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I May not Be a "Good Mother", but I am Good Enough

Lori Gard | Posted 04.25.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Confession time. Along with many other like-minded mothers out there, I concur: Greatness should not be the standard when it comes to mothering. On the contrary, I think it is okay -- dare I say desirable -- to instead be a good enough mother.

Who Are We to Judge Moms Who Need a Break?

Lori Gard | Posted 03.28.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

There is a picture of a mama and her kids at the park. The kids are happily playing on the playground equipment while the mom checks a message on her phone. What could she be doing? Could a very important phone call just have come in? And who are we to judge?

International Women's Day: Keep on Keeping on, Soldier

Lori Gard | Posted 05.08.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

That moment when you look at your hands, at your feet; and they look...old. When you look at your body and it seems flabby. When you look at your eyes, and they seem tired. That, my dear Mama, is the moment you realize. That being a mother is the hardest gig you've ever had to do. Harder than anything. Keep on keeping on, soldiers.

People Don't Want a Real Answer

Lori Gard | Posted 05.01.2013 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

In general, people don't really want to know the real answer to tough questions about life.

Why Blame an Innocent Mother for Her Children's Murder?

Jane Tolmie | Posted 01.28.2013 | Canada
Jane Tolmie

On October 25, Marina Krim returned from taking her three-year-old daughter to the pool, to find her other two children -- Lulu and Leo -- stabbed to death in the bathtub of the family apartment in the Upper West Side. The nanny has since been charged with the murders. Many Internet responses have focused on mother-blaming, and especially on the mother's part-time labour outside the home. The father's labour is not discussed, just as his parenting skills are not criticized. This is misogynist victim-blaming. Cyberbullying has politics and here they revolve around contempt for women.

When Philosophies Converge (Because Good Mothers Show Up)

Lori Gard | Posted 06.27.2012 | Canada Living
Lori Gard

Being a mother is just part of a woman's persona, not the be all and end all of a woman's life. Mothers need not check their goals, dreams and aspirations at the hospital door when they go to deliver. And for one to suggest that you might have days where you'd rather not be around your children -- and actually admit it out loud -- is okay. Most importantly, moms don't always have to like the job of being a mother. Because quite frankly, many don't.