a major decision, it wasn't as scary as I thought it was, and I wonder what too me so long. When you step outside your unhappiness, you find that there is a life and it is there for the taking. It is just getting over that first hurdle of making a move and once you've jumped that... you can win. You can get ahead.
Research has since shown that laughter is good for you. So my advice? Find your funny bone. Trust me, you'll be glad you did.
"I love you," "I am sorry," and "Please help me." How often do you say these words? When I was asked, I first thought, I am pretty good at shelling out these words, but on reflection, am I? I can't re...
According to the Oxford Dictionary, the definition of success is "the attainment of wealth, fame or position." That seems a very masculine and narrow definition, and certainly from our research for ou...
Jupiterimages via Getty Images
At the first One Red Lipstick Live event, and nine brave women had stepped forward to give us a glimpse into their lives. They had ten minutes to talk and their presentation was being videotaped which would be enough to make many people truly nervous.
While we can't control what others think of us, what we can control is how we react. So how do we get over this fierce judgment we place on ourselves? Part, I am sure is letting go of perfectionism, lowering our expectations and realizing if you have done your best, that should be enough. I know, easier said than done.
Martin Barraud via Getty Images
People are saying that "everyone needs a mentor." And probably we do, but it is finding one that is the challenge. In a world of "what's in it for me" offering training and leadership opportunities to encourage people to step forward as mentors may be the way to go.
Klaus Vedfelt via Getty Images
We are measuring ourselves against society's definitions of success, which may not necessarily be a fit with our own. So often people measure success by how much money you make, as if the dollars earned equate to happiness. I run a successful business, but I don't measure it in financial terms, but more by the number of people positively impacted by being part of our organization.
Part of the problem for women in the workplace, is that they believe if they work hard, it will pay off. They will get recognized, promoted and move up the corporate ladder. Wrong, claims the authors. As they say "it's not enough to be good." You need more.
AFP via Getty Images
Think about your business. Have you found the recipe for success? Often people are so focused on their end goal, that they put on blinkers, and truly miss the side trips along the way, that yes, may take them a bit off track, but the scenic route can also lead to unexpected opportunities.
NilouferWadia via Getty Images
Much is written in business circles of visualizing your success. Well for astronauts, it is quite the reverse, they spend considerable time visualizing failure; simulating what they would do if something went wrong -- and in space, the scope is unlimited. As business owners we need to do that too and be prepared for what could go wrong, with a plan B (or C) in our back pocket.
NPHOTOS via Getty Images
Life on the fast lane takes its toll. I am so used to going at high speed, that to amble along in the slow lane is challenging. But as you whiz along, you miss out. You miss seeing the natural beauty around you. You miss socializing with friends, or just being on your own, with time to reflect and catch your breath.
Recently I received a call from a woman who wanted to take her program on the road. She wanted my advice on how to proceed and how to take her business to the next level. I cautioned her about leaping in and trying to expand too quickly, especially if she didn't have the staffing or resources in place to manage the growth.
Have you ever read The 5 Love Languages ? It is an interesting book, and one that can help you better understand your partner and other important relationships in your life. I believe in building your business relationships, that you also have to tap into the same languages.
Years ago in another life, I used to teach a parenting course and lately I am finding that the lessons I learned and taught in that program have some relevance to what I see today, and especially in running a business.
Like others in Ontario, the ice storm caught us by surprise and we spent a very chilly few days without power and, living in the country, without water too. To be honest we weren't that prepared. We are now, I can tell you. But as business owners, we also have some lessons to learn from those tough few days that we can use in our business lives.
Have you ever noticed that history has a way of repeating itself, especially if you haven't paid attention and learned the lesson the first time around? I say this because I have just realized that I am facing the same situation I first dealt with when I was 14. A couple of months ago we moved full time to our farm, just an hour from where we used to live. Now, I can see that I need to focus my energies on making new friends.
When I first started in my business, I was pretty insecure. I spent time, too much time, watching what my competition did and basically focused my energies on them, instead of what I wanted to do and achieve. How foolish is that?
One story that Shapiro shared was of the challenges facing Houston Airport, where luggage would be available within eight minutes but passengers were at the luggage carousel within one minute and disgruntled about having to wait. The answer: airport staff created a longer path to collect luggage which took eight minutes, so luggage and passengers arrived at the same time.
Jung describes synchronicity as "a meaningful coincidence of two or more events, where something other than probability of chance is involved." And that is what I have found. When I am on the right path, I meet the people I am meant to meet and suddenly my journey has more meaning and depth.
Failure to me is when you lose tons of money and your world bottoms out. That I have never experienced. Have I made mistakes? You bet, but to me they are lessons to be learned. I have learned to let go of the need to be perfect, because I am not.
While as small business owners we are moving in very different circles, we can all learn from what is happening in the big business world. Take your lead from your customers, not your competition -- it is your customers who will tell you what they want, and don't want. So listen, and act accordingly.
Much is written these days about storytelling as a way to make yourself or your business stand out, and it is a strategy that I strongly recommend. Yet recently I have witnessed ways how, as a speaker, it can backfire on you and instead of winning over your audience, can alienate the people listening to your talk. How?
If you do a favour for someone, do you keep an internal tally card tracking who has done what for who and then feel abused when the person or company doesn't reciprocate? You wouldn't be alone. But authors Bob Burg and John David Mann point out in their book, The Go-Giver, that it is the giving without thought of a return that really counts.
Some of the matches, especially in the semi-finals once you got down to the really skilled players, could have been easily won by either opponent, it was that close. But just like in business, you can be neck and neck with your competitors, and suddenly one of you gets ahead. So what did the winners do to make that happen?
Always start with yourself, not a power point slide. You have only so much time to hook people in, and your audience wants to get to know you. While you need to be a bit of an actor, don't ham it up too much as it detracts from your authenticity.
The best mentoring relationships happen organically, where you click and connect with someone else. There has to be some chemistry. You need to like and respect each other. You need to enjoy spending time together. When you are "matched" by someone else that element is not always there.
It's not all about you. Yes, you can promote your own programs, services and products, but if that is all you do, you won't attract the following you want. Just as in face-to-face networking, givers gain. Try to make it 80 per cent about your industry and 20 per cent about your business.
Recently I was asked for advice from a couple of women -- a small business owner and a would-be entrepreneur and in each instance, the answer was the same -- they needed to do the math. In fact, it really was all about the bottom line.
I am sure many of us can think of examples of those who are the "takers" in life. They run their business in a transactional way. I actually feel sorry for people who have a scarcity or competitive attitude because they miss out on so much. As Dr. Ivan Misner advocates, "givers gain."
People often comment that they don't know how I manage it all. But you know what, I am not so sure that I do. Yes, I juggle a lot. Yes, I am high energy. But there are weeks, like this one, when I want to stop being the hamster on the treadmill. Maybe it's time to get off.