You've probably heard that Marilyn Monroe was a size 14.
Or a size 16, or a size 12, or a size 10, depending on who you ask.
Whatever number someone quotes you, the message is always the same: our standards of beauty have changed, and not for the better. The women whose bodies we worship now are thin and sickly, all of them suffering from eating disorders. Things aren't how they were before, when we appreciated "real," "normal," "average" bodies. Our current standards of beauty should serve as evidence of how deeply fucked up our society is; we ought to return to our parents' and grandparents' ideals.
This whole concept is so popular that there have been a string of memes made about it:
You know what makes me say fuck society? The fact that we think it's totally cool to compare two women and declare one of them the champion of sexy. Because you know what's super empowering to women? Telling them that there's only one right way to be.
Beauty standards in the past may have been different than today, but that doesn't mean they were better. They still offered a narrow, rigid idea about what made a woman attractive, and anyone who didn't fit that ideal was not good enough. Why do we have the idea that the past was some kind of magical time when women had it easier in the looks department? Because let me tell you something: when it comes to their appearance, women can never, ever, ever fucking win. They're always too old, or too fat, or too thin, or too tall, or too short or some combination of the above. It doesn't matter if we're talking about now, or 50 years ago, or 100 years ago, the story is always the same: women can never win.
I see people swooning over shit like the picture below, and I want to tear my hair out with frustration.
This is not some kind of revolutionary fat-positive advertisement, it's the same old shit we're being sold day in and day out, just packaged in a different way. Stuff like this isn't so very different from all the diets pushed on women today -- both are ways of making women feel bad for whatever size they are. Both are ways of making money off of women by encouraging them to feel that their bodies are wrong or inadequate. Shaming one body type in order to promote another is never acceptable, no matter how you do it. There should never be a right way or wrong way for a person to look. All bodies are good bodies. I seriously cannot emphasize that enough.
All bodies are good bodies. All bodies are real bodies. All bodies are worthy of love and respect.
And if I hear one more person talk about how much "healthier" women looked in the past, I'm going to start flipping tables. You can't tell how healthy someone is just by looking at them. There seems to be a lot of confusion surrounding that fact, so let me repeat it: you cannot tell how healthy someone is just by looking at them. Unless you are someone's doctor, unless you have run extensive tests and made note of their blood pressure and their iron levels and their thyroid function, you have no idea how healthy another person is. This applies to all people everywhere -- you have no way of knowing if a fat person exercises or eats vegetables just by glancing at them, and you can't tell if a skinny person has an eating disorder based on the circumference of her waist.
I'm not saying that our society's obsession with skinny women is anything other than problematic -- the recent spike in eating disorders can almost certainly be attributed to how pressured women feel to be a certain size. We're obsessed with thinness, and that obsession permeates nearly every aspect of our culture, from how food is branded and marketed to us, to "vanity sizing" in clothing, to every headline ever in women's magazines promising to tell you how to lose weight, how to keep the weight off, and which celebrities lost their "baby weight" the fastest.
Our attitudes towards weight and size are actively harmful to women, and I seriously cannot overstate my concern about girls and young women growing up in this climate. I think we've only just started to see the detrimental effects of our infatuation with thinness, and unless a major societal sea-change happens, things are only going to get worse.
None of this means that we should be criticizing thin bodies, because all bodies are good bodies. Some people are naturally quite thin, and making comments about how unhealthy they look is pointless and hurtful. And if someone genuinely is unhealthy? If someone has an eating disorder? How do you think they will end up perceiving their comments, when their disease is warping how they view body size in general and their own body in particular? I can promise you that any remarks you make will do them more harm than good.
I would wager that all women feel fucked up about their bodies, and sometimes tearing down another body shape (especially if that shape is the status quo) in order to build yours up can seem like the fastest and easiest way to make yourself feel better. But seriously, you guys, we have to get out of this cycle of putting each other down, criticizing each others' looks, and making each other feel bad. The best way to fight the patriarchy is to stand united. The best way to empower ourselves is to celebrate all body types. The best way to fuck with beauty standards is not to change them, but to do away with them all together.
And the best, most feminist thing that we can do is to love ourselves just as we are and refuse to let anyone profit off of our insecurities.
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