09/09/2014 11:44 EDT | Updated 09/09/2014 11:59 EDT

Janay Palmer, Ray Rice's Wife, Makes Statement As #WhyIStayed Explores Domestic Abuse

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OWINGS MILLS, MD - MAY 23: Janay Rice, the wife of running back Ray Rice of the Baltimore Ravens (not pictured) looks on during a news conference at the Ravens training center on May 23, 2014 in Owings Mills, Maryland. Rice spoke publicly for the first time since facing felony assault charges stemming from a February incident involving Janay at an Atlantic City casino. (Photo by Rob Carr/Getty Images)

Throughout the months-long ordeal that's resulted in the termination of NFL player Ray Rice from the Baltimore Ravens due to a recently surfaced domestic abuse video, one voice has remained quiet: that of Rice's wife, Janay Palmer.

Today, she broke that silence with a statement originally published on her now-private Instagram account, and posted to the public by the Baltimore Sun:

"I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I'm mourning the death of my closest friend," Janay Rice wrote. "But to have to accept the fact that it's reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that [the] media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass [off] for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific."

In February, TMZ released a video showing Rice appearing to drag Palmer unconscious from a casino elevator in Atlantic City, NJ. Rice and Palmer were both arrested in February following the incident, and Rice was suspended for two games, and the Ravens' tweeted out a now-deleted statement on behalf of Janay Palmer, saying she "deeply regrets the role she played in the incident that night."

Palmer married Rice at the end of June, four months after the incident in the elevator took place. A full video emerged Monday of Rice punching Palmer in the face in the elevator, and Rice was suspended indefinitely from the league.

From Palmer's statement, it's clear she is standing by Rice. What's less obvious is how often this occurs for women in domestic violence situations, and what that means.

According to Doorways, a domestic violence organization, an abuser will hit their partner an average of 35 times before police are notified, and it can take an average of seven times to attempt leaving before doing so for good. Meanwhile, a vast majority of those who are being abused at home stay with their partners, for reasons that range from having children together to still being in love in them.

Of course, the question shouldn't be "Why does a woman stay?" but instead, "Why is her partner hurting her?" Following Rice's arrest, two social media trends emerged on Twitter: one stating #WhyIStayed, and the other #WhyILeft. It's a rare insight into the secret, silent world of domestic abuse, and a step toward seeing just how pervasive the problem truly is.