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I know there's no such thing as a fairy tale, but maybe I want to write my own ending with my own idea of what makes me happy. Is it such an old fashioned view to want a partner? To have found my match? To have a realistic vision of what life would be like even knowing we will have to face unforeseen challenges?
Leap Day is traditionally the one day where women are permitted without judgement, to ask for a man's hand in marriage. One might think that after decades of traditions that bound women into these so called identity roles, women would be elated to be freed up from one more gender restraint.
I examined many books on the market designed to help women to attract Mr. Right. I researched lessons on how to make it past the first date, what to say and not to say, how to dress, and when and how to ration out the first kiss. The more I read and compared notes, the stronger the question became: When is it okay to stop pretending?