A bad breakup can feel like a stun gun has been applied directly to the center of your chest. You can feel paralyzed, overwhelmed with pain and grief, confused and utterly lost. How does a person cope with such an assault to their emotional world?
Here's something no one wants to hear: You aren't special because you made it through a bad break-up. Calling someone who had a bad break-up a "survivor" is a kind of First-World-Problems hyperbole. It belittles those who actually persevere and overcome true, life-threatening obstacles.
After a breakup, remember, there was once a 'you' before you became a 'we.' You'll recall that there was a time where you were fully whole -- without anyone completing you. There was once a time that you created community, family, stability, and security all on your own.