The Purple Fig
The Purple Fig is a blogazine for real women by real women (cool, strong, outspoken women you’d want to have a glass of wine with). Raw, relatable stories on everything from looking for love to staying in love; from partying to parenting; from cooking to meditating.

It is a community where women share personal stories — no ego, no shame. We're about life, love and all of the stuff that makes us yearn, squirm, and giggle. These stories make up the authentic and intriguing journey of a woman. Share your story and join the convo.

Entries by The Purple Fig

How it Really Feels to Turn 40

(0) Comments | Posted August 19, 2014 | 9:25 AM

Well, I've been 40 for a little over a month now, and I just bought mom-shorts. I guess there are some things about aging that are inevitable. I bought the shorts without trying them on because they were a good deal, and I wasn't about to wait in a long...

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The Balance Between Relaxed '70s Parenting and Modern Meddling

(0) Comments | Posted August 5, 2014 | 5:52 PM

If you are a parent, you know the complete powerlessness within parenthood that exists between peeing on a stick and the day you die. Something could happen at any time, for whatever reason. And as the world becomes more and more connected and the media fierce in its gravitation towards...

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Why I Wish I Was Needier

(0) Comments | Posted July 15, 2014 | 8:33 AM

Yes, that's right: I wish sometimes that I was needier. In recent months, I've come to a very blunt awareness about just how independent I had become in my four years as a single person. Moreover, I can reflect today and acknowledge just how much society places value on that...

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3 Key First Steps To A Fast Post-Baby Body Recovery

(0) Comments | Posted July 14, 2014 | 5:43 PM

1) Bind your Belly:

Women have been wrapping up their torsos after delivering babies for thousands of years. Japanese women wear a "sarashi", Latin women bind themselves with a "faja" and Malaysian women use a "bengkung". North Americans are evidently far behind when it comes to this practice! One...

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Letter to My Future Self (I Hope You're Still Fun!)

(0) Comments | Posted July 14, 2014 | 12:22 PM

My grandma set the bar for me on how the elderly should roll. I'm only realizing now that she was truly one of a kind. I thought that all grandmas flashed their grandchildren for a laugh and flipped the bird for family photos. She taught us how to play poker,...

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25 Ways to Be Vulnerable

(0) Comments | Posted June 16, 2014 | 5:46 PM

1. Do not, under any circumstances, stop singing or roll up your windows when you pull up at a stoplight next to another car. Let 'em hear you sing! Let 'em know that even in 2014, you still listen to Color Me Badd.

2. Remove the words "like," "kind of"...

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How Women Should Deal with Contractors

(2) Comments | Posted June 5, 2014 | 11:15 AM

Last year, approximately $24 billion was spent on home renovations in North America. Women are accounting for a majority of those home renovation decisions on where that money goes. We also account for 85 per cent of all consumer purchases including everything from autos to healthcare. Add to that, more...

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I'm Over 30 and I Don't Care About "Acting My Age"

(5) Comments | Posted June 3, 2014 | 5:46 PM

I hadn't been too concerned about the age gap until we were drinking forties out of paper bags in the parking lot of a dive bar at midnight.

Who's "we" you ask? That would be 31-year-old me, my two mid-20s male coworkers, and one of their girlfriends.

As we slammed...

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What Kegel Exercises Can Do For You

(0) Comments | Posted May 27, 2014 | 12:29 PM

We Pilates teachers love to talk about kegels. Like, all the time. Not just in class but at dinner parties, too (well, maybe that's just me). It's for good reason: engaging your kegels works your pelvic floor. The pelvic floor muscles are a group of muscles that attach to the...

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I Pushed Away the Love of My Life and He Won't Come Back

(5) Comments | Posted May 20, 2014 | 12:30 PM

I threw away the only man who ever loved me, who I was in love with. I realize that this statement must elicit a bunch of questions. Ten years later, I still can't process, make sense of, or come to peace with this loss.

They say that anything is possible....

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The Disease That Causes Unusual Weight Gain in 17 Million Women

(2) Comments | Posted April 16, 2014 | 12:32 PM

Often mistaken for obesity or unusual weight gain, one disease affects more than 17 million women nationwide, and most are unaware it's a disease at all.

Meet Jasna, a 43-year-old female from Utah who suddenly found herself gaining a significant amount of fat in her legs and thighs.

The bizarre...

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Do All Only Children Secretly Wish For Siblings?

(6) Comments | Posted April 10, 2014 | 5:19 PM

Do only children pine for siblings? Most of the parenting world seems to think so. Parent-friends have warned me of the perils of leading my son down the dark and isolating path travelled by the only child.

Apparently it's a path frequented by the selfish, the unsocialized, the entitled, the...

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Cheating Made Me a Different Person From the Very First Kiss

(6) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 8:49 AM

My horoscope this week mentioned something about secrets. That my hard crab shell wouldn't totally protect me against prodding outsiders or temptations. And that if I wasn't careful, those thinner parts would crack, letting past lovers and old vices squeeze through. I read this on a lazy Sunday morning, laying...

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My Sister Gave Me Her Eggs: A Journey Through Fertility

(0) Comments | Posted March 31, 2014 | 5:39 PM

Part One

Five years ago, I called my sister to tell her that I was pregnant; she happened to be just waking up from a dream where she had given me an egg.

Now we are in the waiting cubicle of an IVF suite in downtown Toronto. She in the...

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My Crush Invited Me For Group Sex, Should I Go?

(7) Comments | Posted March 7, 2014 | 7:33 AM

I consider myself well-versed in the sexual arena. I have had too much sex with too many partners under surreal circumstances in exotic places. But while I have been a very sexual creature, and a very active being, there is still so much I have left to explore. This became...

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How I Was Rewarded For Having Only Two Sexual Partners

(0) Comments | Posted February 19, 2014 | 4:05 PM

About two years ago I was a virgin. My only notions of real sex were what I had gathered from movies and books. Sometimes it was romantic and unreal where the woman's hair and make-up was left untouched. Sometimes it was gritty and impersonal, but still something I wanted to...

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Valentine's Day Is More Than a Dinner Reservation

(0) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 11:25 AM

According to Wikipedia, Valentine's Day evolved in 18th-century England as an occasion for lovers to express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering chocolates and sending greeting cards. Nowadays, we spend hours writing out cards for our children's classmates, if we're single it can be just an annoying...

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No B.S. Guide to Surviving Valentine's Day

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2014 | 7:49 AM

The day many people dread and others anxiously await is fast approaching. I'm talking about the day where countless women expect some sort of grand love gesture. A candle-lit dinner for two in a restaurant that tripled the price for its famous spaghetti and meatballs. A surprise proposal with the...

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Five No-B.S Tips For Surviving Cancer in Your 20s

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2014 | 4:23 PM

"Mom, I have fucking Cancer. I'm a jobless, degreeless, broke 24 year old that's going nowhere in life."

That was me two years ago having a meltdown over the phone. I had just received a thyroid cancer diagnosis a couple of days earlier. Although I was shocked something like...

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I Couldn't Stay in a Loveless Marriage

(1) Comments | Posted January 22, 2014 | 11:10 AM

I am 32 but people tell me I look 18 or 20. Does that mean time is on my side? No, this piece is not about how kind time has been to my face. On the contrary, people tell me I need to "loosen up," I think too much, I...

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