Have you ever tried arguing with a three-year-old? It is definitely a no-win situation. But how different is the psychology of the average three-year-old from that of many of us vis-à-vis the choices we ourselves make in life? The underlying message of the Torah is that we should not define happiness by what we don't have, but by what we do have. The Torah teaches us that the happiness we seek is literally right in front of our eyes.