04/01/2014 01:14 EDT | Updated 04/01/2014 01:59 EDT

17 Things Brides Should NOT Expect From Bridesmaids

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Choosing your bridesmaids and asking them to be part of your big day is an important undertaking for any bride. She's choosing the people who know her the best, the friends who can name off your food allergies and keep your embarrassing stories from university locked up in a safe.

Agreeing to be a bridesmaid is a big task as well — there can be a lot of pressure to ensure everything before the wedding and on the day of goes smoothly. notes open communication and being honest with the bride are the best ways to ensure the wedding is stress-free for everyone.

In the past few years, films like "Bridesmaids" and "Bachelorette" have attempted to show us the reality of being a bridesmaid: Sometimes you're broke, sometimes you hate weddings, but most of the time, you just want to see the bride truly happy.

Brides, as much as you want your wedding day to be the best day of your life, a lot it starts with your bridesmaids. Here are 17 things brides should never expect from their bridal party ... or anyone, for that matter: