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Remember, no family is perfect. No one is perfect. A little family conflict may be unavoidable for some people. Unless it's gross mistreatment, try to skirt disagreements. Agree when you normally wouldn't, swallow a little pride and be more forgiving. It's only one or two days a year. And remember there are many, many people with no family at all. So if you have family, you already have a reason to be thankful.
Most of us have heard this at least once in our lives. But if we can't achieve the perfect life we have dreamed of our whole life, then what's the point? How can we expect ourselves to be happy? Trying to achieve the society's definition of success won't bring all of us happiness.
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Managing your Christmas Stress is all about eliminating the things that create emotional, mental or emotions stress. And, when you keep your holiday expectations in check, you are more likely to create a Merry Christmas that ends stress free.
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Some are geographically distant from those they hold dear and raise a solitary glass to absent friends. Others have lost loved ones to the grave. But for many of us, "no contact" is a choice we consciously made. Loneliness is simply less painful than the agony of spending time with our toxic families.
Every year, there are always people who don't look forward to the holiday season. Some have difficult relationships with their family members, some are feeling lonely and isolated and some are financially strapped.
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Here is the big eye-opener: our stress is self-imposed.
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December is the month when I experience the most stress to live up to everyone's expectations. Be a good Mom. Be an amazing business owner. Be at every event. Continue to grow your empire. Don't forget anything. Be yourself...but better...tenfold.
Be kind to yourself as you grow, fail and succeed. There is no health in beating yourself up and setting yourself up for failure. Success often comes in packages we did not expect, so be open to things looking a bit different than you expected. Keep moving towards the things that you love and make you feel alive, and that path will lead you towards true change and growth.
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Probably like most of us, your family is not close to perfect like George Bailey's. It probably is closer to one of the three Modern Family families or the Griswolds. To avoid getting wrapped up in garlands, here's your family survival guide for the holidays.
The holidays are filled with social gatherings, family dinners and opportunities to connect and share the joy of the season. But with this festive season also come land mines that are within every family -- all this togetherness can sometimes backfire. So, how do we avoid this meltdown? Here are some tips to assist you in keeping the family peace during the holidays.
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While the holiday season is often depicted as a special time of year -- so much so that many people strive to make their holidays "perfect" -- the reality is that the happiness that is widely portrayed can often be a myth for people across Canada, including young people.
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Children may worry they are being disloyal if they start to have too much fun with one parent. They also worry about the parent that they are not with, wondering if that parent is okay. Sometimes they just deeply miss the parent they are not with. The familiar traditions may be gone and this can leave the children feeling as though something or someone is missing.
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Driving. Eating. Cooking. Brushing our teeth. Applying lipstick. Even, having sex! Most of the things we do in life are done mindlessly from memory, and not actively aware. It wasn't until I took a mindfulness meditation course that I realized what we are all missing out on!
Have you noticed that every holiday season, the pressure builds as everyone rushes around buying too much stuff before the Big Day? Then our festive bubble bursts just after New Year's when they announce how much new debt everyone has incurred. And then just as suddenly, the talk turns to RSPs and taxes. The collective anxiety is enough to give everyone a massive ulcer.