I had the pleasure of interviewing Aeryon Ashlie ahead of her presentation at the West Coast Women's Show on the topic of how to create a fit family. Aeryon is a recovered bulimic who works as a professional in the supplement industry. She is a returning speaker whose talk about moving from bulimia to balance was very well received last year.
Historically, Aeryon was a highly successful fitness competitor and now, as a single mom, she's sharing her wisdom of how she makes it all work with a family. From one mom to another, I appreciated her candour and kindness. These were some of the highlights of our informative conversation:
- Exercise self-compassion.
Be kind to yourself, and remind yourself that you are doing the best you can. Don't beat yourself up or judge yourself too harshly. Protect yourself from people who tear you down and reinforce healthy boundaries about what you accept.
- Exercise together.
- Everything in moderation.
- Make a plan.
- Be a role model. Healthy kids need healthy moms to look up to. As a parent, it's important to be the person you want your kids to be. You can do this by modelling fitness as part of your daily life and normalizing healthy activity. Help your kids create healthy habits.
Get active as a family. Working out together is a great way to squeeze your workouts in without squeezing out family time. Even if you're doing a workout you don't particularly love, it's more enjoyable when you're in the company of the people you do love.
Build in cheat days into whatever plan you implement to get yourself feeling healthy. Moderation is so important. Dark chocolate, wine and laying around watching Netflix all have their place, even in the life of a fitness girl. Also, modify the things you love to make them just a little bit healthier -- like skipping less-healthy movie popcorn for homemade popcorn that doesn't have the same additives that add to your waistline. Pay attention to portion sizes -- consider if you need a whole chocolate bar or if a mini-sized one will hit the spot when you're craving something sweet.
Be prepared so you will stay on plan and achieve your goals. It's like the old adage says -- fail to plan, plan to fail. Keeping healthy food and snacks readily on hand eliminates the temptation to eat things that don't support your desired outcomes. Make healthy eating easy! When you're planning, make sure you use smart objectives so you stay on track and can measure your progress. Start small and build on your successes.
While exceptionally accomplished and highly knowledgeable in her field, Aeryon was equally gracious and down to earth. Given my own history with eating disorder recovery, I was really looking forward to learning from her perspective.
We discussed the non-linear nature of recovery and the need to exercise self-compassion in the recovery process. She was kind enough to share her advice on maintaining recovery: creating structure, avoiding triggers and recognizing that for many it is an ongoing struggle.
So often you hear of female fitness competitors developing eating disorders on the stage, while her experience was different. She found that competition gave her the structure she needed to stay healthy, then she struggled with rebounding post-show and the lack of structure after. I appreciated her honesty on a highly personal topic and was personally encouraged from the experience of speaking with someone who understands.
You can create a fit family -- and Aeryon speaking at the West Coast Women's Show is a great way to start that journey.
Aeryon is going to be speaking on the Health and Wellness Stage Saturday and Sunday at the West Coast Women's Show in Abbotsford, B.C., which runs from October 21-23, 2016.
A version of this post originally appeared on Sparkly Shoes and Sweat Drops.
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