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The Purple Fig is a blogazine for real women by real women (cool, strong, outspoken women you’d want to have a glass of wine with). Raw, relatable stories on everything from looking for love to staying in love; from partying to parenting; from cooking to meditating.

It is a community where women share personal stories — no ego, no shame. We're about life, love and all of the stuff that makes us yearn, squirm, and giggle. These stories make up the authentic and intriguing journey of a woman. Share your story and join the convo.

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I Dated an Older Man - And Didn't Like It

(7) Comments | Posted April 13, 2015 | 5:31 PM

I've always had a thing for older men.

Posters of a shirtless, tanned Mel Gibson and a smirking Kevin Costner in a V-neck T-shirt -- both well into their late 30s -- adorned my walls as a 10-year-old. The first man I pictured as I dry humped my pillow...

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Losing it Less and Choosing Happiness More

(0) Comments | Posted March 13, 2015 | 8:16 AM

One day, after the fourteenth emotional breakdown from one of my two young boys, I found myself preaching the idea of happiness being a choice: "Choose happiness! It's a choice. You have the control!"

Yes, my boys are three and five years old so I realize that without their fully...

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A Person's a Person, No Matter How Small

(0) Comments | Posted March 12, 2015 | 5:28 PM

I met Brielle a few hours after she was born. My husband and I had her brother and sister over for the day while she was working her way into this world. Her mother Paula, a very good friend of mine, looked happy and calm (as she does most of...

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2014 Was a Tough Year To Be Female

(31) Comments | Posted January 3, 2015 | 9:46 AM

What kind of year was 2014?

It was a tough year to be female.

This year...Boko Haram kidnapped nearly 400 Nigerian schoolgirls during two separate sieges. Most of the students kidnapped during the first incident were set to write their final high school graduation exams that day. The girls, aged...

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I Have Never Been Kissed at Midnight on New Year's Eve

(6) Comments | Posted December 31, 2014 | 4:35 PM

Growing up, I was more likely to tell ghost stories (I was once dubbed "The Ghost Story Mama" by my camp counsellors) than share raunchy sex stories. As a teen, I hung out with a bunch of virgins (good looking ones, funny, too, but big fat virgins just the same)...

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I Am No Longer a People Pleaser at Christmas

(8) Comments | Posted December 24, 2014 | 2:00 PM

I am the Grinch. Yep, that one family member that stole Christmas and ruined it for one and all...or at least that is how some of my family would like to make me out to be. But it's been four years since I made the shocking announcement that I would...

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'Unexplained Infertility' Explained

(1) Comments | Posted November 17, 2014 | 4:39 PM

In viewing a recent "health matters" segment where my amazing colleague Dr. Erica Robinson was interviewed regarding ways to improve fertility, it occurred to me that she, myself and the rest of our expert team at the World of my Baby (WOMB) are addressing aspects of fertility every day that...

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How I Deal With the Comments People Make About My Adopted, Special-Needs Child

(3) Comments | Posted November 10, 2014 | 4:26 PM

I've always wanted to adopt. I wasn't particularly interested in being pregnant because I felt that my calling was to adopt children who needed a family. I made that clear to my husband before we married -- while I wasn't opposed to having a biological child, I still wanted to...

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I Helped My Autistic Son Thrive By Ignoring Our Doctor

(12) Comments | Posted November 3, 2014 | 11:32 AM

Autism.

That one word, uttered by a white-coated doctor during the spring of 2007, was all it took to turn my life upside down. Since my son's birth three and a half years previously, I had been lovingly crafting a picture of what my family life was going to...

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How Facebook Stopped Me From Dating a Lying Creep

(9) Comments | Posted October 30, 2014 | 5:40 PM

I really wasn't looking forward to this wedding reception. I had been living back home with my parents for less than two weeks and the last thing I wanted to do was explain to everyone why I had moved from the incredible city of Chicago back to unexciting Ohio.

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My Morning Sickness Was So Horrific it Sent Me to the ICU

(3) Comments | Posted October 29, 2014 | 1:19 PM

Hi, my name is Cate and I'm a survivor of Hyperemesis Gravidarum. For those of you who do not know what that Harry Potter-sounding term means, the definition is simply "excessive vomiting." Hypermesis doesn't have a lot of exposure, and many people don't think it exists. It's been in the...

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How I Live With Anorexia

(5) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 5:51 PM

The moment I put on my dream wedding dress, I cried tears of disappointment and frustration. It was exactly as I had pictured, with a corseted top that tied like a ballet slipper in the back, shiny white beads on the front, and a flowing, silky train. The dress wasn't...

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The TDSB Wants to Move My Kids to a New School, and I'm Rallying

(1) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 5:46 PM

Recently, parents at Garden Ave Public School in Toronto got a shock -- we were told that our kids would potentially be forced to move to another school just over 1km away, with the TDSB saying they think that distance is not "too far" for JK kids to...

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I Can Be a Feminist and Watch Submissive Porn

(28) Comments | Posted September 20, 2014 | 10:16 AM

The first time I watched porn was in a college dorm room surrounded by seven other first-time- away-from-home freshmen. We giggled at the sight of the nudity, the cheesy saxophone music, the awkward dialogue. We felt a small thrill at watching something our parents would have banned. Was anyone turned...

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Adrian Peterson Doesn't Deserve a Second Chance After Abusing His Child

(35) Comments | Posted September 16, 2014 | 5:46 PM

Picture a 6'2" professional football player, beating a four-year-old with a stick until the little boy is left with blood all over his body.

While it may sound like a scene from a horror movie, this is sadly the awful truth behind the Adrian Peterson child abuse case. In May,...

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We Should Care Less About Kate Middleton's Second Pregnancy

(14) Comments | Posted September 11, 2014 | 7:55 AM

When news of the Duchess of Cambridge's second pregnancy was announced on September 8, the Internet immediately exploded into a flurry of excitement.

In the nine months to come, we can expect endless media coverage of 32-year-old Kate Middleton's baby bump, maternity wardrobe and morning sickness.

According to the BBC,...

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A Two-Game Suspension Is a Small Price for Ray Rice To Pay

(1) Comments | Posted September 10, 2014 | 5:50 PM

In February, 27-year-old Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice was caught on camera dragging his unconsciousness girlfriend Janay Palmer out of an elevator. The couple had been having an argument at a hotel in Atlantic City. Unfortunately a lot of us have seen this footage.

When more footage was...

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What About Everyday Women Whose Photos Get Leaked?

(28) Comments | Posted September 3, 2014 | 4:41 PM

Jennifer Lawrence. J.Law. It is a name which most of us have heard before. In a world where many of us are social media-savvy and popular culture-aware, countless fans look up to the Hunger Games star as a type of classic girl-next-door American beauty.

As Apple and the FBI investigate...

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How to Help a Kid With Back-to-School Jitters Get Ready for the Year

(1) Comments | Posted August 26, 2014 | 8:51 AM

We know that it isn't always high-fives and smiles for children going back to school this fall. Some kids are faced with anxiety and apprehension during this time of change. Dr. Dubois, psychologist at Canoe Therapy, helps to equip us parents with some tools to ease those nerves...
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How it Really Feels to Turn 40

(0) Comments | Posted August 19, 2014 | 9:25 AM

Well, I've been 40 for a little over a month now, and I just bought mom-shorts. I guess there are some things about aging that are inevitable. I bought the shorts without trying them on because they were a good deal, and I wasn't about to wait in a long...

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