There's a big push right now for women to lift weights and to lift heavy. As a trainer I get it. I want to be strong. I want my clients to be strong. But there comes a time, when for the average person, enough is enough. We have once again taken it too far.
Don't be afraid to strength train! Pretty much daily one of my clients tells me that "I want to strength train and tone up, but I don't want to get too strong, or too bulky." But it is almost impossibly for women to "get big" unless they really try -- it is just not in our genetics.