Try hard never to envy your partner. Envy is sex poison. If you want good sex, learn to be a good companion. A good companion listens. Sex is always changing for any given individual and every couple, and so communication should never end. The good news is the potential to reawaken desire never dies.
What is an ecosexual, you might ask? It's about looking at the Earth not as 'mother', but as 'lover' -- calling to reduce our carbon footprints and revolutionize how we each truly impact our environment. What's a better trend than being eco-friendly and increasing your pleasure capacity at the same time?!
Everyone wants better sex, but many of us have the wrong idea about how to make it happen. A happy, fulfilling sex life is available to everyone. If we simply pay attention, we'll discover the sexual satisfaction that we've never previously experienced. Here are the seven secrets to achieving a spectacular sex life.
As a couples mediator, I can state with certainty that marriage problems often show up in the bedroom first. For that reason, it's important for a woman to stay sexual. Women often complain that they "don't feel sexy" any more. Weight gain, normal aging and other body changes. If this sounds like you, here are eight steps to go from feeling like a fat cat to purring like a sex kitten.
A few weeks ago, my newsfeed was filled with stories from this year's Sundance Film Festival: "Record Number of Female Directors!" However, what little information I could find about the films centering around women with sexual storylines led to utter disappointment -- did they all just happen to be really dark, or is the female perspective on sex an utter failure?
There's myriad ideologies that stop women from having a healthy relationship with their privates including: negative socialization, lack of education and exposure when young, stigma when admitting they masturbate, and the list goes on and on. Bottom line: until the average gal can have a positive relationship with her vulva, enjoying sex to the maximum will probably be out of her grasp.
Using women's bodies to sell alcohol is probably the thing I hate most about the broader beer culture in the western world. Possibly it's because I have a daughter now, and I'm thinking about my actions as a man, particularly relating to how they relate to girls and young women who are growing up in a messed up world.
Because today is National Coming Out Day, I was reminded of my own journey. Almost two decades ago, I came out of that supposed "closet" publicly and purposefully for when I finally figured out I was gay, I wanted to shout it to the world. I eventually found the label "gay" something to be proud of. The gay label is just one small part of the big picture. But take it away and I wouldn't be me.
I was thinking of all the couples who complain that sex has become duty, and thus has lost its joy. Women particularly chafe at duty-sex, and men wither with performance anxiety. Both thus miss their own potential enjoyment. What is required to reverse this self-defeating behaviour? Let's stop demanding that everything be perfect before we venture forth sexually.
Many women confide in me that they have negative or anxious feelings, at the deepest level, about their sexuality. The number one question I get is, "Why do I have so little desire?" If you're in libido limbo, take heart. There are many ways to regain the sexual excitement and desire of youth -- no matter how old you are. Try these nine simple strategies.
Even though the euphemism "four-letter word" only came into use during the first half of the twentieth century, I think the first and most controversial anachronistic example must be "slut. I found an unusual modern-day definition: a woman with the morals of a man. Surprised? Slut is not just a term used for women.
According to a recent survey in the UK's Daily Mail, almost 80 per cent of women and 90 per cent of men were excited by the domination and submission theme of the 50 Shades trilogy. Why? Well, if you've been having sex with the same person, in the same place and positions for years, it is incredibly exciting to have that person behave in a way that is unfamiliar and unexpected.
When people around me learn of my profession in pornography, they immediately start asking morbid questions. I'm used to this: Society has always tried to control our sexuality. But I'm not so much concerned with society. I'm more concerned with what I'll say when my daughters ask: "Mommy, what is your job?"
I believe it's the secrecy of your partner engaging in virtual sex that causes the majority of the difficulty -- if not devastation -- to a relationship. I appreciate that it's difficult to bring up that you want to dabble in cyber sex, but it's even more difficult to try and resolve an issue of mistrust.