It is really about the head and heart. Not the size of the breasts. Or how firm, the body. For me, humour is key. I know that sounds strange. But getting naked with someone is inherently funny. Especially in the early stages. As we try to navigate which legs go where.

"You look good...for someone who's had four kids...especially since one of those kids is 21." I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that no mom ever wants to hear anything past "you look good." If in fact someone says this to you, you must move away immediately to avoid the unavoidable follow up sentences.

One of the qualities most associated with womanhood is being a mother -- so why don't we know what a mother's body looks like under her clothes? Th...