Goal setting doesn't have to turn into Goal Fretting. If you are seriously committed to making changes in your life, identify what has been, and hasn't been, working for you in the past, come up with a plan, find a coach to support you every step of the way. Don't be another statistic, do it right this time!
In the early 2000s I started to read about the Dalai Lama. It was a revelation to view the world through the eyes of compassion. Venturing to the grocery store, driving in traffic, all became a practice of kindness. Then after I became comfortable with the concepts of Buddhism. I embarked on yoga. This extended my mindfulness. Now I continue to bring these concepts together and combine them with visualization.