When I observe how people engage in romantic relationships, it seems that they do this in one of two ways: either from the perspective of a child or from that of an adult. People who pursue love from an adult perspective are looking for companionship, romance, a life partner. People who approach love from a child-like perspective, however, have a very different agenda

Like any other "addiction," I think a porn or sex addiction has more to do with our own abilities to cope and achieve healthy, interpersonal sexual and emotional relationships.

Kindness emerges from someone who's confident, compassionate and comfortable with themselves. A kind person is loving and giving out of the goodness of their heart. At the root of extreme niceness, however, are feelings of inadequacy and the need to get approval and validation from others.