On Saturday, August 29, I turn 30. Three-oh. Twenty plus ten years. The age in which you are completely responsible for your own actions and can't, in any way, shape, or form, blame it on your "turbulent twenties" or "being young." That's why here, in the spirit of turning 30 and basking in life lessons, I present: 30 things I learned about style over the course of the last 30 years.
Anne T. Donahue
Anne T. Donahue is a writer and person from Cambridge, Ontario. She's written for Cosmopolitan, Allure, Esquire, Nylon, and Playboy among others, and her first book, Nobody Cares will be out with ECW in September 2018.
My friend and I were telling her boyfriend a few weeks ago about being harassed in places like the grocery store, the mall, on the street, in the bank, at a restaurant, etc. etc. etc. and he was <em>horrified</em>. This is because he is a good person who's never thought about doing that to another person. Then I asked, "Well, what do you do when your friend catcalls someone?" and he said he gets very embarrassed. But he didn't tell the guy to stop.
10/27/2014 01:10 EDT
I cried a lot, and slept when I could, and felt like shit. I can't even tell you how shitty I felt because there's actually no way to articulate it. I didn't want to die, but I felt like I was completely out of control, because I was, and that shit is scary. And of course, no one knew. I told no one. I acted fine, just like I still do, because I don't really like to talk about this kind of shit. Those emotions have been catalogued and put away.
08/13/2014 12:39 EDT
The fact that my first incidence of being sexualized was when I was four tells us something about our society. In my case, I've been lucky to be raised by staunch feminists, but even with my dad and mom's messages of "YOU DO YOU, GIRL," I was still smothered by the rape culture that dictates our social values.Rape culture pits us against each other. But the thing is, some of the most outspoken and disgusted people about the Steubenville trial have been men I look up to and men I am friends with. The women? Well, we're tough broads -- we have to be.
03/20/2013 12:14 EDT
Few of us have our shit together now, let alone in our early 20s. And few of us would have the guts to confront our exes, let alone our famous ones, in songs performed in front of full stadiums. No, it might not be how you or I would handle things, but it's the way Taylor Swift does. And at no point has she ever tried to pretend to be someone she's not.
11/22/2012 12:33 EST
Chris Brown's recent neck tattoo sparked yet another media firestorm. But hundreds of pieces have already been written about Chris Brown, which only fuel him. Maybe now is the time that we finally put a mark in the Chris Brown "lose" column, but channel our own anger, frustration and feelings of helplessness into actually helping. And for the sake of human rights, we can stop buying his music.
09/11/2012 04:57 EDT
If having liked boy bands is wrong, I don't want to be right. Because let's face it: pop music is great. Pop music gets you through angst and through hormones and through all of those terrible factors that define "turbulent teens," but pop music by boy bands does a little bit more.
09/06/2012 09:31 EDT
When my friend got over the Spice Girls, I was crushed. Not only did the Spice Girls represent something I wanted desperately to be a part of (a group of friends, to begin with), but our love of the band was something we shared. True, neither of us was popular, and our obsession with the Fab Five seemed completely insane, but we were in it together. And then all of a sudden it wasn't "cool."
08/13/2012 12:37 EDT
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