Vedavati M.
Vedavati M., a.k.a. The Cultural Misfit, is a stay-at-home-mom who revels in her various avatars (chef, mentor, friend, playmate, arts and crafts buddy, puppeteer, milk machine, comforter, and more) for her toddler. Her secondary pursuits include writing and exploring new experiences. Somewhere in the mix, she remembers to be a wife. You can follow her travails at

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My Post-Baby Body Doesn't Feel Like It Belongs To Me

(7) Comments | Posted July 25, 2016 | 9:52 AM

I don't hate my body. It doesn't disgust me.

It just feels not mine.

When I look in the mirror, I see lopsided breasts, folds of skin laying on each other like tired seals lounging at the beach.

Thighs with stretch marks. Hips that somehow tripled during my pregnancy and...

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Parenting Is Not A Burden (No Matter What My So-Called Friends Say)

(1) Comments | Posted June 2, 2016 | 11:14 AM

As a first-time parent, I expected the worst.

During my pregnancy and right after birth there were a lot of "warnings" about the havoc my little monster would create.

How I wouldn't be able to function without sleep, how she would suck the life out of me (literally), how this...

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What Do You Do When Your Baby's No Longer A Baby?

(0) Comments | Posted May 11, 2016 | 3:58 PM

Yesterday, at preschool, you took off to the play kitchen to make pretend muffins on your own.

For 11 minutes afterward, I sat on the bench outside the classroom, 55 steps away from you. Waiting. Holding my breath. Checking the clock every 30 seconds.

I imagined you mixing the batter,...

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When Parenting Took Over Our Marriage

(15) Comments | Posted April 26, 2016 | 1:37 PM

Everyone goes through that phase as a new parent where marriage inadvertently goes to sulk in a dark corner of the basement, hidden by cobwebs, grieving alone, its sobs stifled by the baby's gassy cries. Mine was no different.

Caring for a newborn takes gargantuan effort, patience and sheer physical...

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Parents Are Just As Selfish As Child-Free Couples

(24) Comments | Posted April 15, 2016 | 11:56 AM

hugging baby girl

The most selfish thing I have done is choosing to be a parent.

When I got married 14 years ago, I had no intention of ever being a mom.

Two years into our marriage, the questions began. And as we approached our...

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8 Life Lessons My Toddler Is Teaching Me

(2) Comments | Posted March 31, 2016 | 11:00 AM

As a mother, I knew that I would be expected to teach my child valuable life lessons. To raise an empathetic, responsible, and curious citizen of the world would be my charge, my responsibility, my social obligation.

What I didn't realize was that this educational endeavour wasn't going to...

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Stop Judging My Parenting!

(19) Comments | Posted March 22, 2016 | 9:19 AM

I co-sleep. Still

I baby wear. Still

I nurse. Still

I am a stay-at-home mom. Still!

And I am tired of telling all of you who express their concern that I'm creating an over dependent, shy, unsociable child that, at almost two-years-old, she is doing just fine developmentally. Thank you...

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