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Whether you call it grey divorce or silver separations, the age of people who are divorced or separated is on the rise.
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These couples feel pressures their parents didn't. They live a less certain world when it comes to employment. They are more likely to go from contract to contract than to have a lifetime career with a single employer. Many are paying off large student loans. They face a housing market where the ratio between prices and income is dramatically different than it was for the previous generation.
For most people, the decision to leave a marriage is made over time. Although there is no one formula that will lead to an answer, there are some questions you can ask yourself to help you move from indecision to decision. We suggest these as a starting point to help you make the difficult decision to stay or go.
A "bitter" divorce has more adverse consequences on all aspects of life, such as management of expenses after divorce, stress caused by dividing assets, depletion of retirement savings and of course the cost of the divorce itself. In our book, When Harry Left Sally, we advocate an approach that brings "grey" separating couples to the settlement table together.