05/08/2015 03:22 EDT | Updated 05/11/2015 01:59 EDT

How To Orgasm Without Stress


The orgasm: it's amazing if you get there and amazingly frustrating if you don't.

If you're one of the many who has trouble reaching orgasms for one reason or another — and nearly all of us have likely been in this position at some point in our sex lives — then you know that it's the kind of problem that's hard to ignore.

The Female Orgasm Survey conducted by Cosmopolitan magazine last month found 57 per cent of women orgasm every time they had sex with a partner, while the same women reported their male partners reached an orgasm 95 per cent of the time, according to Half of those women also reported they did get close to an orgasm, but just couldn't quite cross the finish line.

Reaching an orgasm is so important to most of us that there are entire courses, product lines, and publishing categories dedicated to making it happen. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin, for example, has an entire online course dedicated to helping women orgasm — sometimes for the first time. And while something like this seems ambitious, not everyone has the time.

What can you do at home, tonight, to make the big O more likely to happen? Here are nine tips on reaching orgasm without stress.

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